Donna Andersen, Author at Lovefraud | Escape sociopaths - narcissists in relationships

Gaslighting and one key behavior that reveals a sociopath’s true character

September 19, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// 8 Comments

[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/iTHyReK2r4s" title="Is%20he%20hiding%20my%20keys%20because%20I%20won%27t%20have%20sex%20with%20him?"] Here's the next installment of Letters to Lovefraud. Because of her medical issues, a Lovefraud reader doesn't want to have sex with her boyfriend and suddenly her keys are missing. Is he retaliating? I explain that the boyfriend's behavior may be even worse than retaliating it may be gaslighting. His objective is to make her doubt her own perceptions so that she is more easily controlled. And that's not the only issue. The bigger problem is why is he demanding sex when she is in pain? …

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Philadelphia Inquirer quotes Donna Andersen in romance scam story

September 18, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

When serial scammer Patrick Giblin, of Ventnor, New Jersey, was arrested again for attempting to swindle women through dating sites, Barbara Boyer, a reporter for the Philadelphia Inquirer, called me. She was writing an article about romance scams. I wasn't scammed by Giblin, but I covered his case. And after my own experience with a con artist, and all the cases I've collected, well, I'm an expert on the topic. The story is in today's newspaper. Read it here: Victim of romance fraud: 'He took everything I had. My self-esteem, my money,' on Philly.com. …

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I detected a sense of evilness and anger coming from him. I knew he was ready to kill me.

September 17, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Marguerite." This extremely attractive person started speaking to me while I was taking a break in the park one day. Because of his strong charisma, I related back. We kept in touch afterward. I had just moved to NY and had nowhere to go so after a few weeks I moved in with him. I did wonder why he was by himself but I found out later. One month after moving in he started hitting me in the face for no good reason. I was pretty shocked and angry. Two days later he did the same thing. I was nauseated because the cut he caused in my mouth was re-opened. I never had that happen. Anyway I realized I was in …

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Patrick Giblin, who scammed 132 women, is charged with more crimes

September 14, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// 1 Comment

Lovefraud has been following the case of con man Patrick Giblin for years. Between 2000 until 2005, Giblin, of Ventnor, New Jersey, defrauded 132 women out of a total of $320,241 and blew the money in Atlantic City casinos. He was sentenced to 115 months in prison. He was released on probation and went right back to scamming women. So after finishing his prior sentence, he has just been charged again with the additional crimes. New Jersey con man charged with using dating services to scam women, on philly.com Read the Patrick Giblin case on True Lovefraud Stories: Patrick Giblin trolls phone dating lines, taking money from 132 women …

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New research says 3% to 21% of executives have psychopathic traits

September 13, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

Psychopaths are as common in the upper echelons of the corporate world as they are in prison, according to forensic psychologist Nathan Brooks. In research presented in Australia this week, Brooks and his colleagues found that 21 percent of 261 corporate professionals in the supply chain management industry had clinically significant levels of psychopathic traits. Brooks said job candidates should be assessed first on their character, and then on whether they have the needed skills and qualifications, according to the Sydney Morning Herald. One in five bosses is a psychopath, research reveals, on SMH.com.au. How to tell if your co-worker is a psychopath, on NYPost.com. Story suggested …

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Video: Aren’t there any laws against social predators?

September 12, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/VD2k5iW1VSg" title="Aren%27t%20there%20any%20laws%20against%20social%20predators?"] Here's the next installment of our "Letters to Lovefraud" video series. A Lovefraud reader lost $38,000 to a con artist who has a history of scamming women. He employs the same deception and manipulation tactics time after time, cycling through a new woman every four months. If you've had a similar experience, I explain why the con artist may or may not be prosecuted, what you can possibly do, and what you should think about before making a move. …

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Interview: Lying to get someone in bed is sexual assault

September 10, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// 3 Comments

Catch Joyce Short, author of Carnal Abuse by Deceit, and soon-to-be released, Don't Swallow That Catfish Hook, discussing why "lying to get laid" is a crime on CBC radio Sunday, September 11, 2016 at 11 am EDT. Jim Brown, an award winning producer and the highly acclaimed host of The 180 — Canada's national radio show to spark conversation on hot topics — jumped right in on the important question ”¦ “People often tell little white lies to impress a possible partner. At what point do those lies add up to fraud?“ Short stresses that this discussion applies to sexual assault by fraud victims, whether they live in Bombay, Boston or Bangkok. "All around the world, victims suffer the humiliation a …

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Senior Sociopath survey: Were you involved with a sociopath who was over the age of 50?

September 9, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// 22 Comments

There's a rumor floating around in mental health circles that sociopaths "burn out" with age, that they engage in less antisocial behavior as they get older. Is this true? Lovefraud wants to find out. So we've developed a survey to gather data from you. Were you involved with a sociopath while he or she was over age 50? The individual could have been any of the following: Your spouse or ex-spouse Your romantic partner Your parent Your stepparent Your child Your stepchild Your sibling Another family member A work colleague A business associate A friend, neighbor or acquaintance If you are familiar with how this individual behaved while over the age of 50, please …

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How do I avoid dating a sociopath like my father?

September 5, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// 2 Comments

[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/UKtYJyhTe40" title="How%20do%20I%20avoid%20dating%20a%20sociopath%20like%20my%20father?"] A 24-year-old woman asks for advice. Her father is a sociopath, and so was her boyfriend. She doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like so how can she learn to avoid dating another sociopath? I explain that the young woman not only had poor role models, she's suffering from a betrayal bond. The best thing she can do is work on her personal recovery. Then, I tell her how to protect herself from sociopaths. Letters to Lovefraud Videos is a new feature of Lovefraud.com. If you have a question that you'd like me to answer in a video, please send it to donna at l …

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Florida judge is publicly shamed for berating a domestic violence victim

September 3, 2016 // by Donna Andersen// Leave a Comment

[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/gM7Q5M2Yuy0" title="Judge%20Jerrii%20Collins%20reprimanded%20by%20Florida%20Supreme%20Court"] A Florida woman called the police in April 2015 the father of her child choked her and threatened her with a knife. The man was arrested and put on trial. Suffering from anxiety, the domestic violence victim failed to show up to testify. Florida Judge Jerri Collins berated the woman, charged her with contempt of court, and threw her in jail for three days even though the victim pleaded that she had a 1-year-old child to care for. On Wednesday, Judge Collins was publicly reprimanded on live TV for her "intolerable" behavior by the Florida Supreme Court. This …

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