Archive for September, 2018

Woman with 17 identities charged with murdering her co-worker

Kimberly Kessler

Joleen Cummings, a 34-year-old hairstylist, didn’t show up to see her three kids on Mothers Day. Her co-worker, Kimberly Kessler, 44, has been charged in her murder.

Kessler has allegedly lived in 33 different cities and assumed 17 identities since 1996. She was seen on surveillance video getting out of Cummings’ car, but has denied killing the woman. She is not cooperating with authorities.

Woman who’s allegedly assumed 17 identities in 20 years charged with co-worker’s murder, on Oxygen.com.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.


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10 Facts to help you explain your experience with a sociopath

The biggest reason why we get tangled up with sociopaths is because we don’t know they exist. We don’t know they live among us, so we don’t watch out for them, so we get in trouble.

Then, when we try to tell our friends and families what happened, they have no idea what we’re talking about — because they don’t know sociopaths exist either. So on top of the devastation we endure from the sociopath, when we turn to others for support, we are not understood or even believed.

If you’re trying to explain your experience with a sociopath, here are some facts to help you put your story in context:

MaryAnn Glynn, LCSW, to host free conference call support group 9/23

  • Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, September 23, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.
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He never had those feelings for me — it was all a lie, an act

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Cecilia18.”

I didn’t marry “my” sociopath. I didn’t live with him. I didn’t have children with him. I’m not even sure you could call what passed for a relationship “dating.” Nevertheless, he messed up my life for several years.

I’ll call him John. He was a local radio host, and I was a fan. I enjoyed listening to him banter with his producer/on-air sidekick and with his wife when she called in. Looking back, I don’t know why I liked him so much. He made a lot of jokes at the expense of others, including minorities and seniors. This is not my thing at all! But there was something about him: He was witty and clever and charismatic. I remember thinking he would be so much fun to hang out with – not just him, but his wife, too.

Cheating dentist convicted of murdering his girlfriend’s toddler, and trying to have her killed also

Bert Franklin (Oklahoma City Jail)

Bert Franklin, 35, of Tulsa, Oklahoma, was convicted of first-degree murder for killing his girlfriend’s 19-month-old son, Lincoln Lewis. Franklin dropped the boy on his head, kicked him, and then held his limp body while he ate a piece of pizza.

Once arrested, Franklin tried from jail to hire someone to murder his girlfriend, Roxanne Randall.

Franklin will be sentenced on October 19, 2018.

Married dentist murdered girlfriend’s toddler — then tried to hire someone to kill victim’s mom, on People.com.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.


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I almost married a sociopath, and to this day I don’t know what his motives were

Spath TalesEditor’s note: This story was written by the Lovefraud reader, “marinapearl.”

I almost married a sociopath. He seemed like my perfect match at first: kind, funny, generous, respectful. We had everything in common. We moved much more quickly than I would have thought possible for me, as I am usually very cautious, but this was unlike any relationship I’d ever had. We were “soulmates,” “meant to be.”

Before long we were engaged. Everything was going well, except for when we would argue. Every time we had the slightest disagreement, he would have a meltdown. Nothing was ever his fault, and he always managed to make me feel bad for saying anything. I just thought he was really sensitive, but it concerned me that nothing ever got resolved.

5 tips for dealing with a sociopath

Lovefraud’s standard advice for interacting with a sociopath is not to interact at all, to implement a strict policy of No Contact. Unfortunately, this isn’t always possible.

Perhaps you share children with a sociopathic ex-partner. Or perhaps you have a disordered boss or co-worker, and aren’t yet able to find new employment. Or perhaps some member of your family is disordered. If you have no choice but to interact with a problem person, here are some tips that may help you.

  1. Do not react emotionally.

Sociopaths will often do or say unpleasant things just to provoke a reaction out of you. Do not take the bait.

Attracting better partners by releasing unhealthy beliefs

Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Emilie”:

I won’t go into the long, boring details of my 7+ year relationship with the sociopath that invaded my life. It’s the same basic story as always and plus, I think there’s some kind of email size limit. 🙂

Ever since I ended the engagement over 3 years ago, and finally terminated the relationship itself another year after, I’ve made comments (in a lighthearted, self deprecating fashion) that, “if you’re going to treat me like crap, then I’m the girl for you!” Yes, it gets chuckles from the people I’m around, but sadly it’s true.

Hong Kong businesswoman loses almost $3 million in online love scam

Online love scams are running rampant in Asia. A 66-year-old widow and businesswoman from Hong Kong sent HK$23 million (US$ 2.9 million) to a man she met online, but never met in person. The con artist posed as a British engineer who needed money for his projects. The woman sent him the money in more than 200 transactions between April 2014 and July 2018.

Hong Kong lonely heart loses $23 million to an online love scam, on InkStoneNews.com.

In the meantime, 280 cases of Internet love scams were reported in Singapore over the first half of 2018. The victims lost a total of SG$ 12 million (US$ 8.7 million).

Trust after betrayal by the sociopath

For everyone here at Lovefraud, there came a time when we could no longer continue in denial. We were forced to admit that someone we trusted had betrayed us. We felt devastation, anger, humiliation, grief and every other negative emotion on a therapy checklist.

We also berated ourselves for our naiveté, kicked ourselves for our gullibility, and castigated ourselves for trusting someone who shouldn’t have been trusted. Overwhelmed by pain, we may have vowed that we would never trust again.

Hold on. As human beings, we need to trust. Human society is built on trust. The key is to determine who is trustworthy, and who is not.

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