Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as "justlikeyou." I will not give up my power. You have taken enough from me. First a little background. I'm a nurse. I'm a proud American. I have worked in the field of developmental disabilities for 20 plus years. I have lived in California all of my life. California is unique in the way we serve individuals with developmental disabilities. There are families who move to this state simply because of it. In 1969 the Lanterman Act was passed in California. Simply put “The Lanterman Act declares that persons with developmental disabilities have the same legal rights and responsibilities guaranteed all other p …
Some Sociopath Tools And Why They Work
Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 21: A Second Look What was Paul really doing? What were the specific tools and techniques the master puppeteer employed that are also used by fellow sociopaths and manipulators? Paul started by using the technique of devaluing or minimizing my needs. As a sociopath, this came naturally to him, because a sociopath truly places zero value on anyone's needs but his own. By P …
Domestic violence and brain trauma
Many women who endured domestic violence suffer from headaches, memory loss, and confused thinking. The cause may be traumatic brain injuries due to blows to the head. Women may be exposed to the same type of head injuries as football players. Fists not football: Brain injuries seen in domestic assaults, on Foxnews.com. …
I help him escape; she manipulates him back and wipes out all his money
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a woman whom we'll call "Carlotta." I started out close friends with a man married to a sociopathic woman, which later turned into a romantic relationship. This woman was evil to the core. He attempted to divorce her multiple times, but to no avail. She always used manipulation to get him back. Once back, she wipes all the money out that I helped him save. She took every, every penny he had and left him with nothing. He made very good money, plus got a pension to boot. She would take everything for herself. His bank accounts never had more than a few dollars in it. She took out multiple loans in his name (she conned him into …
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Once You’re Hooked by a Sociopath, Expect Double Standards–Remember It’s All About Them
By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 20: What Double Standard? Blinding me even further to how emotionally vacant my relationship with Paul was becoming was the joy and exhaustion of motherhood. It was beyond anything I had ever experienced, anticipated, or imagined. My love for Jessica was so profound and deep, as if I had discovered a hidden, untapped well of joy inside me. Once Jessica was born, I k …
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She’s pregnant with his twins, and catches him in the act, having sex with another woman
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Janeen." I was in an on again off again abusive (physically and mentally) relationship for the past year with a narcopath. He had numerous online accounts and profiles on dating sites where he would find women that he could lie to about who he was, what he did, how many kids he had ”¦ everything. The only truth he told was his name. I found this out the hard way; I was one of those women. We had met online and within a month I was living with him in a different city, an hour and a half away from my friends and family. He would start arguments with outlandish accusations every time I went back home to vi …
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Letter to Lovefraud: I took him back only to be discarded again
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Caitlyn." Read her original story: "I should feel lucky to be free of the sociopath, but it's tearing me up!" You posted my first story and I now have another one. Just couldn't get him off my mind and I took him back only to be discarded again despite my healing. I am very embarrassed and disappointed in myself today, but it may help someone think twice. My story is as follows: Well I did it again. Allowed him back in despite my progress towards healing. This makes the third time. It lasted 2 months and I was discarded again yesterday. Somehow I think my body knew this would happen as I've had panic …
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Some Sociopath Tools–Isolation And Intermittent Reinforcement–They Keep You Hangin’ On
By O.N. Ward Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 19: Of Social Isolation, Pigeons And Food Pellets, Slot Machines, And Intermittent Reinforcement Isolating a woman is a classic strategy that physically and emotionally abusive men use to make her easier to control. It is a red flag that should never be ignored. My move to Minneapolis to be with Paul, distancing me from family and friends back East, was an ideal p …
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Donald Trump, Hillary (and Bill) Clinton – narcissists with psychopathic features
I am truly depressed about the upcoming presidential election. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton (and Bill Clinton, who comes with Hillary) have serious character flaws that I believe make them unfit to be president of the United States. The talking heads on TV have been practically foaming at the mouth as they disparage whichever candidate they don't support. Unfortunately, they have plenty of legitimate material to work with. Just when you think Donald Trump can't say anything more incendiary, he does. And just when one Clinton scandal dies down, another one surfaces. I don't personally know any of the candidates. But some people who do know them have written tell-all articles and books …
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We lost our daughter to a mind-controlling Internet predator
Though I am one parent, I am easily the voice of all the parents and families who are living with the horrors of Internet luring of our innocent children for the purpose of human trafficking. The issue is real and our painful journey through this with our only daughter has clearly heightened our awareness of what we have been told is the newest form of “cult like” persuasive coercion, luring, grooming and human trafficking which began with a deliberate and meticulous indoctrination into the world of pornography through an online video game. Our lives have been forever changed. As with anything that can be beneficial, the Internet can also be dangerous. The Internet is the key that opens the …
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