By BloggerT7165
I am a survivor. And I am thankful for that.
It’s not something I take for granted because I know there are many who do not survive the abuse that is inflicted by their loved ones, trusted spouses or friends or parents. This is a hurtful experience that literally kills people. And if the wound itself doesn’t kill, then the infection that follows from the collusion of friends, neighbors, confidants, professionals, and others will many times finish off the job.
Every abuse story is a tragic one, but the stories of those who successfully commit suicide are among the most heart-wrenching of all. Many abuse victims survive in body, but are lost in other ways. Lost to the pain. Lost to drugs or alcohol. Lost to self-destructive behaviors. Lost to depression. Lost to fear and isolation.
I am filled with gratitude. I came out on the other side of the pain, suffering and darkness, still alive and somewhat sane. Whatever pain I may have, I am grateful for the capacity to feel that pain and for the ability to speak of it. I pray that my voice may help others and may work for good.
I am thankful for the life I live. I am thankful for the goodness of the people who surround me. I am thankful there are caring people like those I have seen on LF. I am thankful to be able to agree or disagree, I am thankful for all the goodness I see in the world even when it seems so dark.
Than you Donna, Dr. Leedom, Dr Steve, Steve and everyone else on Love Fraud for caring.
Hey Oxy, if she were my daughter … I’d tell her their was an emergency situation going on at home … to get her butt home … meanwhile, I’d have a cruise planned for the family members, with her ticket included … solo .. that would last a few weeks … just kidnap the kid.
It’s not like her mom isn’t figuring this stuff out and is blinded to what’s happening now … her eyes are opening. What, a judge is going to put the woman in prison for paying for her grown daughters cruise for 3 weeks … a month?
Peace.
Dear Wini,
If it were only that simple! (Sigh.) In this case, he might not actually “let” her come home no matter who was dying. Secondly, when she came, HE WOULD COME WITH HER, to make sure no one talked to her about HIM (remember it is all about them) and as soon as the lie was discovered, they would be out of there and he would reinforce the fact that her parents were liars–see, and ONLY HE could protect her. (sigh again)
Your “problem” Wini, is that you are too nice a person! LOL Maybe you should take some “mean” lessons so you can figure out how these people work! LOL Comm’ona my house and I’ll teach you! Mean 101! LOL
I know Oxy, I don’t have a mean bone in my body … but, I do know mean spirited folks, remember? I lived the last 30 years with it in work and then some (remember my EX???).
Besides, you never know what is going to work or what isn’t. Maybe, just maybe … pray to God … that he has his guard down or is planning on visiting another GW that exact weekend when the urgent call comes in … and he lets her go on her own back home for the weekend/week because he’s already focused on his selfish need to get out of the house for the weekend.
It’s having the few weeks to explain, then show her this site … let her sit in front of a computer for a few nights reading all our bloggs and all the articles on here. That will knock SOME sense in to her … maybe not right away … but it’s that tell you something one day, then having the victim walk right back in with the perp that DOES NOT work … cause he’s in there erasing the new information she was told … and he has more access to her to explain away any conversation she could have had with family or friends.
She needs to be away from him for more than 2 weeks, not just a weekend or a week … 2 – 3 weeks.
Hey, I gave it my best shot.
Peace.
Wini and Oxy:
You made me laugh!!! Kidnapping for a loooong cruise. She does like cruises, though?!?
Seriously, you know how they have places you can take your kid to, to have them deprogrammed from being in a cult. What kind of place could you take your kid to, to find out they are married to a s/p? Maybe Oxy should think about that for her farm.
You could have so many hours of reading the blog, scheduled time with people giving testimonies of their own experiences, experts unwinding the lies in her head. Kind of like a psychology bootcamp.
I heard this today
You can choose to do right or wrong But you do not get to Choose the Consequences of your choice! I liked that I think?! :)~
onajourney: You got it … that’s what her acres are going to be all about … getting away from abuse … any kind of abuse.
While you take your daughter on vacation for 3 weeks … have her blog on here … we’ll talk to her and do a Cher routine “SNAP OUT OF IT”. Believe me, you’ve seen all the comments everyone has … She’d get an education in ONE night. LOL.
So … go buy yourself a laptop … figure out how to use it … make sure it’s packed with you … for fun on the cruise ship. I’m sure they have computer libraries on cruise ships too.
Then have him prove a vacation for 3 weeks with the family, aunts, grandmothers … make sure you have all her women folks involved to surround her with good advice … was a kidnapping. Yeah, right your honor, the entire family’s been planning this vacation for months now and my girlfriend at the last minute canceled out … the ticket and room were already paid for … so we talked our daughter into using it… we wouldn’t take no for an answer.
Peace.
Indi: Is that anything like “I think, therefore, I think I am”? Popeye! Or something along that line … it was stupid to begin with (LOL).
Hey Indie,
I like that quote! Simple but so very true!
Dear Indie,
PROFOUND!!
QUOTE: You can choose to do right or wrong, but you don’t get to choose the consequences of your choice.
AIN’T THAT THE LIVING TRUTH!!!!