I've been writing my next book and decided to share a piece of it. Here it is: All my life, I've been surrounded by facts and figures about how many years you lose if you do certain things. Like smoke cigarettes. Or do drugs. Or drink too much alcohol. People like to threaten and motivate each other with scary statistics that encompass not only dangerous behaviors but also self-neglect. Like failing to exercise. Or skipping stress-reduction techniques. “For every year you smoke, you take a year off your life.” Something like that. But I don't think anyone knows how many years you lose to a psychopath. Not even counting the years you spend going crazy before you finally figure out wha …
I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 2 of 2)
Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." Read Part 1. I had been asking questions to the family friend about why the guys were either quitting or getting fired within a few weeks. My guy kept blaming them; they started out great but in his eyes they turned out to be lazy. The next day is when I spoke to family friends that had worked for him only to be fired or had quit. He was bullying them and had told them what they did together stayed between them, don't tell me. They confirmed my suspicions, he had a fling with my old neighbor, was talking to other women on the phone, meeting other woman for lunch and kissing them goodbye etc. …
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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 1 of 2)
Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." I met him on the job. He has an extensive background, a felon. He was a very hard worker, very charming, charismatic, exuded an excellent work ethic, polite, respectful, and impresses most with all of these qualities but mostly with work ethic. That is what impressed me, plus his intelligence. I expressed that I hoped he got his life together once he was released because he was too intelligent and hardworking to have allowed himself to get into this trouble. Once I made that statement, it was on. He was very aggressive in being polite, a gentleman, always there to help me and talk to me. He …
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American Sniper: Sheep, wolves and sheepdogs
American Sniper, starring Bradley Cooper and directed by Clint Eastwood, is one very intense movie. It tells the story of Chris Kyle, the Navy SEAL sniper with 160 officially confirmed kills, although in his memoir of the same title Kyle says he probably killed twice that number. Regardless of what Lovefraud readers may think about war, guns, the military, Iraq, etc., I want to talk about one scene from the beginning of the movie. In the scene, Chris Kyle is a boy of perhaps 11 or 12, sitting at the dinner table with his family. Earlier in the day, he got into a fight to protect his younger brother. Kyle's father uses the incident to gravely address his boys. He says: “There are three t …
No Remorse
I received a text: I am driving to Middleburg to sign paperwork. If u can sign today we will be done w all this stuff. Want to celebrate? My ex husband sent me this text on June 4, 2013. We'd been in court for most of seven years at that point, first for our divorce and then again when he filed for full custody of two of our three children and requested that I have no visitation. He only wanted the boys. I was working at my computer when the text came in. I looked at the time on the corner of my screen—12:17pm. What, did he want to get a drink? Go out to lunch and blow off the rest of the afternoon together? What exactly did he have in mind? I went back to working and then picked …
Paris terrorists and talking about evil
Three Islamist terrorists shot dead 12 people at the Charlie Hebdo satire magazine in Paris, including four famous cartoonists. The magazine was targeted because its cartoons supposedly defamed the Prophet Muhammad. Actually, Charlie Hebdo was an equal-opportunity offender. The publication criticized anyone who deserved it. In solidarity with Charlie Hebdo, which was among the few media outlets willing to draw attention to evil, Lovefraud has posted one of their cartoons. You can see more here: These are the Charlie Hebdo cartoons that terrorists thought were worth killing over, on HuffingtonPost.com. And here are tributes drawn by other cartoonists from around the world: Charlie …
Stalking Q&A
How do you know if you're being stalked? If you are, what should you do? The LadyLux website recently posted advice for women on stalking. The website interviewed four experts, including Brad Robinson, a former CIA agent who is a private investigator and a member of the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide. Here are some of the questions they addressed: How can a woman tell if she is being stalked? Is a stalker typically someone she knows, or a stranger? What should a woman do if she suspects she has a stalker? When should she contact the authorities? For the answers, and more information, read: Stalking: Are you a victim? on LadyLux.com. …
Watching the Sociopath Self-Destruct
by Quinn Pierce The Perpetual Victim I don't know how he does it. It's a skill he continues to practice and perfect, I suppose. What's astonishing is his ability to twist any situation- no matter how absurd- into something where he can paint himself as the victim. Anyone who was even remotely involved in our lives last year would know that my ex-husband reached a new level of vindictive, hurtful behavior. He manipulated every resource he could access including doctors, courts, school systems, and child services in two states. It was such a forceful and constant barrage of attacks that I didn't even have time to collect my thoughts before responding. And that was his goal all alo …
You can contribute to the research on female psychopaths
A scientific review published last year summarized the research literature about female psychopaths. But I wonder about the accuracy of the underlying information. Three researchers from Norway, Rolf Wynn, Marita H. Hoiseth, and Gunn Pettersen, recently published the review. They concluded that when compared to male psychopaths, female psychopaths more often seem to show emotional instability, verbal violence and manipulation of social networks, and less criminal behavior and instrumental violence. This study, which is quite readable, it explains how the disorder is defined and diagnosed. If you'd like to be familiar with the scientific community's views of psychopathy, it's a good …
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Protect yourself: Learn from Australia’s amazing ScamWatch website
The Daily Telegraph in Australia recently posted the following article: Local man loses $7,000 in internet love scam then calls the police, on the DailyTelegraph.com.au. The man met a woman from Ghana on line, she professed her love, and then asked him to send money so she could visit him. Of course, it was a ruse. Yes, men as well as women lose money to online dating scams. But the most important part of the article was a reference to ScamWatch, a comprehensive consumer protection website developed by the Australian government. This website is fabulous. It lists all types of scams and offers support for scam victims. Check it out. If you're online, you need to know this i …
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