How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

You are here: Home / Archives for Female sociopaths

She told me to give her money or stay out of our child’s life

//  by //  8 Comments

Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Sebastian." Dated a female sociopath over 3-4 years and have a child with her. The child is now over 2 years old. She was held for 72-hour observation on average once every 3 months. Constant shoplifter, abused Rx medications, and would cheat on occasion. The stealing and drug-use was accompanied by remarks, for example, "I stole cause you don't give me enough money," or "prescription medications are fine because doctors prescribe them," and "I did it cause you didn't pay enough attention to me." I was working 40+ hours a week, going to school full time, and still taking her to 4 therapy sessions …

She told me to give her money or stay out of our child’s lifeRead More

Father tries to protect his daughter from mother’s violence and mistreatment

//  by //  3 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a dad whom we'll call "Angelo." The mother of our daughter started off by trapping me, by saying she was on birth control when she actually was not. We had major problems due to her chatting with other men online so I left her. She threatened to kill me and herself when I told her I was done. I get a call from her about a month later, with her saying she was pregnant so I decided to give her another chance because of our soon-to-be-born daughter. The mother continued to threaten suicide and have major extreme bipolar episodes. She threatened suicide so much that she wrote it down on paper and signed it. I later found a letter …

Father tries to protect his daughter from mother’s violence and mistreatmentRead More

She is taking everything I own and trying to destroy me

//  by //  6 Comments

Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Victor." I met my wife seven years ago. She was still married but told me her husband was abusive and she was working on a separation with him. He left the home and she bought him out (very little equity in the home). About six months after he left I moved in with her. We became engaged after three years and had a very passionate relationship. I was so proud and happy and we were so close. We married in 2011. Everything was great and we really got along well. I did notice that she would never say sorry for anything she did and it was always me that paid for things. We sold the house after I …

She is taking everything I own and trying to destroy meRead More

I am now the enemy, and I’ve never witnessed such coldness from the person I used to call my wife

//  by //  4 Comments

Editor's Note: This Spath tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who uses the name "Wiserfromit." I believe I was married to a sociopath for over ten years. She was an old date from high school and had recently run into my friend and gotten my email address. We started talking via email for a couple months (we lived about eight hour's  drive from each other). We agreed to meet near her and on our first meeting, she said I love you. I went along with it because it felt too good to be true. We went looking for rings soon after and got engaged about five months after our initial contact. I had proposed to her when she was visiting me in my town and the next day, she was on the phone …

I am now the enemy, and I’ve never witnessed such coldness from the person I used to call my wifeRead More

Lovefraud Female Sociopath Survey – please share what you know

//  by //  4 Comments

Do you know a woman or girl who you believe may have sociopathic traits? If you do, tell Lovefraud about her. Most experts believe that there are more male sociopaths than female. In fact, experts estimate that there are three times as many disordered males as females. Research about sociopaths is generally done with males. Not much is known about disordered women. So I'd like to gather data about female sociopaths for a new book that explains what they are really like. I'm looking for input from Lovefraud readers who have been involved with female sociopaths in any of the following capacities: Spouse or ex-spouse Romantic partner She is your mother She is your stepmother She is …

Lovefraud Female Sociopath Survey – please share what you knowRead More

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Sociopathic wife determines what husband is ‘allowed’ to do

//  by //  23 Comments

 Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Friend's Keeper.” I am writing this about a friend who I am trying to help who is clearly involved with a sociopath. My friend is a male, married to a sociopathic woman. Her acts and behavior are really unbelievable unless you see for yourself. What he's ”˜allowed' She takes his entire paychecks (salary plus state pension totaling $14,000/mo), and puts him on a $100/mo allowance, which he gets only if he's good, while she takes the rest. She convinces him it's all for him. He's only allowed out of the house to go to work, and she times him on when he gets home. He's not allowed out on the even …

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Sociopathic wife determines what husband is ‘allowed’ to doRead More

LETTER LOVEFRAUD: Countermeasures to deal with the sociopathic ex

//  by //  11 Comments

Editor's note: Here is a letter from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "GI Joe." This reader is in the military, so July 4th seemed an appropriate time to post this article. First, I want to acknowledge him and all members of the military for their service. Secondly, the answers to his questions have to do with freedom. My ex-wife and I divorced in 2012. The marriage was a nightmare that lasted more than 11 years and left me financially ruined, emotionally distressed and alone. To make matters worse, my ex moved out of state with my children, making it impossible for me to see my children on a regular basis. Since I was in a financial hurt locker, it took me years before I was able to …

LETTER LOVEFRAUD: Countermeasures to deal with the sociopathic exRead More

Pro-arrest policies for domestic violence show women arrests growing

//  by //  8 Comments

When it comes to domestic violence, the traditional scenario has been of men abusing and beating women. At the Gainesville Police Department in Alachua County, Florida, arrests of women on domestic battery or assault charges have sometimes outpaced the arrests of men. Bruce Ferris, a former Gainesville police detective who investigated domestic violence cases, said many women charged with domestic violence are themselves victims of batterers and are defending themselves or striking out against repeated abuse. Many states have a mandatory pro-arrest policy, where if police are dispatched to a domestic violence call, the aggressor must be arrested. For officers answering a call, it is …

Pro-arrest policies for domestic violence show women arrests growingRead More

The “Functional Female Sociopath”…..Good For Society?

//  by //  14 Comments

According to various opinions, not all sociopaths are created equal. There are the "non-functional" sociopaths (i.e., serial killers) and "functional" sociopaths (i.e., successful sociopaths).  The functional female sociopath uses her lack of empathy to annihilate those pesky male counterparts (or, frankly, anyone who gets in the way), paving the way for woman-kind. Yay them!  Right?   I mean, why can't functional female sociopaths be on the same playing field as functional male sociopaths?  Well, they can be.  And they are.  The last time I checked, evil is still evil.  You can put a dress suit and lipstick on it, or you can put starched collars and neckties on it, sociopathy is still a b …

The “Functional Female Sociopath”…..Good For Society?Read More

Beware The Female Sociopath

//  by //  18 Comments

Twenty years ago, a newspaper unknowingly helped conceal a sociopath's secrets by painting the woman as a loving maternal figure. In an interview granted by the publication, she described her "heartbreak" over lack of adequate benefits for her mentally handicapped son. Attached to the article is a photo of the frail looking woman, packing a lunch for him as he looks on in the background. Frustrated with the state's deficient programs, she is quoted as having "cried many, many tears" because there were such limited opportunities for her son. Little did the interviewer know it was all a ruse to cover the truth: this same mother mentally, verbally and physically abused her son, gaslighted him, …

Beware The Female SociopathRead More