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By December 5, 2016 31 Comments

How sociopaths intentionally mess with your mind

Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of nenetus at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I talk to a lot of people who are, or have been, involved with sociopaths. Time and time again they tell me, “I feel like I’m losing my mind.”

This is exactly how sociopaths want you to feel. Why? Because if you are confused and unsure of yourself, you are more pliable. You are easier to control, and what sociopaths want is to control you.

So how do they mess with your mind?

Lies from hello to goodbye

First of all, they lie.

By December 3, 2016 0 Comments

Scandal in the UK: 350 reports of sexual abuse in youth soccer clubs

Barry Bennell (BBC)

Barry Bennell (BBC)

On November 16, Andy Woodward, a former professional soccer player in the United Kingdom, said in an interview with The Guardian that he had been sexually abused by a former coach, Barry Bennell, beginning when he was 11 years old.

Then five more former professional soccer players came forward and stated they had been molested as boys.

Since then, 350 people have reported abuse to British police. And the phone on a new sex abuse hotline just keeps ringing.

Claims of Child Sexual Abuse in English Soccer Grow, on NYTimes.com.




By December 2, 2016 0 Comments

Therapists: Earn 8 Lovefraud CE credits and save 25%

Therapist and patientIf you’re a psychologist or social worker, and you need to earn continuing education credits by the end of the year, Lovefraud CE offers you a bundle of great online webinars at a special price!

Save 25% on the
Helping Clients in Abusive Relationships Bundle
3 courses • 8 credits • $147

Self study webinars are available immediately, or choose the live online replays, scheduled for the following dates:

  1. The Five Step Exit: Tools you need to help clients leave a psychopath, narcissist or other toxic partner
    Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
    Available immediately for self study
By December 1, 2016 6 Comments

How Sociopaths Turn Our Empathy Against Us


Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 33: The Question Is Not What You Look At But What You See (Henry David Thoreau)

By November 30, 2016 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers free online chat room Dec 4th

 Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, Dec. 4th, 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the green highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  Hope to see you there!

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By November 30, 2016 1 Comments

Q&A with attorney Megan Lyons, an expert in court battles with sociopaths

megan-lyons-adMegan Lyons, Esq., who is based in Sarasota, Florida, is the newest member of the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide.

What experience have you had dealing with sociopaths or other disordered personalities—personally, professionally, or both?

I have dealt with pathological sociopaths for most of my life in my personal experience, romantically and in the professional arena. As a result of these life changing experiences and relationships, I committed years to studying sociopathy and the recovery from such insidious and sadistic abuse.

How do you go about helping clients who have tangled with a sociopath? 

By November 29, 2016 11 Comments

Amber Heard, ex-wife of Johnny Depp, speaks out about violence against women

Amber Heard just released a public service announcement video in which she encourages women to speak up if they are being abused.

Heard and actor Johnny Depp divorced in August 2016, after having married in February of 2015. They were romantically involved approximately four years. Heard alleged that Depp abused her during their marriage.

Amber Heard won’t be shamed any longer in powerful domestic abuse PSA, on HuffingtonPost.com.

Johnny Depp and Amber Heard: A timeline of their relationship, divorce and domestic abuse allegatins, on ETOnline.com.

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By November 28, 2016 132 Comments

10 reasons why sociopaths’ lies seem so believable

lies-magnifier-represents-no-lying-and-correctWhen we finally figure out that just about everything a sociopath told us is a lie, we are shocked. How can anyone lie so fluently? And why did we fall for it?

Here are 10 reasons why the lies sociopaths tell seem so believable:

  1. Sociopaths tell you how honest they are

Early on, sociopaths may tell you how much they value honesty, that truthfulness is the foundation of all relationships. Their objective is to convince you of their trustworthiness, so that when you encounter their lies, you don’t see them.

  1. Sociopaths lie while they look directly into your eyes
By November 26, 2016 1 Comments

Con man lies about Iraq injuries to get government benefits and a free house

In this video, Brandon Blackstone gives his heartfelt testimonial about his devastating injuries in Iraq, and how a charitable organization helped him recover. Problem is, he’s lying.

Brandon Blackstone, 35, of Arlington, Texas, pleaded guilty of lying about injuries sustained in Iraq so that he could bilk the government and charities out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. Blackstone did serve as a Marine in Iraq, but he was not injured in a humvee that hit an improvised explosive device, as he claimed.

By November 25, 2016 12 Comments

Sociopaths: Breaking hearts for fun and pleasure

Close-up portrait of a woman with sunglassesLovefraud recently heard from a woman in England; we’ll call her Suzie. Suzie met a man on LargeFriends.com who said his name was Mike. Mike lived in Oregon, which was 5,000 miles away. Yet they quickly developed a rapport, and within weeks Mike was sending Suzie cards, e-cards, e-mails, drawings and stories written just for her. About a month after they first made contact, Mike declared his love for Suzie—even though they had never met.

They exchanged their phone numbers and addresses. They talked on the phone for hours and bought webcams so they could see each other. Mike told Suzie he abhorred infidelity, which was the reason why he wasn’t married at age 45—he intended to marry only once. Here’s what happened next, according to Suzie:

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