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Her daughter’s wedding should be a time of joy, but her ex is causing havoc

July 4, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  21 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from the reader who posts as "Elle." In 2014, my youngest daughter and I got a restraining order against my husband at the time due to violent rages and terrifying behavior he was exhibiting. Of course he would profess to our older 2 daughters he did nothing and we were lying … this is a man who NEVER took any responsibility for his behavior and was then and still is a pathological liar. At a divorce proceeding in April 2017, in spite of the restraining order in effect, he violated the order and I went to the police. He came after my daughter and I in the parking lot in a terrifying, arms flailing, cocky and belligerent manner sa …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Sociopaths and family

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Translating a sociopath’s text message as he attempts to hoover back his ex-wife

June 21, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  26 Comments

Editor's note: The following article was sent to Lovefraud by a reader whom we'll call "Maura." My friend Annie was sent this text from her sociopathic ex. Three and half years ago, he abandoned her and their sons after a 17-year marriage. No doubt other readers have had similar hoover texts, and either ignored them or fell for them. For entertainment and education purposes, we’ve analysed his standard manipulative ploys and use of charm to break down her defences and weasel his foot in the door. On the surface his text seems contrite and genuine enough. However, he is a sociopath who will do and say anything to lure her back in. The bottom line — it is all a con and he wants to exert c …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Sociopathic Behavior Was Trained Into Me

June 9, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  3 Comments

Editor's note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader acetiger01. Reverting back to the child self I kiss my boyfriend’s forehead lovingly as I pin him down before he has to go to work today. Lovingly being the way I look at him, touch him, the tone in my voice, as my grip is tight on his arms and my full weight on his chest to ensure that I speak to his subconscious as the dominant (even though he could easily out power me if given the chance). I smile sweetly and look up at him with big innocent brown eyes, a look I was taught from a young age could change someone’s perception of me entirely as I deliver harsh or distasteful information. I advise him to manipulate his c …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

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Are these warning signs that I’m involved with a sociopath?

May 3, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  4 Comments

Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Cassandra18." I've been a longtime reader of your website and wanted to thank you for what a valuable tool it is. I figured, I'd finally write in with a question of my own and I was hoping for some feedback from you. So, the thing is, I have a propensity to date very selfish, controlling people and two of my past relationships have been with verifiable sociopaths. Most recently, I have been in and out of a relationship with a man I used to work with. Something keeps telling me that something is off about him but I can't pinpoint it. Some of the warning signs that have happened while with …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Spath Tales

A warning letter to the next victim from the third ‘psycho’ wife

April 27, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  4 Comments

Editor's note: Yesterday Lovefraud posted a story from a woman in Australia whom we'll call "Shawna18." Read it here: I left the sociopath once I had everything back he stole from me and humiliated me in the process. She also wrote a letter to the next victim. "After 3 years of no contact I decided against all advice from the professionals to warn the new victim," Shawna18 says. "It doesn’t matter if she believes me or not, what matters is that if I planted a seed of doubt, then I will have done my job, unlike all the other women who knew him and didn’t have the balls to warn me about him." Names are changed. Cecilia, Let me introduce myself. I am the 3rd psycho who he had to get …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Spath Tales

I left the sociopath once I had everything back he stole from me and humiliated him in the process

April 26, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman in Australia whom we'll call "Shawna18." Tomorrow read Shawna's letter that she wrote to the next victim. Love bombed, soul mate within 1st day. Returned to his ex-wife, then returned to me when ex-wife didn't give him what he needed. Moved from Qld to Melb to be with him. Lived together four years, loneliest years of my life. Married me while he was seeing another woman who he continued to see for the next 3 years until caught. Divorced him immediately. Went back on his word to not contest what we had built together as long as I didn't contest what he owned before me (his business). Realised he was a nasty SOB …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

What Betrayal Taught Me

April 18, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  20 Comments

Editor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery. By Waleuska Lazo Betrayal. This eight-letter word conjures up scary thoughts. Betrayal is one of the deepest pains we go through because it hits us at the core of our ability to love and trust After my marriage ended I was grateful for the two loves of my life, my beautiful daughters. When I went into my next relationship, again I did with an implicit trust. In my mind, I was forming an invisible contract, or what I called a soul agreement. It was my assumption that I, as well as the other person, came to the relationship with pure intentions to share a lif …

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Category: Recovery from a sociopath, Spiritual and energetic recovery

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Is he a narc? Is he really hurt, or just his ego is hurt?

April 6, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Vania." English is not her first language. I think my ex is a narc but I'm still not sure. So I've been in a relationship with this guy for just 3 months. But it means a lot to me because I'm someone who's super not easy to open up with people, so once I did and once I fall, I will fall so hard. And I also think I am an empath. I'm a shy girl and this guy is the very opposite of me. He's so confident and unique, to be honest we are so different in many ways, but I think that's the thing that made us attracted to each other. I've never been in a serious relationship before because I'm hardly fall in …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

My tortured journey to discover the sociopathic truth behind the coincidences

April 4, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  2 Comments

Editor's note: The following story was written by the Lovefraud reader from Australia who goes by the name "Acharbet." He says, "The names I use below are false in order to protect the innocent, guilty and bystanders. I have preserved people's genders in their names, but have obscured ethnicities, which I consider to be irrelevant to my story." As mine is a convoluted story, a tortured story, and clearly not a terribly customary story, I am not going to write it in a terribly customary way. I will use no firm and fixed chronology. Instead, I am going to reveal events in the order in which their truths revealed themselves to me. She stood there, tall, severely overweight and with a …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Spath Tales

The sociopath came on strong and romantic — it was all a fraud

March 21, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  7 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Wilma18." The sociopath was engaged to my daughter. She is a very trusting and caring person. She was living in a town that was not close to family or friends and met this sociopath on a dating website. He lied to her from the beginning about past relationships. He came on strong and romantic. She doesn't fall for men quickly, but he was patient and after six months she was in love with him (his scam). There were signs that something wasn't exactly right but they happened so few and far between and when she happened to mention them to friends and family, she wasn't mentioning them to the same …

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