The Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between: Part B As I mentioned last week, I recently read the book The Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between by Dr. Abigail Marsh, Associate Professor of Psychology and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience at Georgetown University. Her book sparked some “light-bulb moments.” I shared the first two last week, and I am sharing the third and fourth light-bulb moments this week. For those who read last week’s post, you might want to skip directly to light-bulb moment number three, below. (Note: Dr. Marsh and many researchers refer to these disordered individuals as 'ps …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 28: VAKS
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/NsHBjPwT9nY"] Did you VAKS this morning? If not, you have probably missed an opportunity to get one step closer to your goal or dream. Many successful people use similar exercises to achieve great results as part of their mental conditioning. Watch the brief session to learn about VAKS and how you can integrate it into each and every day to see changes in your life. Exercises like this would probably take only 5 minutes, but it is so important to make them as part of your daily routine. Plan your day to allow enough time for yourself, otherwise things will get in the way and you will realize you haven’t even spared a second of your day to look y …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 27: TIME
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/O8a3UExwFGc"] For some TIME stands for Tears In My Eyes, and for some others it’s a Triumphant, Innovative Meaningful Experience. Time may be a noun for you and a verb for me. It depends who is using it and how, but one thing we all know for sure is that time is FREE for all of us, and it is the most priceless thing. Let me reveal a secret, if you are reading this sentence, you are wasting five seconds of your time, but…you are wasting it wisely. This quick visualization exercise will help you understand how you can become the pilot of the time. We all know that time flies, but not many of us get ready to take off our jets and enjoy that extraordinary f …
Our cultural conspiracy of silence about predators and pain finally begins to crack
By Eleanor Cowan “She broke her neck on her way down,” said a police officer at the scene. Thick yellow spray paint outlined an ovary-shaped form on the grass from which my mother’s body had been removed, wrapped in a zippered tarpaulin. Two screaming witnesses, bathers who’d been enjoying a pleasant afternoon by the building’s outdoor pool on that sunny August day, had happened to glance up to witness my mother’s horrid plummet from her seventh-floor balcony. “She didn’t feel the final impact,” the investigator added. I noticed a tinged bloodstain on the grass. “The skull sustained a crack,” said the kindly officer, following my gaze. This week, more than four decades since my mo …
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Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 26: CREATE
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/0dyXTMNpwgg"] When is the last time you have done something creative? Think about the film photography. If you remember looking at one of your old camera films, all you used to see on that strip was negatives. If you ever get curious how positives are developed from negatives, it’s a creative, but a complicated process - it involves removing chemicals by washing, bleaching, drying and other bizarre procedures. In the end we get beautiful quality pictures that receive everyone’s admiration. Like the film photography, life is developed from negatives. We have already learned about bizarre procedures like detoxing, cleansing, energizing, working out our bo …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 25: DETOX
[youtube_sc url="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVNB1x9BsOs"] Can you unfriend yourself on social media? Well, me neither. We are stuck with the relationship with ourselves no matter how toxic we get! Some of us need to detox our contact list and some of us need mind, body and soul detox, like a mental enema. See, if you are thirsty and I hand you a glass, telling you it’s clean water, you will probably drink it with no problems. If, however I tell you I just filled the glass from the sewer, there is no chance you will ever touch that glass. What if you drink it without me telling you it’s from the sewer and find out about it later? Well, I would throw up too... I guess we have both be …
My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 3
Editor's note: Following is Part 3 of a series of letters sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call "Grace18." Other names are also changed. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4. Maybe my story will help a mother....a daughter.....a sister. I have become a parking lot preacher, when young people take out my grocery cart. Holding onto them for five min. or so and asking them if they are going onto college.....what they are studying...if they plan on leaving this small "no hope" county? I talk to myself w/in all day long....then, when I can no longer bear the silence, I try to write to my oldest, Juliann, on a msg....or my youngest on email. I never hear from Juliann of course....and …
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My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 2
Editor's note: Following is a series of letters sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call "Grace18." Other names are also changed. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4. My daughters Juliann 43/Catherine 42/Sandra 36......2 already divorced....1 remarried.....3 grandsons with each daughter passing on the "hate"....... My children and I went through some very hard lean years, as I moved us for better jobs...and to hopefully put them in a place where they could obtain scholarships through a particular high school. My oldest child, Juliann, won a scholarship in the area, based on a letter that I wrote explaining just why she should be so blessed. My second daughter, in the same …
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Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 24: NOURISH
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/Aj0jHyW20ek"] I never seem to get lucky with orchids. Maybe I water them too much or put them in a wrong place, but they don’t seem to have that long of a life with me. As I look at the beautiful blooms of yesterday here on my desk, I wonder what I could do to nourish them to make them last longer, live longer and serve longer. Devices need power, so when they are out of juice, we plug them to a nearest power point. What do we, humans do when we run out of energy? How do we recharge ourselves? To understand this phenomenon we are going to learn where we get energy from in the first place. This visualisation exercise takes us on a journey with a little s …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 23: BELIEVE
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/8tEVP4emVTI"] How do we get to believe in anything? If I tell you the world is flat instead of being round shaped, would you believe me? Why not? You have not seen the world from a distance to prove to yourself that it’s round and we walk and live on a flat surface. Conditioning, this is what makes us believe in things or people. We have been conditioned to believe things are a certain way so we start believing in some theory, in people and things. Scientific research, media, parents, peers and anyone we may come in contact with are able to condition our thinking to believe in certain things or to think a certain way. Looking back, you may feel that y …