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By November 24, 2016 9 Comments

On Thanksgiving, the energy of gratitude


Photo by Jack Moreh

Photo by Jack Moreh

One of the most healing energies of the universe is gratitude. No matter what your situation, finding something to be grateful for can help you move forward.

This may seem difficult, especially if you’ve recently discovered that you’ve been betrayed by a sociopath. But even under these circumstances, you can be grateful that you have finally learned the truth.

My own experience with a sociopath was shattering. But one thing that was demolished was the wall I had built around myself. With that gone, I was able to move forward and find true love and companionship, and for that I am grateful.

Posted in: Donna Andersen
By November 23, 2016 1 Comments

Love scam: Woman targets 92-year-old man, marries him, drains his money

Aloysius Mack, 92, of Schaumburg, Illinois, visited the same McDonalds restaurant every morning for coffee. One day, Sophie Miller sat down across the table from him.

He thought he found love. She found a bank account.

Miller got Mack to pay $80,000 for a laundromat business, $40,000 for a van, got on his bank account and tried to get his home.

In another case from Cook County, Illinois, 79-year-old Benita Manalo married her caretaker, Phil Cantillas, who was 28 years younger. He took $65,000 from her.

The Cook County public guardian said that as baby boomers age, the love scam problem will likely get worse.

Special Free Comfort and Coaching Call on Thanksgiving Day

Amber AultClinical sociologist and Lovefraud CE instructor Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW, will be offering a free coaching call on the US Thanksgiving Day (open to folks from other countries as well).

If you need extra support, strategies, or relationship coaching as we enter the holidays, you’re invited to join this open coaching call November 24. It is scheduled for noon US Central time, 1 pm Eastern, 6pm London/Dublin. 

Here’s how to join:

Attend by phone:
Call in number: 425-440-5100, or 414-203-0452
Guest pin code: 064024#

Attend online:
Event page: http://iTeleseminar.com/91901280
Event page password: thanks

By November 22, 2016 3 Comments

Singapore launches TV commercials and hotline to fight scams

Officials unveil a new anti-scam hotline and TV commercial in Singapore. (Photo: SPF)

Officials unveil a new anti-scam hotline and TV commercial in Singapore. (Photo: SPF)

Scammers are running amok all over the world, but at least in Singapore, authorities are trying to educate people not to fall for them.

In Singapore, victims are losing S$120,000 a day. So the National Crime Prevention Council and the Singapore Police Force have launched a new anti-scam hotline. They are promoting it with television commercials featuring a local celebrity.

The commercial makes three simple points:

  • Do not panic
  • Do not believe the scammers
  • Do not give in to their demands
By November 21, 2016 0 Comments

Holiday sale: Buy one Lovefraud printed book, get a second copy FREE!

Red Flags and Love Fraud_300x300Give the gift of knowledge, understanding and healing to yourself and a friend! For the holiday season, when you buy one Lovefraud printed book, you’ll receive a second book for free!

I am pleased to offer you:

Red Flags of Love Fraud
10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
Two copies for $15.95 you save $23.95!

Red Flags of Love Fraud reveals, for the first time, the tactics of social predators who pursue romantic relationships not for love, but for exploitation. You’ll learn how sociopaths seduce their targets, why it’s hard to escape the relationships, and how you can protect yourself.

By November 20, 2016 4 Comments

25 years later: Mary Jo Buttafuoco, her cheating husband, and the Long Island Lolita

On May 19, 1992, Mary Jo Buttafuoco was shot in the head on the front porch of her home in Massapequa, New York. The assailant was Amy Fisher, a 17-year-old student who was having an affair with Joey Buttafuoco, Mary Jo’s husband.

Luckily, Mary Jo survived. She wrote a book about her experience called, Getting It Through My Thick Skull: Why I Stayed, What I learned, and What Millions of People Involved with Sociopaths Need to Know.

Lovefraud wrote about the book when it came out in 2010. Read the review.

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By November 18, 2016 4 Comments

My sociopathic ex-husband led my son into the lion’s den

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a woman whom we’ll call “Eleanor.” Names have been changed.

The sociopath is my ex-husband. We were married for 10 years, two children, girl and boy. He changed THE DAY we were married.

He has alcohol problem, cheated on me, lies. When I asked him to see marriage counselor, he told me to go by myself. I went for counseling by myself for approximately 4 months and was told, “I can either counsel you to live with him or counsel you to live without him.”

By November 17, 2016 10 Comments

Why our brains don’t see the truth about sociopaths

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 32: So Close And Yet So Far

Having validation that my perception of Paul was as real as any perception could be and not distorted by my bias and any personal baggage was inordinately helpful. Paul had always played the “I have no idea what you are talking about” or the “You must be jealous” cards with me when I broached the subject of his and Anne-Marie’s behavior. I was always too willing to see the grey in any situation, to give Paul the benefit of the doubt.

By November 16, 2016 1 Comments

Retirees: Beware of Internet love scams and computer repair scams


Grandmother using laptop_150x225Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a retired woman who hopes to warn others about the dangers she encountered on the Internet.

In the past, my only contact with psychopaths was in the psychiatric penitentiary where I worked as the librarian, but lately I have been meeting a number of them on the Internet. Most of them approached me through Skype, although several contacted me via other sources.

If some of your readers do not really realize it yet, if approached by a general in the US Army, or any officer in the Army, or captain of a ship, or a doctor in the Middle East for UN or whatever, who is lonely and wants to befriend you, then loves you — DON’T FALL FOR IT!

By November 15, 2016 1 Comments

Georgia man guilty of leaving his toddler in a hot car to die so he could lead a double life

Justin Ross Harris

Justin Ross Harris

Ross Harris, 35, of Cobb County, Georgia, was convicted of murder for leaving his 22-month-old son, Cooper, to die in a hot car.

Harris claimed that he forgot to take the boy to daycare. But prosecutors said he wanted his son out of his life so he could continue his extra-marital affairs.

Evidence showed that Harris sexted other women constantly including the day his son died.

Ross Harris found GUILTY of murdering his 22-month-old son by intentionally leaving him in a hot car for seven hours because the child ‘didn’t fit with his lifestyle,’ on DailyMail.co.uk.

Posted in: Laws and courts

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