In her high-conflict divorce, Susan Shofer went through five different attorneys, which cost her a lot of time and money — a very expensive lesson. Now, Susan shares what she learned with Lovefraud. If you're divorcing a sociopath, you can draw on her expertise so that you can pick the right attorney the first time. Live webinar: How to choose the right attorney when you're divorcing a disordered spouse Thursday, Nov. 1, 8-9 pm ET • $25 Instructor: Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant More info "All attorneys are not alike, so it is imperative that you find an excellent one; one that understands your case and what your objectives are," Susan says. "When it comes to acquiring the …
How much do psychopaths really cost our society?
Kaboni Savage was a drug kingpin in Philadelphia. On his orders, his crew firebombed the home of a federal witness in 2004, killing six people, including four children. Savage was sentenced to death in May, 2013. A few months later, the Philadelphia Inquirer wrote an article about the cost of prosecuting Kaboni Savage: Bill for Savage trial easily tops $10 million: No one protested when a federal jury recommended in June that Kaboni Savage be put to death. In just a few years, Savage had left a grisly trail in North Philadelphia. He gunned down one man, ordered the killing of five others, and directed the 2004 rowhouse firebombing that killed four children and two women. The …
After the Narcissist, You Will Recover
“A Narcissist doesn't just break your heart, they break your spirit....that's why it takes so long to heal.” — narcissist_survivor After experiencing and living through emotional abuse and trauma, there are days where you will feel like you can't move forward, where you feel worthless, where nothing matters anymore.....but I am here to tell you recovery IS possible. Right after the truth was revealed and after my relationship with my abuser ended, I was shocked, devastated, and a reeling mess. There were so many emotions that I would transition to, from hour to hour....for months. I couldn't believe my reality or even comprehend that I had been taken to this place of depression and self …
Reality TV surgeon and his girlfriend charged with drugging and molesting women
Grant William Robicheaux, 38, a California orthopedic surgeon, and his girlfriend, Cerissa Laura Riley, 31, have been charged with drugging and sexually assaulting two women. Authorities say there may be more victims. The couple had video taped hundreds, if not thousands, of sexual encounters with women. Four years ago, Robicheaux appeared on the Bravo television show, Online Dating Rituals of the American Male. It sounds like these two should star in a show called, Dating Rituals of Depraved Predators. O.C. surgeon, girlfriend, charged with drugging, sexually assaulting women, on Foxla.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader. …
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Am I a sociopath magnet?
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Kristinan32." Donna Andersen responds at the end of it. I've had a long history with NPDs and Sociopaths. Am I some sort of magnet? I am a caring individual, rescue animals, take care of people. Go figure. My daughter's father was one, the last guy I was with was one, up until he died. Two years later, I decided I've 'healed' somewhat after everything, and I see my old friend's brother on a social media site. I never really knew him, so I contacted him, out of the blue. So, we hit it off fast. This is unlike me, I don't take things fast. We talk, we get along, everything's fun and good. He tells …
One predator priest abused five sisters in the same family — now they tell their stories
One predator priest, Father Augustine Giella, groomed and sexually assaulted five girls from the same family — the Fortneys, of Enhaut, Pennsylvania, near Harrisburg. The abuse began in 1982, when Giella was assigned to their parish, but none of the girls talked about what happened until decades later. The family received a settlement from the Diocese of Harrisburg. It was accompanied by a gag order. Only now, after the recently released grand jury on sexual abuse in Pennsylvania's Catholic churches, are they talking. The Philadelphia Inquirer reported their story today. And in the same issue, the newspaper also told the story of Corey Leech. Church lawyers for a deceased predatory F …
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Is he really a psychopath or not?
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from "mikabiel." Her first language is Portuguese and the letter was electronically translated. I need a lot of help to understand if this creature that has passed through my life is a psychopathic narcissist. I will try to be brief, because it is too many details that intrigued me and I ignored it because I thought it was a simple one with no cuddly notion. He was my husband's best friend and I was just married. I had a gym he enrolled and I was a teacher, we became friends quickly. One day he appeared on Saturday to help paint the gym. I asked myself, He did it, I saw him very lonely, without friends, needing activity, so we …
My sociopathic partner: Once the smoke begins to clear…
Chapter 1-wow! You’re an amazing guy! It all began innocently...my daughter's halloween party invite which happened to include an invite of his daughter too. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined the horror insanity and chaos we were about to embark on. Perhaps it was the recent loss of my mother...or the stress of having an aging father to care for...or a sister who is only interested in the financial gains she feels entitled to...maybe it was a transition from a single mom to a single mom with an aging sick Dad coming to live with us...maybe it was a fear of being forever alone and unable to date in any normal sense of the word...but whatever the cause he targeted me like w …
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10 Facts to help you explain your experience with a sociopath
The biggest reason why we get tangled up with sociopaths is because we don't know they exist. We don't know they live among us, so we don't watch out for them, so we get in trouble. Then, when we try to tell our friends and families what happened, they have no idea what we're talking about — because they don't know sociopaths exist either. So on top of the devastation we endure from the sociopath, when we turn to others for support, we are not understood or even believed. If you're trying to explain your experience with a sociopath, here are some facts to help you put your story in context: 1 . Approximately 40 million people in the United States — 12% of women and 16% of men — could …
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He never had those feelings for me — it was all a lie, an act
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Cecilia18." I didn’t marry “my” sociopath. I didn’t live with him. I didn’t have children with him. I’m not even sure you could call what passed for a relationship “dating.” Nevertheless, he messed up my life for several years. I’ll call him John. He was a local radio host, and I was a fan. I enjoyed listening to him banter with his producer/on-air sidekick and with his wife when she called in. Looking back, I don’t know why I liked him so much. He made a lot of jokes at the expense of others, including minorities and seniors. This is not my thing at all! But there was something about him: He was witty …
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