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By October 3, 2016 3 Comments

7 reasons why sociopaths are hot in bed

Boyfriend and girlfriend in bed“Best sex ever!” that’s how countless Lovefraud readers have described sex with sociopaths.

People have told me that they know the sociopath is bad for them, and they need to end their involvement, but they don’t want to give up the sex!

Other people have told me that they’re afraid they’ll never find another partner who is so sexually exciting!

I specifically asked about sex in three Lovefraud surveys. How do people who were in romantic relationships with people whom they now believe to be sociopaths rate the sex?

In the Romantic Partner Survey (2011) 75% reported the sex was extraordinary or satisfying, at least in the beginning.

By October 1, 2016 2 Comments

3 sociopathic partners, one after the other


Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Gianna.”

The first sociopath I met was most likely my ex husband. He did not show guilt nor remorse for his constant infidelity and apathy towards me for the 2 years that we were together. Finally when he found someone new, he agreed to an annulment, but it proved favourable to him because now he had a reason to do so because he got the girl pregnant and he could blame me for the annulment because in the years we were apart, I also had a relationship. And the full blame on the annulment was directed at me instead of him.

By September 30, 2016 4 Comments

Help for Overcoming the Trauma of Facing the Abuser in Court

Woman in courtAfter suffering the trauma of domestic violence, many victims are terrified to face their abusers in court. The federal Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) can offer support, so in recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Lovefraud Continuing Education presents the online course, “Surviving Court When You’re Traumatized” on Oct. 17 and 25, 2016.

Domestic violence victims often suffer from anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder, explains Dr. Karin Huffer, an adjunct professor at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice and author of the course. When victims must appear in court with the abuser for divorce, child custody or other legal matters, their symptoms may make it impossible for them to respond appropriately and participate fully.

By September 29, 2016 8 Comments

When Charm Fails, Sociopaths Threaten, Bully and Attack

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 25: Paul’s House

Paul’s ideas about our next house and my ideas could have not diverged more. He wanted to build a $1 million dream house from the ground up. To me, it was absurd. Houses take money, time, and energy to build. We had none of those to spare. It was already March. I wanted to be settled into a new house by July to allow Jessica to make a few friends before starting kindergarten. That wasn’t enough time.

Leaving abusive relationships is especially hard for people in minority communities

Amber AultBy Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

Partners in abusive relationships with psychopaths, narcissists, and other disordered individuals often suffer in silence. This is especially true in marginalized communities.

Partners’ silence reinforces their isolation and reduces their capacity to end abuse and exploitation in these relationships.

What stops a partner from seeking help? Among the barriers to reaching out for a reality check and support for leaving are these common factors:

By September 27, 2016 0 Comments

Maine man accused of killing his wife while he pursued other women

Luc Tieman

Luc Tieman of Fairfield, Maine.

Luc Tieman, of Fairfield, Maine, was charged with murder after police found the body of his wife, Valerie Tieman, in the woods near their home.

Multiple women, including the victim’s friend, reported that Luc Tieman was wooing them at the same time that Valerie went missing. One woman said, “Things were too perfect.”

Husband of missing Fairfiled woman charged with murder, on CentralMaine.com.

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.

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By September 26, 2016 21 Comments

7 reasons why psychopaths, antisocials and narcissists will not change


Angry Blond ManOnce a psychopath, antisocial or narcissist is an adult, there is no therapy, and no medication, which will make him or her into a normal, loving person.

You may find this shocking. In these days of medical miracles, it’s hard to believe that there is no treatment for someone who, on the surface, appears to be so normal.

So why won’t malignant people change? Here are seven reasons:

  1. They don’t want to change

For any therapy to work, you have to want to change. Malignants don’t think there is anything wrong with them. Although you and other people are distressed by their behavior, they aren’t. Therefore, they have absolutely no motivation to do the hard work of personal change.

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By September 24, 2016 2 Comments

12 songs to help you heal from a sociopath

By “JustAboutHealed”

The songs that resonate with you can help pinpoint where you are in the healing journey. Written from the heterosexual female viewpoint, ”˜cause that is the path I know.  Try using music to chart your past and where you want to get to!

1.Yeah, maybe a bad boy, but still”¦

You think it is mostly an act. If you aim for his heart, you’re sure he’ll behave, he’s got the key.

Moves Like Jagger  by Maroon 5, featuring Christina Aguilera

By September 23, 2016 4 Comments

What to do when your exploiter has cops for friends

by Lesson Learned

CopDuring your interaction with law enforcement it is normal to feel, anxious and somewhat intimidated. Even when you’re in the right, something about that badge, gun and the general demeanor of cops can make you feel stressed. What you should not feel is fear”¦at least from the officers. If you feel fear — if they are standing too close, or are intentionally appearing intimidating, ask them calmly if they would take a step back as you’re feeling a little overwhelmed. This is where a witness is crucial. If the officer will not step back you have a witness to attest to that and he knows it. Throughout this I will refer to law enforcement as ”˜he’ for expedience and because during my ordeal I didn’t have any interactions with female officers. I am also referring to sociopaths and other opportunists as ”˜he’ again for expediency and because that is my main experience.

By September 22, 2016 13 Comments

A Genuine Leader and A Sociopath May Look Identical–At First

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 24: Paul’s Dream

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