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Sociopaths Triangulate To Keep You Off-balance And Doubting Yourself

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 36: One Big, Happy Extended Family Two years after starting A-M-P Consulting Solutions, we were stable enough financially to do something we had not done in years—go on a family vacation. I was excited about getting away, just Paul, Jessica, Daniel, and me. My enthusiasm was short-lived, however. Paul and Anne-Marie realized if they conducted business while on “vacation,” they co …

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Why I wrote my new book, ‘Combating Romance Scams, Why Lying to Get Laid Is a Crime!’

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By Joyce Short Romance scams are a crime epidemic! We read about them daily in the news and many of us here on Lovefraud have suffered from this malicious behavior! We were defrauded of our highest emotion, which is love, and deceived into sex by someone totally different than who they pretended to be. Millions have fallen victim to this crime wave. It won't stop ”˜til we do something about it! That's why I wrote Combating Romance Scams: Why Lying to Get Laid Is a Crime! I recently learned that Federal Prosecutors in Missouri included information about my blog, Stop Rape By Fraud, in their indictment to lock up a “serial rapist.” He'd used false pretenses to con over 30 victims. But blogs …

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Dylann Roof sentenced to death for murdering nine people in church

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Dylann Roof, they 22-year-old white supremacist convicted of murdering nine churchgoers in an African American congregation, was sentenced to death. Roof acted as his own attorney during the sentencing. He was unrepentant. He said: "In my confession to the FBI, I told them that I had to do it. I felt like I had to do it when I said that and I still feel that way." Roof also said, "There's nothing wrong with me psychologically." Spoken like a true psychopath. Dylann Roof sentenced to DEATH by jury for cold-blooded massacre of nine black Charleston churchgoers after the unrepentant killer refused to defend himself and said he would do it all again, on DailyMail.co.uk     …

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Dr. Jekyll + Mr. Hyde Behavior = Sociopath

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 35B: The Weeds Always Win Consistent with sociopath math, Paul's refusal to help knew no bounds. One Sunday, I went down to our basement to do laundry, only to discover two inches of water on the floor. The water heater had broken and flooded our basement with over sixty gallons of water. Grumbling about being distracted from watching a football game, Paul sized up the s …

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If our emotions are triggered, there’s more pain to process

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Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader—we'll call her Sally: It's been almost four years since I left my ex psychopath. He almost had me take my own life through guilt, when it was him lying, cheating, committing fraud, you name it—a textbook case. The reason I write to you today, however, is I am so sad and disappointed in myself yet again. Four years and I thought I was over the damage done by the psychopath so I stepped out of my comfort zone to contact an old friend I had not seen since before the psychopath came into my life. I made a decision to visit my male friend and we had a nice time. When I returned I started analysing the situation. Was my friend ju …

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Kelly Cochran, possible serial killer, awaits trial in Michigan

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Kelly Cochran, of Caspian, Michigan, began an affair with a co-worker, Chris Regan. But when Kelly's husband, Jason Cochran, found out, he was furious, and threatened to kill Regan. Instead, the Cochrans allegedly hatched a plot to kill Regan together. Then they dismembered his body. But Kelly Cochran was angry, and 16 months later, she allegedly killed her husband, making the death look like a heroin overdose. Kelly told a police detective that she wouldn't lose sleep over her husband's death. "You feel (emotion)," she said, according to DetroitNews.com, "and I can't." Killings may go beyond U.P. woman's husband, lover, on DetroitNews.com. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.   …

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For the holidays, give yourself the gift of honoring your experience

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How do you get through the season of joy and hope when a lying, destructive, individual has wreaked havoc in your life? First, be gentle with yourself. You are a normal, caring, person. Perhaps you wanted to love and be loved, as all normal people do. Perhaps you felt sorry for the individual and wanted to help. Your intentions were honorable, but the exploiter took advantage of your humanity. Second, honor your experience. What does that mean? It means accepting that it happened. Much of the pain and confusion of tangling with a sociopath comes from not wanting to believe that these individuals are what they are, and they do what they do. Accepting that yes, they exist, and yes, you were …

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Divorcing a Narcissist: Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, offers “Advice from the Battlefield”

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Professor who murdered his wife asks for money to start over, but maybe he shouldn’t have

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Ten years ago, on Dec. 22, 2006, Rafael Robb, of King of Prussia, Pennsylvania, bludgeoned his wife, Ellen Gregory Robb, to death as she wrapped Christmas presents. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 10 years in prison. Robb, a former University of Pennsylvania economics professor and an expert in game theory, was supposed to be released in January. A civil suit awarded $124.26 million to the couple's daughter, who was 12 when her mother was killed. Robb listed assets of approximately $3 million in the civil lawsuit. This week, Robb petitioned the court for $100,000 of his  assets to set up a new life after prison. But in a hearing, he mentioned an account in France, which he had not di …

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After 10 years of abuse, New Jersey woman is found dead; police search for her husband

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State Police are searching for Jeremiah Monell, 32, of Commercial Township in southern New Jersey, who allegedly killed his wife. Tara O'Shea-Watson, 35, endured 10 years of beatings and abuse, friends and relatives say in an article in the Press of Atlantic City. Monell would "freak out" on his wife if she talked to family members, the victim's friend said. Over the past few months, according to the friend, O'Shea-Watson finally decided to enforce a restraining order and filed for divorce. She was found unconscious and unresponsive in her home Monday morning. State Police continue to search woods for Commercial Township murder suspect, on PressOfAtlanticCity.com. …

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