How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

You are here: Home / Lovefraud Blog

Two men guilty of killing their young children out of anger towards the mothers

//  by //  2 Comments

Jeremy Brent Cramer, 38, of Lacey, Washington had a confrontation with his wife, Nataliya. She wanted him to clean up his act. Cramer took their almost 4-year-old son, Broderick, and left. He drove until he ran out of gas in Montana. Then he took the child, smashed his head with a rock, slashed his throat and dismembered the body. On April 4, 2014 Cramer was sentenced to life without parole. Washington man gets life in prison in son's death, on News.Yahoo.com. In New Jersey, Arthur Morgan III was angry with Amani Benton for breaking off their engagement. So he took their daughter, 2-year-old Tierra Morgan-Glover, strapped her into her car seat, weighed it down with a tire iron, and …

Two men guilty of killing their young children out of anger towards the mothersRead More

What NOT to do when you realize you’re involved with a sociopath

//  by //  162 Comments

You've been living in insanity. Your partner seems to randomly lash out or give you the silent treatment, and then says you're to blame. Your finances are in shambles, and you're to blame for that too even if you're the only one working. You are positive that this person is cheating on you, but he or she insists you are paranoid and delusional. Or, in a variation on a theme, you are living with the distinct feeling that something is amiss, although you can't quite figure out what it is. You Google terms like "emotional abuse" or "signs of cheating" or "love and deceit." Eventually you end up on Lovefraud. Suddenly, everything makes sense. The articles describe what you're experiencing. …

What NOT to do when you realize you’re involved with a sociopathRead More

LETTER TOLOVEFRAUD: I saw her true self when we were alone; she put on a show for others

//  by //  22 Comments

Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by Lovefraud reader “Pricer," about his wife. Donna, I would first like to thank you for your efforts in helping others like us cope with the aftermath of a relationship with a sociopath. I also express my condolences for you and everyone else who has suffered at the hands of such a person. I, like yourself, never knew what a sociopath even was until my divorce and I got online searching for answers. My search led me to your site and others and I want to let you know that what you are doing here is not only a good thing but the right thing as well. I am a member on your site and just like everyone else, my story is much too long f …

LETTER TOLOVEFRAUD: I saw her true self when we were alone; she put on a show for othersRead More

When The Boogeyman Is Real – Seeing Sociopaths Through A Child’s Eyes

//  by //  20 Comments

You are home alone. In bed. In the dark. Suddenly there is a loud thud. It came from inside the house. What was that? You are trying to fall asleep, but your nerves won't let you. Laying on your back staring at the ceiling, you clutch the blanket around your neck. You are careful not to move. What if there is someone - or something - in the house? Did you lock the doors? Are you sure? You strain your ears to listen. The little hairs on the back of your neck stand up. Goosebumps cover your arms. Your heart is pounding. You hold your breath. You are so frightened that tears well up in your eyes, but you don't dare cry. Audibly crying might attract the attention of......it. That fear was …

When The Boogeyman Is Real – Seeing Sociopaths Through A Child’s EyesRead More

Prologue of a Sociopath

//  by //  36 Comments

The following piece considers our rampant professional failure to not only identify sociopaths but also to know how to label and talk about them if they are identified. It is an excerpt from The Other Side of Charm, which is by me, H.G. Beverly. Here it is: I'm going to start you off by talking about psychopaths. Why not? I can't think of a better way to start off a story about how a charming, apparently caring man can maintain a sparkling smile as he devastates you. Maybe you'll recognize some of these tendencies in people you know. Maybe you'll be surprised. So let's talk about it. Psychopath. Sociopath. Antisocial Personality Disorder. The labels are muddled and confusing because th …

Prologue of a SociopathRead More

Introducing a new Lovefraud Contributor: Wendy S. Weber, who was “Raised by Psychopaths”

//  by //  7 Comments

Over the years, Lovefraud has heard from about a hundred people who realize that their mother, father, stepparent, or perhaps all of them, were psychopaths. These readers repeatedly asked for articles to address their experience. Fortunately for me, I did not share that experience. But unfortunately for them, I could not possibly do justice to what they endured in any article that I would write. Still, I recognize how important it is to give voice to the madness of growing up with self-centered, manipulative and abusive parents, and the struggle to recover from the ordeal. So I am pleased to announce that Wendy S. Weber, whose mother and father were both psychopaths, will now be …

Introducing a new Lovefraud Contributor: Wendy S. Weber, who was “Raised by Psychopaths”Read More

BOOK REVIEW: The Other Side of Charm

//  by //  30 Comments

In her new book, The Other Side of Charm Your Memoir, author H. G. Beverly gives voice to the emotional experience of being married to, or more appropriately, ambushed by, a psychopath. She captures the shock, outrage, disbelief and confusion better than any book I've ever read. The basic story is that Helen Beverly knew the man, whom she calls Wyatt, for almost her entire life. They both grew up in farm country, and she married him when she was 24. After the wedding he immediately embarked on a subtle campaign to subjugate her. The first step was to convince her to drop out of veterinary school. After all, they agreed that they wanted a family, and they agreed that she should stay home …

BOOK REVIEW: The Other Side of CharmRead More

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: To she who has a child with the sociopath from the “other woman”

//  by //  12 Comments

Editor's Note: The Lovefraud reader "bodicasway" recently sent in the following note. It's a message she wishes she could send to the former partner of the sociopath that she was involved with. I have been thinking lately about the woman who puts up with this spath because they have a child together, because she let him move back into property next door to her, because she sees what he's up to all the time ”¦ because I was involved with him as were countless other women. Right under her nose. Dear Friend, I know that you've seen countless women come and go right under your window, right outside the door of your own home. I can only imagine how that must feel for you, how that must rake yo …

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: To she who has a child with the sociopath from the “other woman”Read More

Research continues to show differences in psychopath brain activity

//  by //  2 Comments

Scientists have shown that there is a specific network of brain regions involved in mediating moral judgment. Based on research, "antisocial groups" such as psychopaths may know what is moral, but they may lack a feeling of what is moral. Several researchers have additionally suggested that the brain areas involved in moral judgment overlap with what is called the "default mode network," which is involved in our "baseline" state of being awake but at rest. Many research teams approach the morality issue by concentrating on different parts of the brain and different kinds of studies. Similar research is also being conducted on those with autistic brains. Link suggested by a Lovefraud …

Research continues to show differences in psychopath brain activityRead More

Are Your Cell Phone Communications Safe?

//  by //  28 Comments

By Brad Robinson, Private Investigator We are often asked by our clients who are in the midst of a messy divorce, a contentious child custody battle or a serious stalker situation, "Can he/she be intercepting my cellphone communications?" In almost all cases, the short answer is, "Yes." Cell phone “spyware” Today, it's not just those 3-letter spy agencies who may be listening in to our most private exchanges. Surprisingly sophisticated and inexpensive cellphone "spyware" can be found and purchased online by anyone. The better versions enable an unauthorized eavesdropper to remotely capture copies of your call log, address book, text messages, photos and more (bank account PIN, anyone?). I …

Are Your Cell Phone Communications Safe?Read More