Who stands in the way of the new America? Sociopaths.

Yesterday, for the first time in my life, I made a point of watching television as a new American president took his oath of office. I wanted to hear what Barak Obama had to say in his inaugural address.

The new president’s message was a recognition of the problems confronting this country, and optimism that, through dedication and hard work, they can be overcome.

“Today I say to you that the challenges we face are real. They are serious and they are many. They will not be met easily or in a short span of time. But know this, America—they will be met.”

I was moved to tears, and barely maintained my composure through the 17-minute speech.

“Starting today, we must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and begin again the work of remaking America.”

Addressing our problems

Obama talked about the need for those who manage public dollars to be held to account, restoring the trust between people and government.

He recalled earlier generations who faced down fascism and communism:

“They knew that our power grows through its prudent use; our security emanates from the justness of our cause, the force of our example, the tempering qualities of humility and restraint.”

Obama addressed leaders in countries torn by conflict:

“To those who cling to power through corruption and deceit and the silencing of dissent, know that you are on the wrong side of history.”

But to me, the core of his message was a return to our most deeply held values:

“Our challenges may be new. The instruments with which we meet them may be new. But those values upon which our success depends—hard work and honesty, courage and fair play, tolerance and curiosity, loyalty and patriotism—these things are old. These things are true. They have been the quiet force of progress throughout our history. What is demanded then is a return to these truths.”

Sociopaths smirk

To sociopaths, of course, hard work, honesty, courage, fair play, tolerance, loyalty and patriotism, are not values to live by, but the marks of easy prey.

Sociopaths view public dollars as personal ATM machines. Power has nothing to do with humility and restraint; power means take-no-prisoners victory, no matter who gets trampled or killed along the way. Corruption and deceit are not crimes, they’re strategy.

So while 96 percent of us watched the speech hoping that Obama could pull it off and lead us to a better future, approximately 4 percent of the population, the sociopaths, smirked at our joy, hope and optimism.

They quickly started calculating the next angle, the next scam—like how to get a hunk of $800 billion in bailout money.

Sociopaths in politics

One of the big problems, of course, is that our government is littered with sociopaths. Here on Lovefraud, we’ve written about politicians who seemed to exhibit sociopathic traits:

  1. Rod Blagojevich, the Illinois governor who apparently tried to sell Obama’s senate seat.
  2. Eliot Spitzer, the former New York governor caught with a call girl, and known for steamrolling his way through the state legislature.
  3. Vincent J. Fumo, the Pennsylvania state senator now on trial for 139 counts of fraud, conspiracy, obstruction of justice and filing false tax returns.
  4. James McGreevey, the former New Jersey governor who resigned, claiming he was being blackmailed he was gay. In my view, it was a claim designed to distract attention from his political collapse.

Sociopaths are drawn to politics. No experience or qualifications are necessary to become a politician. They just need to be smooth talkers, and make promises that they don’t necessarily have to keep.

Politicians have the opportunity to engage in power plays far beyond the scope of most of our lives. It’s a job tailor-made for sociopaths, because all they really want is power.

What we can do

Given the truth about these disordered people that those of us who have experienced them know, what can we do? I have some suggestions:

  1. Educate yourself about sociopaths. All of us here at Lovefraud are doing this. But we should educate ourselves not only to recover from our personal traumas and improve our private lives, but to recognize sociopathic behavior in the public arena.
  2. Educate other people about sociopaths. This is best done after you are fairly well along in your own recovery, and can talk about the disorder without emotion. When you have your facts straight about sociopaths, and can calmly discuss the sociopath in your own life, people listen.
  3. Do not vote for sociopaths. If you become aware of sociopathic traits in someone who is running for office, do what you can to make sure he or she does not get elected. If all you can do is withhold your vote, fine. If you can do more, even better.

In my view, many of the problems society faces can be attributed to the self-serving, power-mongering behavior of sociopaths. Perhaps if we can shed light on this dangerous personality disorder and circumvent the people who think only of themselves, the goals Obama has set for America can be achieved.

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Star, so wise words and so much wisdom in them! I congratulate as I know that it is hard earned wisdom!

Skylar, you are spot on too! An old German man said to me when I was a small girl: “Beware of “-isms”, under which wonderful premise and promise they may come”. I often think of him lately.

I live in a country (in)-famous for its banks, and we have a huge discussion how to proceed with controlling them at least a little bit so that the things which happened last year won’t repeat. We as taxpayers had to pay LOTS to bail the big ones out. (the small ones did pretty well because of the owner’s liability system). Seems that the remedy will be late, as the system is in full steam again and the discussions are SLOW.

For me the system small banks have, with bonus AND MALUS (you get junk if you fail), and unrestricted liability with their own money could do the trick. And a good boss on top with high ethics and strict control among themselves.

But you are right, Star, greed starts also at home. Greed in Socialism is even worse, because it has a moral touch. If you know the book “Animal farm”, it is very well described the privileges among the elite. So sick. My definition was a joke by the way, you get conned in either system 😉

Everybody has to see for himself whether he will participate in this rat race again. (and the state should make it crystal clear of NOT BAILING OUT ANYBODY!!) I think if you want the wild west so have it, with Lynch-justice and Darwin’s law and bullets and high noon and all! I prefer my dull stupid unrich little life.

Error: I meant to say “scorpions” and not “scorpios” about 5 posts ago. Oops. Didn’t mean to offend any scopios here. I have 4 planets in Scorpio myself. lol

Libelle, thanks for reminding me of the book “Animal Farm”. I read it as a child but didn’t understand it ramifications at the time.

Skylar, I agree that throwing money at poor and unmotivated people, such as what our welfare system has become, is not the answer either. That’s why our current administration has such a tough challenge. What do we do with all these people sucking off the system? They know how to play the system to get what they want. That is also a form of sociopathy.

I keep coming back to something Ox Drover said on this thread back in January. Reform starts with ourselves. I grew up Jewish and have never been a Christian. But I find many of the things in the Bible to be profound. I like the part about the meek inheriting the earth. I think when we listen to our own conscience and check our own egos, we already inherit the earth. What does this mean? It doesn’t mean we inherit money and riches. it means we inherit a clean conscience and a lightness in our heart. I think it’s a TRAP of ego to sit around discussing how greedy other people are and not looking for our own greed. That does not mean we cannot vote for legislation to limit the power of the wealthiest few. But it is not a substitute for cleaning our own house first, as Oxy once said (the wise woman that she is!).

When I started doing my own housecleaning after the sociopath and another failed affair, know what I discovered? When I got real honest with myself, I found that–growing up with narcissistic parents–I had some narcissistic traits myself. When I discovered this, I knew I had to stop pointing the finger at them because they were also a product of their narcissistic upbringing. I knew then that the work was to change MY OWN behaviors. This was my wake-up call. Ironically, at the same time I started becoming politically aware. I feel change must occur at both levels–the level of self and the level of society.

I also want to add that I don’t see the vacant empty soulless look in Obama’s eyes that I see in the eyes of other sociopaths. He does not strike me as a sociopath. But he could also be prevented from really executing his agenda (and keeping his promises) due to other political factors. Also, as a young and ambitious president, he could have overpromised just because he didn’t realize how hard it would be to follow through on some of those promises.

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