Archive for October, 2017

Stolen Valor con man Derek Alldred finally found and arrested

Derek Alldred as a fake Navy SEAL

Lovefraud has been following this story for a year. Derek Alldred pretended to be a war hero so he could seduce women and then swindle them out of their money. Alldred scammed nearly 20 women that he met on dating sites. The victims were from from Minnesota, California, Nevada and Texas.

KARE 11 in Minneapolis first exposed Alldred a year ago, tracking down victims across the country.

Charges filed against alleged swindler exposed by KARE11, on… Read more

How to get revenge against a sociopath

You’ve finally figured out what is wrong with an individual who has taken advantage of you, abused you, perhaps even assaulted you. Reading Lovefraud, you realize that he or she is a sociopath.

Now, you’re an emotional wreck.  You’ve been profoundly betrayed. You’re justifiably angry. Plus, the sociopath has caused you real problems. Perhaps all your money is gone. Or you’re in a vicious child custody battle. You’ve lost your job, your savings or your home. You suffer from anxiety, depression or PTSD.  You feel so far down that you don’t even know which direction is up.

You are outraged by the sociopath’s actions. You are further outraged that after this individual bulldozed through your life, he or … Read more

Posted in: Donna Andersen

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW to host free video/voice group on Nov. 5th at 5 pm EST.

Mary Ann GlynnJoin our free online video/voice online support group Sunday, Nov. 5, 2017 at 5 pm EST (earlier time to accommodate European time).  If you’d like to join go to and let us know by filling out contact form at the bottom of the home page.   Please include your Skype user name so it can be confirmed and added to the group at the time of the call.  Do this every time, even if you have joined the group in the past.  If you cannot get a Skype user name for some reason please state that.

Come get clarity, support, feedback, and healing from people who know!… Read more

Posted in: Uncategorized

Another twist on love scams: Notices from the “Bureau of Customs”

Lots of men and women in the Philippines look for foreign romantic partners — and end up getting scammed.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Scammer claims to be from Australia, the United Kingdom or the United States and pursues an online relationship with the target.
  2. Scammer claims to send a package of expensive gifts to the target, like laptops, smartphones or designer bags.
  3. A few days later, target receives an email, supposedly from the Bureau of Customs, informing him or her of taxes and duties that need to be paid. It comes complete with official-looking documents.
  4. Target sends money to the designated bank account, which, of course, belongs to the scammer. Money is gone.

BoC cautions public vs online Read more

After involvement with a sociopath–one breath at a time may be all that’s possible

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

I’ve also just released a new ebook titled Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding Hood. (Just click here to find it on Narcissists SOCIOPATHS & Wolves.)

Chapter 53C:  The Puzzle Pieces Finally Fit

Our divorce was mediated at record pace, not even nine months after Paul left. To get the emotional abuse to stop and to get on … Read more

Recovery from the sociopath — learning to count what truly matters

“Was it the sex?” a new member asked me at our weekly meeting of Parents of Sexually Abused Children. “Is that why you stayed with your user for 14 years?”

Three faces swung to me, including the lead social worker of our small assembly, a tall, serious senior woman who encouraged us to ask and answer questions. Aidan didn’t smile a whole lot, but over time, I came to respect her genuine sincerity and tremendous breadth of knowledge.

“You mean, knowingly trade family wellbeing for my sexual pleasure?” I asked, disheartened at a question that I found hurtful. “No, the truth is that my husband showed no interest in me. He called me ‘Mum’ despite my frequent requests … Read more

Posted in: Eleanor Cowan

Western Australian police quit saving people from romance scams

Romance scamProject Sunbird, a joint operation between the Western Australian police and Consumer Protection departments, had been identifying 53 new romance scam victims a month by analyzing financial data. They were sending money to con artists in Nigeria, Sierra Leone, Ghana, togo and Benin.

According to, 75% of the victims stopped sending money after receiving a warning letter from Consumer Protection. Of those that persisted, 40% stopped after receiving a second letter.

But the new Western Australia police commissioner, Chris Dawson, killed the project because of “resource priorities.”

WA Police handball romance scam investigations, on… Read more

Posted in: Laws and courts

The sociopathic betrayal is not your life — it is an incident in your life

Highly sensitive peopleMany Lovefraud readers experience the phenomenon of “losing yourself” in the sociopathic relationship. Before meeting the sociopath, you may have been, for the most part, happy, confident, successful and financially stable. You had a network of people who cared about you. Yes, there was some kind of vulnerability—perhaps you were a bit lonely—and the sociopath used the vulnerability to infiltrate your life. But, for the most part, you were okay.

Then, either suddenly or slowly, your life disintegrated, and the problems you face are so immense, and so interconnected, and so overwhelming, that you don’t know where to begin unraveling them. You don’t have the energy to start. Rather than the happy and confident person you once were, … Read more

Judge awards rapist child custody, then rescinds order

Christopher Mirasolo (Michigan Department of Corrections)

Judge Gregory Ross, of Sanilac County, Michigan, awarded joint legal custody to Christopher Mirasolo, 27, for his eight-year-old son.

The mother, 21, was outraged — Mirasolo had raped when she was 12, resulting in her conceiving the child. He served six and a half months in jail. Eight months after his release, he assaulted a 14-year-old girl.

Two days ago, Judge Ross rescinded his order, saying he didn’t know Mirasolo had raped the mother. The county prosecutor, James Young, apologized “for the manner in which this case was handled.”

Michigan judge rescinds order in sex offender custody case, on

Judge, prosecutor vow changes over custody, rape case, on

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Posted in: Media sociopaths

Harvey Weinstein’s psychopathic behavior

Like much of America, I’ve been watching the Harvey Weinstein scandal unfold, appalled but not surprised. More than 40 women have now accused the famous and powerful movie producer, whose films have won 81 Oscars, of sexual harassment and even rape.

The Weinstein Company, which he co-founded, fired him. The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences threw him out. The Los Angeles police have opened an investigation.

Still, Hollywood has always been about starlets who want to make it big and powerful men who took advantage of them — that’s why everyone knows about the “casting couch.”

So I wondered — was Weinstein just a prolific user of the couch, or was he disordered?

The answer came … Read more

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