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Father tries to protect his daughter from mother’s violence and mistreatment

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a dad whom we'll call "Angelo." The mother of our daughter started off by trapping me, by saying she was on birth control when she actually was not. We had major problems due to her chatting with other men online so I left her. She threatened to kill me and herself when I told her I was done. I get a call from her about a month later, with her saying she was pregnant so I decided to give her another chance because of our soon-to-be-born daughter. The mother continued to threaten suicide and have major extreme bipolar episodes. She threatened suicide so much that she wrote it down on paper and signed it. I later found a letter …

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Stalking Q&A

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How do you know if you're being stalked? If you are, what should you do? The LadyLux website recently posted advice for women on stalking. The website interviewed four experts, including Brad Robinson, a former CIA agent who is a private investigator and a member of the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide. Here are some of the questions they addressed: How can a woman tell if she is being stalked? Is a stalker typically someone she knows, or a stranger? What should a woman do if she suspects she has a stalker? When should she contact the authorities? For the answers, and more information, read: Stalking: Are you a victim? on LadyLux.com.       …

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All I want is to live my life without my ex in it

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Editor's Note: This SPATH tale is an update to a story previously submitted by Lovefraud reader "Tina-Marie", 'I am getting more imprisoned daily'. My well connected, well moneyed sociopath ex-husband, who abandoned the children and me years ago, took every dime and signed custody over to me, resurfaced 18 months ago. He followed me to another state despite a cease and desist letter to not do so. He has had protective orders which he violated and got arrested for. He had two criminal charges for domestic violence with the current pending charges I just mentioned. He has sent me threatening emails and texts telling me that if I don't drop the charges, he will bring our son to court with …

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Watching the Sociopath Self-Destruct

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by Quinn Pierce  The Perpetual Victim I don't know how he does it.  It's a skill he continues to practice and perfect, I suppose. What's astonishing is his ability to twist any situation- no matter how absurd- into something where he can paint himself as the victim. Anyone who was even remotely involved in our lives last year would know that my ex-husband reached a new level of vindictive, hurtful behavior.  He manipulated every resource he could access including doctors, courts, school systems, and child services in two states.  It was such a forceful and constant barrage of attacks that I didn't even have time to collect my thoughts before responding. And that was his goal all alo …

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New Year’s Resolutions for Lovefraud readers

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Here we are, at the beginning of the New Year. Let's make it a year of recovery, healing and growth! I offer the following suggestions for New Year's resolutions: I will treat myself with love and respect regardless of how I may have been treated by others. I will trust my own perception of reality. I will maintain No Contact. I will accept that what happened actually did happen and let it go. I will listen to the still, small voice that knows the truth my intuition. I will evaluate other people by their actions, not their words. I will make time for my personal healing and growth. How about you? Do you have a resolution to share? I wish all Lovefraud readers a wonderful New Year!   …

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Know the signs of emotional abuse

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Emotional abuse in a marriage is a covert form of domestic violence. But by the time you identify the true problem, you may already feel like you are crazy. You doubt yourself and your own sense of reality, because emotional abuse is meant to cause you to question your every thought and behavior. An article on About.com does an excellent job of explaining emotional abuse.  It covers: Warning signs of emotional abuse How the victim feels Biderman's chart of coercion When you should seek help Are You a Victim of Emotional Abuse? from divorcesupport.about.com. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader   …

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My Bill Cosby experience: Did I dodge a bullet?

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A Lovefraud reader asked me to write about the Bill Cosby scandal. A total of 27 women have publicly come forward to tell their stories of being sexually assaulted by the famous comedian. A complete list of the women who have accused Bill Cosby of sexual assault, on Slate.com. As I read the accounts, I kept seeing virtually the same story, over and over. Many of the women were young models and actresses who claim Cosby made a pretense of offering them career advice. One woman, however, was a 19-year-old waitress who said Cosby offered her a ride home and then assaulted her. Another woman was 19 when Cosby approached her in a gift shop at the Las Vegas Hilton, where he was …

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I was chewed up and spit out in a ‘classic’ manner and at record speed

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 Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "two is enough." I have been involved with not one, but two, sociopaths, just over a decade apart. I encountered the first when I was 19 years old -- young, naive, and utterly ignorant to the existence of personality disorders. The damage I incurred was mind-bogglingly devastating -- I died emotionally, and, quite literally almost physically, from his abuse. In time though, I learned to be kind to myself over becoming a victim, because I truly didn't see it coming. Once in the throes of a disordered relationship with him, I lacked the experience to tell me that this wasn't normal or …

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Merry Christmas to all Lovefraud readers!

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Christmas is the time of peace and joy. To all Lovefraud readers, know that peace and joy are possible, even after what you've experienced. Commit to your recovery. Even if you experience a few bumps in the road, keep going. Through patience and perseverance, you can become whole again, I promise you. May the Christmas spirit help you move from the darkness to the light. Much love to all, Donna and Terry     …

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Sociopaths and Christmas

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In your dreams and desires, Christmas is a wonderful time of the year. You spend time with family and friends. You give and receive thoughtful gifts. If you are religious, you renew your faith. Christmas is supposed to be special. Of course, it doesn't always work out that way, but at least that's your goal. So how do sociopaths view Christmas? In my opinion, sociopaths view Christmas simply as another tool in their manipulation toolbox. They know that Christmas is important to their targets that would be you so they figure out how to use Christmas to advance their agendas. So, if sociopaths are in the love bombing stage, they may shower you with gifts and create unbelievably …

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