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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Lovefraud.com saved me from a sociopath

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Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call Jennette. Dear Donna, I saved myself from a sociopath thanks to your Lovefraud.com. Thank you very much, I can tell you now that you saved my life! You see, I was unlucky... He was my first boyfriend when I was 18 yrs old. He made me trust him with insane lies. He knew my weakness was not trusting people so easily. I was very vulnerable, kind, romantic and insecure. I broke up with him -- although I loved him -- because he cheated on me and my parents forced me to do this for my own good. He had haunted my dreams and mind for 10 years .The bond he had created couldn't break no matter how h …

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BOOK REVIEW: The Secret Life of Captain X

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Growing up, she was taught that a woman's success in life depended on a good marriage. She pursued show business instead. But still single the age of 39, she decided it was time for a change, and left the bright lights of New York City for Arizona. There she met a dashing airline pilot, whom she described as "funny, intelligent, committed, family-oriented, successful, caring and loving." Or, at least that's how he presented himself in the beginning. She fell for him. Fell hard. They married. For her that was the beginning of 22 years of confusion which, she later realized, was psychological and emotional abuse, inflicted by a psychopathic husband. She's divorced now, but her husband …

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Kibby arrested for kidnapping teen who returned home after 9 months missing

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A New Hampshire man was arrested Monday and charged with kidnapping 15-year-old Abigail "Abby" Hernandez more than nine months ago sometime after she left Kennett High School in Conway. Nathaniel Kibby, 34, was arrested without incident at his Gorham home, about 30 miles north of where the girl lives, and was charged with felony kidnapping, authorities said. After his arrest, authorities surrounded a shipping container on Kibby's property with crime scene tape. It is unknown at this time if Hernandez was kept in the shipping container for any of the time she was missing. Hernandez, her mother, Zenya, and sister, Sarah, surprised people when they showed up at Kibby's …

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Co-Parenting with a Psychopath: Two Insiders Tell Us What It’s Like

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by Quinn Pierce and H.G. Beverly Quinn Pierce and H.G. Beverly both married and divorced psychopaths. They both have children with these men and are therefore connected to them for life. Here, they share their experiences and advice. Let's start with a big, looming question. When and how did you figure out you were with a psychopath? Q.P. I had no idea I was married to a sociopath for most of my marriage. But the signs were there—for years, I battled depression, anxiety, feels of worthlessness, and all the classic symptoms of a spouse in an abusive relationship. However, I didn't know what a sociopath was, nor did I understand that abuse could be anything other than physical; so I ra …

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Mary Ann Glynn: Deceit – the most destructive abuse

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By Mary Ann Glynn, located in Bernardsville, New Jersey I have noticed that those who get involved with a sociopath, whether it's for 30 years or three months, the relationship has the same devastating effect. I've heard some describe even a brief encounter with a sociopath as the most destructive relationship they'd ever been in, even if they had previously been in a physically abusive relationship. What makes this true? Loss of value and power Any abusive relationship is destructive. In order to survive it, a person has to sublimate their needs and their identity, and a loss of self is experienced over time. Self-esteem is battered. Ongoing exposure to physical or verbal degradation from …

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21 psychopathic behaviors, illustrated by a sports profile

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A Lovefraud reader recently sent me a link to an article on SBNation.com, a sports website. The article is an in-depth portrait of a psychopath, although that word is never used. Here's the article: The many crimes of Mel Hall He was a flamboyant player, a charismatic coach, and a sexual predator Mel Hall was a professional baseball player for 13 years. He retired and capitalized on his status as a former pro player to get jobs coaching youth basketball and baseball. Hall only coached young girls. Some of them he molested. After 20 years, in June 2009, Hall was convicted of one of those assaults. Then, at the sentencing hearing, it was revealed that Hall had either abused or had …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: A tale of two sociopaths

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Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Thomas."  Names have been changed. The First Tale: The girlfriend's ex Last we communicated I was interested in getting your advice on how to handle the ex-husband of my girlfriend and the terror he rained down upon her. You may remember he was a lawyer who knew how to deal with the law and use it to his advantage as a shield enabling him to be even more effective as a sociopath. The threats, the lying, the manipulation and the poison that he spread was unconscionable and designed to hurt and ruin the lives of others unless they did what he wanted. I was so taken aback by his unrelenting agg …

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Mary Ann Glynn: Mind Warrior app helps you reclaim your lost self and heal from PTSD

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By Mary Ann Glynn, located in Bernardsville, New JerseyIn recent years technology has made it possible to study as never before how the brain works and what can effectively change and heal it. Neuroplasticity, the opening of new neural pathways in the brain, is the key factor.  I developed a therapeutic app to help this process, called Mind Warrior â„¢. Survival mode For those caught in a relationship with a sociopath, the brain's response to the ongoing trauma puts us in “survival mode” and we can lose our grip on the ability to cope (choose positive and healthy ways of feeling).  Indeed, we can be stuck in the cycle of abuse and deception, which produces feelings of confusion, u …

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Will Jordan exposed on TV on July 24, with commentary by Donna Andersen

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Will Jordan had a routine. He went online to meet single mothers. He seduced them with flowery emails. He told them he had no children, but really wanted a child. He got the woman pregnant all while draining her assets. Childless Will Jordan actually had 13 children with eight different women. He didn't support the children. And the women lost hundreds of thousands of dollars. One of his targets, Mary Turner Thomson of Scotland, wrote a book about her experience. She had two children with Jordan, all the while believing that he was a CIA agent, as he told her. But at the same time, Jordan was married to a British woman, with whom he had five children. When the women found out about each …

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3 Signs You Should Stop Hurting the Sociopath in Your Life

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So you're wondering if you're with someone who has a character disorder? Maybe a narcissist? Or a sociopath? If you are, you might often be accused of hurting that poor person. Here are three things you might be blamed for, otherwise known as red flags: 1. A person with a character disorder is not responsible for his or her life. You are. And if you don't step up to the plate with a full wallet, lots of energy, and a constant smile, then you're going to hear about it. About how mean you are. Uncaring. Unloving. Unwilling. Even if you've been stepping up to the plate with all of the above for years and are simply worn out by your partner's inability to invest alongside you. Even when you're …

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