As you read the list of key symptoms of a psychopath, you feel like you've been punched in the gut. Check, check, check the individual who has been making you crazy has all, or almost of all, of the traits. In shock, you realize that you have a psychopath in your life. You've seen the individual's glib and superficial charm, lack of empathy, lack of remorse. You knew he or she was deceitful, but now you suspect that every statement this person ever made may have been a lie. “How can he do that?” you ask. “What was she thinking?” Steve Becker, LCSW, a longtime Lovefraud author, has just come out with a book that explains what goes on in the mind of a psychopath. It's called, The Inner World of …
Judge throws kids in juvenile detention for not talking to father
A divorce and child custody case in Oakland County, Michigan, has gotten so bitter that Judge Lisa Gorcyca has sent three children, ages 14, 10 and 9, to juvenile detention for refusing to see their father. The saga began five years ago, when Maya Eibschitz-Tsimhoni filed for divorce from Omer Tsimhoni. Both parents are originally from Israel, and the father had returned Israel. The Internet is buzzing over this one, and here are some stories. But reading them, I have absolutely NO IDEA whether the problem is the mother, the father, or both. We all know how well sociopaths can talk, lie, play the victim, and run a smear campaign. Probably the only way to really know who is at fault i …
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What makes a psychopath, and why they don’t change
America's attention in recent weeks was focused on the Hollywood-worthy escape from prison by two convicted murderers Richard Matt and David Sweat. Matt is now dead. Sweat was shot, captured, and is now under guard at the Albany Medical Center in Albany, New York. The media have referred to both of these men a psychopaths. Looking at their crimes, I agree. Sweat was convicted of murdering Kevin Tarsia, Broome County Sheriff's Deputy, in 2002. But he didn't just shoot the sheriff. Sweat ambushed Tarsia in a town park, shot him multiple times and then ran him over with a car. Here's the story: David Sweat's brutal path to prison, on PressConnects.com. Richard Matt had a lifelong history …
Alleged Charleston murderer Dylann Storm Roof: Perhaps a budding sociopath who never had a chance
On the evening of June 17, 2015, Dylann Storm Roof sat in a Bible study group at the Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church, in Charleston, South Carolina, for 45 minutes. Then he pulled out a Glock .45 handgun and shot 10 people, killing nine of them. All of the victims were African-American. One was the pastor of the church and a state senator, Rev. Clementa Pinckney. Two others were also pastors. Six of the victims were women; three were men. Fourteen hours later, Roof, 21, of Eastover, South Carolina, was arrested and charged with the murders. Many people, from politicians to celebrities to men and women on the street, are decrying the mass killing as an indication of …
New Jersey sex trafficking victim recovers her life
To say that the 38-year-old woman, identified as "M.S." in Atlantic County court documents, had a hard life is a profound understatement. Her father was murdered by a serial killer. Her abusive mother abandoned her. A boyfriend got her hooked on heroin. Then another man promised to help her get her son back, but forced her into prostitution. M.S. eventually escaped, and helped put the trafficker in prison. Under a New Jersey law to help victims of sex trafficking, she just had her criminal record expunged. It's an unbelievable story, and evidence that no matter how bad things are, recovery is possible. Atlantic County sex charges expunged for human-trafficking victim, on …
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BOOK REVIEW: The Wise Lesbian’s Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships
Exploiters are everywhere. Personality disordered individuals can be found in all demographic groups male, female, rich, poor, all races, all religions, all nationalities and all sexual orientations. Amber Ault, Ph.D. is s clinical sociologist and a psychotherapist, and also a member of the Lovefraud Continuing Education team. She's written a book called The Wise Lesbian's Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting On with Your Life. Reading the book, I was struck by how much exploitative behavior is the same, no matter what community is involved. There are some dimensions to the experience of becoming involved with a sociopath that are specific to the gay community, …
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Tom Guida, aka Tom Gatto – fake psychologist, fake Special Forces, fake brain cancer patient – is charged with bigamy
By Donna Andersen Thomas A. Guida, 52, of Toms River, New Jersey, arrived in court on May 29, 2015 to face a charge of bigamy filed by one of his wives. Mrs. Guida signed a complaint against him on February 18, 2015, after receiving Facebook messages about another woman he is married to, a woman he was engaged to, and a woman he was cheating with. Each woman believed she was in an exclusive relationship with Tom Guida, planning a future with a true American hero. They were all wrong. Tom told all the women that he was a Ph.D. psychotherapist who specialized in traumatic stress and bereavement counseling, going into dangerous situations as a first responder. In reality, he is not licensed for …
Mischele Lewis on the front page of the Philadelphia Daily News!
Lovefraud has followed the story of Mischele Lewis, of Florence Township, N.J., who fought back against William Allen Jordan, an bigamist and international con man. Jordan is now serving time for fraud. After reading media coverage about her plight (the original story was written by Donna Andersen for the Daily Mail), New Jersey Assemblyman Troy Singleton, D-Burlington, wrote a bill to make "sex by deception" illegal. Yesterday, Mischele was on the cover of the Philadelphia Daily News, interviewed for a story about the bill. Here it is: Watch out, lovers who lie! Sexual assault by deception could become a criminal offense, on Philly.com. Will Allen Jordan, aka Will Allen, on L …
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Commissioner blasts SEC for allowing criminal banks to continue business as usual
Last week five big international banks were found guilty of rigging international currency markets and fined $5.5 billion. The very next day, the Securities and Exchange Commission issued the banks waivers from automatic punishment so they could continue business as usual. SEC Commissioner Kara M. Stein did not agree with letting the banks off the hook and issued a scathing dissent. The banks UBS, Barclays, Citigroup, JPMorgan Chase & Co, and the Royal Bank of Scotland had already been granted a total of 23 waivers after previous wrongdoing. Bank traders actually met in an online chat room called "The Cartel" or "The Mafia" and conspired to rig rates. The scheme ran for years. According …
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How to tell wicked sociopaths from ordinary sinners
Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. Quite a few people have been sending Lovefraud information lately on the religious and spiritual aspects of an experience with a sociopath. Here's another link suggested by a Lovefraud reader. 5 Indicators of an evil and wicked heart, on Crosswalk.com. The article is directed towards Christian counselors, to help them discern between people who have a truly evil heart, rather than an ordinary sinful heart. Read the article, and you'll see that those with evil hearts are clearly sociopaths. The author also identifies one of the key reasons why we don't "see" evil: " …
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