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By November 3, 2016 4 Comments

A Relationship With A Sociopath Makes You Question What’s “Normal”


Husband Liar SociopathEvery week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 30: Down The Rabbit Hole

The ABC’s of choosing a non-toxic mate

Amber AultBy Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

Partner choice is important to all of us. Toxic relationship survivors often avoid opening themselves to new relationships because of their fear of choosing a partner who will bring more devastation and drama into their lives. Many of us learn to watch for the warning signs that a person is a psychopath, narcissist, or other toxic type, but we aren’t certain about the positive characteristics that indicate someone is good partner material.

In addition to screening out difficult people, we need to learn how to screen in good matches.

By November 1, 2016 1 Comments

Malaysian officials urge love scam victims to make police reports

In Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, Ms. Chua was convinced that the man she befriended on Facebook was a pilot for China Airlines. He told her he was sending her a package containing U.S. dollars but first he needed a deposit just over $900 in Malaysian currency. Needless to say, the money was gone.

The woman appeared at a press conference with Michael Chong, Public Complaints Bureau Chief. “She didn’t lose much money because we saved her,” Chong said.

By October 31, 2016 12 Comments

9 reasons why sociopaths blow your mind

Pensive Woman In Sweater Sitting On FloorWhen you finally figure out that you’re dealing with sociopaths, your state of mind is complete and utter shock. On the one hand, you are relieved to know that it’s not you; something is definitely wrong with them. On the other hand, you still can’t wrap your brain around their behavior.

It’s mind-boggling, and here’s why:

  1. Everything you believed was a lie

You probably caught some of the lies as you went along, but the sociopaths explained them away. Then you learned that the entire nature of the involvement, the entire reason they are in your life, is complete fabrication. It was never about romance, or shared goals, or family. It was about exploitation.

By October 29, 2016 1 Comments

Mixed feelings about a sociopathic father at the end of his life

The author's father. (Pinterest)

The author’s father. (Pinterest)

In this article for MarieClaire.com, Christina Wallace writes about leaving her sociopathic father behind and then dealing with conflicting emotions and obligations at the end of his life.

My father was an abusive sociopath, and I was the only one he had left, on MarieClaire.com.

Story link provided by a Lovefraud reader.

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By October 28, 2016 0 Comments

The narcissists in my life – the screamer and the deceiver

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Hilda.”

I have had a narcissistic work experience, 20+ years ago, and am currently divorcing from a marriage/ relationship of 27+ years. My divorce, no surprise, has been 3 1/2 years running, and involves theft, fraud, forgery, abuse, cheating, etc.

The screamer my female boss

I worked for a woman 20 years ago who thought that smashing phones and computer screens, screaming and yelling, hanging up on people and bullying them were completely normal business practices. She was a buyer and sales people were at her mercy.

By October 27, 2016 5 Comments

Some Sociopath Tools–Word Salad, Diversion, And Evasion

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 29: It Depends Upon What The Meaning Of The Word “Is” Is

Groups – a key to healing from a sociopath

Mary Ann GlynnBy Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT

 Most of you who have been involved with a sociopath have been to therapists either with your partner or individually. Therapy is critical to healing from the PTSD of these relationships from control, abuse, manipulation and deceit, and hopefully you have found a therapist who knows techniques for helping PTSD.

There is also the rebuilding of self and the grief of loss that therapy can help with, not to mention the potential stressful impact of divorce on yourself and any children. It would be fortunate if your therapist understands the type of relationship you’ve been in and the person you were with. This is all necessary and important, but there’s a critical piece missing to healing.

By October 25, 2016 4 Comments

New research on why people who tell small lies graduate to big lies

good lies


An article in the New York Times reviews new research on how the brain reacts to lies. Essentially, when someone continues to lie, “the negative emotional signals initially associated with lying decrease as the brain becomes desensitized.”

Why big liars often start out as small ones, on NYTimes.com.

The story did not say that the research had anything to do with personality disorders. But it certainly makes sense with sociopaths — the more they lie, the easier it becomes, and they tell more lies.

And then there’s this sociopaths like the sense of power and control that they experience when people believe their lies. So not only does the negative reinforcement fade, but the positive reinforcement of winning escalates.

By October 24, 2016

Donald Trump’s abusive behavior triggers PTSD – and so does Hillary Clinton’s


Presidential nominee Donald Trump went to Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, on Saturday, the site of one of the bloodiest battles of America’s Civil War, supposedly to outline his plans for his first 100 days in office. But first, he said he’d sue the women who accused him of groping or kissing them without their consent.

Typical abusive behavior

Trump denied and threatened. That’s the typical behavior of an abuser and it’s triggering symptoms of PTSD in women who have endured sexual assault and/or relationships with sociopaths.

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