I sat in the small, tastefully furnished room and listened to the tick”¦tick”¦tick of the clock. I had long since stopped listening to the conversation going on around me.
This was not the way it was supposed to be. I stepped into the psychologist’s office less than a half hour earlier full of optimism and hope. Unfortunately, I was, once again, realizing how naive I had been.
Back in 1994, Dorothy Barnett lost custody of her still-nursing 9 1/2-month-old daughter to her ex-husband, Benjamin Harris Todd.
According to news reports, when Barnett became pregnant, Todd originally wanted her to terminate it. Then, as they split up, Todd painted her as mentally deficient, and convinced the court in Charleston, South Carolina, to award him custody.
Fearing for her daughter’s safety, Barnett took her and disappeared for almost 20 years. In November, she was located in Australia and arrested for parental kidnapping.
The child, now called Samantha Geldenhuys, 20, never knew of her history. For the first time, she tells her story on Australian TV.
Editor’s Note: This letter was sent in by Lovefraud reader “truelove.”
Wow where to start. I am in my 40s and started dating a girl in her late 20s back in April 2013. I had met her a couple years ago and thought she was a nice, caring person. We started dating and things got hot and heavy really fast. It was like a fun roller coaster ride, but little did I realize she had plans to purposely make it jump the tracks once I was most vulnerable and hooked.
Steven Palladino (left), with wife Lori and son Gregory at their sentencing. (Photo by Jessica Rinaldi for Boston Globe.)
Steven Palladino, his wife, Lori, and their son, Gregory, were all sentenced for running a Ponzi scheme, taking about $10 million from dozens of friends and neighbors.
Steven Palladino, the ringleader, blew the money on gambling trips to Las Vegas, expensive cars and rent for his mistress. When his lawyer claimed Palladino was sorry, victims in the courtroom scoffed. One victim called Palladino a sociopath.
I’ve been looking for a book to help you heal from the devastating betrayal of a sociopath. I finally found it.
Living and Loving After Betrayal How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment, by Steven Stosny, Ph.D., is the best explanation I’ve ever read of how betrayal affects you emotionally and psychologically, and how to recover from it. In fact, I am so impressed with this book that we are now carrying it in the Lovefraud bookstore.
Why it hurts
Stosny starts the book by explaining why intimate betrayal hurts so much.
Editor’s note: The following was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “LouAnn.” She had no choice but to deal with a psychopath.
1. Psychopaths need stimulation. They like “fireworks.” Don’t give it to them. Either do not respond to them at all, or give them very calm, professional responses. This is called “non-reward” and it will become much less fun to bully you.
2. When you do respond, respond slowly. Psychopaths need instant gratification. Making them wait for your response is not fun or stimulating for them.
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Paul Cassell, a University of Utah Law Professor, is scheduled to make an argument in front of the U.S. Supreme Court that any person who views or distributes a pornographic image of a child should be held liable for restitution to the exploited child.
If the court rules in favor of this issue, to be determined would be whether each offender found guilty of the charge would be required to pay the full restitution amount awarded by the court, or a proportionate amount based on the offense.
Daisy Coleman went public about her rape, at the age of 14, by a 17-year-old classmate.
After rape victim Daisy Coleman’s third suicide attempt, the teen’s mother spoke out about her family. “I’m here to tell you that if you speak ill of my family or to my daughter, I want you to know that you are a coward and a bully and you are contributing to the evil in this world.”
Coleman chronicles how, not only her daughter, but the whole family, has been impacted by the incident. Standing strong, the family has adopted the mantra the deceased father, Dr. Michael Coleman instilled in them: “Nobody is left behind. If somebody falls behind, we’re going to pick them up. And that’s what we’re going to do with our family.”
Joanna Dennehy and her alleged accomplice Gary ‘Stretch’ Richards, 47, are on trial at Cambridge Crown Court for the murder of three men and the attempted murder of two more.
During her trial, several “selfie” photos were shown of Dennehy holding a knife, which she used on her victims. When asked why she had killed, Dennehy responded: ‘They shouldn’t have pissed me off, they shouldn’t have flirted with me.”
Three other accomplices pleaded guilty to some involvement in the murders as well.