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“Systemic pattern” of sex abuse at Horace Mann, elite NYC prep school

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Horace Mann was, and remains, one of New York City's most rigorous and respected private prep schools. But over the last few years, 63 students have come forward with allegations that they were sexually abused by 22 former Horace Mann staff members. The incidents allegedly took place between 1962 and 1996. The Bronx district attorney said they found a "systemic pattern" of alleged sexual abuse but can't  prosecute because the statute of limitations ran out. An investigative report was due to be released last month, but there is no mention of it on the Internet. School sexual abuse survivors end decades of secrecy, on People.com. Bronx D.A. finds 'systemic pattern' of abuse at Horace M …

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International bigamist con man Will Jordan pleads guilty to theft by deception

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MT. HOLLY, NEW JERSEY William Allen Jordan, 49, of Cherry Hill, New Jersey, pleaded guilty to theft by deception Monday, admitting that he pretended to be an official from the U.K. to convince a woman to give him money. In a plea bargain, Jordan admitted that he took $4,383 from Mischele Lewis, 36, of Florence Township, New Jersey. Jordan accepted a sentence of three years in a New Jersey state prison. He was ordered to pay Mischele restitution of $4,383. He agreed to have no contact with Mischele or her family. He waived his right to appeal the case. Sentencing was set for February 6, 2015. Fake identity When Jordan and Mischele met online in January 2013, he told her, in a …

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Journaling keeps you grounded so you don’t fall down the rabbit hole into Wonderland – where you are ‘wondering’ if it is real or not

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Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "GoldenGirl.” I remember my first red flag. We were walking to his car on a first date after about three months of telephone conversation after we first met. I was so shocked by what “I” blurted out, that I ignored my own advice. As we were close to his car, I turned to him and said, for no specific reason, “If you ever lie to me I will leave you.” I immediately apologized and said, “I don't know where that came from! I have never said anything like that to someone before in my life.” It is five years later and I dearly wish that I had followed my own advice. I was 65 at the time, had not …

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Brad Robinson: Are you being tracked while in your vehicle?

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By Brad Robinson, Private Investigator Increasingly, we are contacted by clients who are convinced that their sociopath is tracking or monitoring them even when they are alone in their vehicle. Sometimes this is merely the imagination of someone who (often with good reason) has become frightened and a bit paranoid. Often we are able to determine that their ex (or a friend or relative he has co-opted or a private investigator he has hired) is physically surveilling our client. Increasingly, however, our investigation reveals that our client has become the victim of technical surveillance, i.e., a device has been secretly installed on/in their vehicle. GPS = Global Positioning System By …

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Forgive or don’t forgive; that is the question

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Peg Streep, a New York City based writer and author or coauthor of nine books, explores the complicated concept of forgiveness Her findings come from concentrating on the psychological point of view of three questions: What is forgiveness, anyway? Is forgiveness an evolutionary step forward? Does forgiving make you a doormat? She also addresses the questions, why do humans forgive and, when they do, how do they hope to benefit? When You Should and Should Not Forgive, from Psychology Today. Link supplied by Lovefraud reader. …

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Letter to the next target

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A Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "new_day" knows the next target her sociopathic ex has lined up. New_day and the sociopath divorced when their son was one year old. He then left the next girlfriend before their baby's first birthday. He just proposed to the current girlfriend. It really bothers new_day to sit back and watch. She wants to warn the woman, but doesn't dare, because then she will be back in the drama. Here's what new_day would like to say to her ex-husband's next target: Do you catch yourself wondering why he tells those little white lies; I mean about things that aren't even worth lying about? Or why he is so secretive about things that aren't even worth lying ab …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Alone. Exhausted. Lonely. Stressed. Stuck.

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Editor's note: This letter was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Billyjean.” All names in this letter have been changed. Donna Andersen will comment on this story tomorrow. When I met "Joseph," I had been through my fair share of heartbreak. I was a single mum with a five-year-old little girl, who had little contact with her dad, a Swedish national, and, as I was from overseas, I had no family here. No grandma and grandpa for her, no aunties or uncles. I had to be everything. I did my best to give her a happy home. Dating as a single parent is tricky. You have to consider carefully when is the right time to introduce a prospective new partner to your little one …

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National teen relationship survey reveals dating abuse common

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The National Institute of Justice sponsored the National Survey on Teen Relationships and Intimate Violence, which was conducted by a group at the University of Chicago. The survey revealed that nearly 25 million adolescents consider themselves victims of some sort of abuse and 23 million consider themselves perpetrators of abuse. Bruce Taylor, one of two lead researchers for the survey, said the overall abuse figures were higher than previous national studies of dating abuse, revealing “the startlingly widespread nature of the problem." Abuse among dating teens pervasive, fed survey finds, from The Detroit News.   …

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It is so painful to know that the whole relationship was not real

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Terry Ann.” Other names in this post have also been changed. He is as romantic and alluring as his designer label name sounds. I met “PQ” on Millionaire Match.com. His profile states he was born in Milan, Italy, I wasn't seeking a millionaire. I wanted a man with a respectable job, status, and stability. We had a whirlwind romance in a two-week period of time before he suddenly had to move from Bradenton, Florida to Couer D'Alene, Idaho. I clearly remember his first phone call to me. His accent was sexy, romantic, and sweet. Within moments, he boldly asked me personal questions, but he was so nice, …

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‘The Stir’ posts about warning signs of a secret life

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Donna Andersen was recently interviewed for an article on "The Stir," part of Cafemom.com. They include: Your gut is telling you something's wrong He disappears or travels a lot He has unreasonable boundaries He lies and keeps secrets The author, Kiri Blakeley, did a great job.You'll want to read the story: 10 scary signs your man is living a secret life, on TheStir.Cafemom.com. …

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