My divorce papers finalized recently and my name was changed back to my maiden name. I found myself signing my maiden name a couple times today and smiled. I smiled because for some reason my maiden name means something to me. It symbolizes who I really am. Not because a name makes someone who they are, but because of who I was when I was that name. Being with a sociopath for more than 10 years made me into a person that I was not; a person that I did not want to be. I lost myself. Every time I sign my maiden name or someone asks me my name, I feel relieved to respond because I feel like I am stating over and over again who I really am, not who I became. There is much to talk about and …
How to tell wicked sociopaths from ordinary sinners
Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. Quite a few people have been sending Lovefraud information lately on the religious and spiritual aspects of an experience with a sociopath. Here's another link suggested by a Lovefraud reader. 5 Indicators of an evil and wicked heart, on Crosswalk.com. The article is directed towards Christian counselors, to help them discern between people who have a truly evil heart, rather than an ordinary sinful heart. Read the article, and you'll see that those with evil hearts are clearly sociopaths. The author also identifies one of the key reasons why we don't "see" evil: " …
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The Universe Wants You To Be With Your Psychopath – Is It True?
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/4w42k3cg1W8" title="9%20Toxic%20Soulmate%20signs"] Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. By Jade Joddle For those of us who are spiritually awakening or who have a well-developed third eye chakra, the experience of falling in love is a catalyst for peak spiritual experiences. This means that when falling in love, incredible, magical experiences may occur between oneself and one's lover. Since such experiences are so out of this world, a person experiencing the strange phenomena may then search for meaning in them and conclude that the universe has united them with their …
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Advice for Christians involved with sociopaths
If you're a Christian woman, is it your duty to work harder and harder to please an abusive husband? If you're a Christian, should you hold out hope that God will change a sociopath? If you're a Christian, is it your duty to lead a sociopath to Christ? No, no and no, says Shannon Thomas, LCSW-S, a Christian counselor from Southlake, Texas. She explains why in her blog article: When a Christian meets a sociopath, on SouthlakeCounseling.org. If you've struggled with these ideas, please read this article. It may give you a new perspective. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader. …
After 30 years with a sociopath, she’s now having the time of her life
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a 67-year-old woman whom we'll call "Maura." Lied, cheated, used me and others. Serial adultery, pornography, probable bisexual behaviors, never used condoms. I didn't know about the adultery until much later. He suffered a head injury, and I mistakenly attributed his bad behaviors to that. Violent and aggressive. Marital fraud; some possessions, like a boat and trailer, "disappeared." Claimed money and objects were stolen, but never reported thefts to the police. Nagged and pestered me constantly to buy large items, mostly vehicles, that we couldn't afford. Developed "hobbies" that kept him away from home on a regular …
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Know the truth: You are worthy
I recently received a very short email that asked a very important question. Here it is: Can you give me some advice on how to deal with people who proclaim that I'm worth nothing? By way of background, the email came from a young woman whom we'll call "Alma." Alma is a college student who first wrote to me back in January. A man who supervised her during her summer internship showed interest in her. Although the young woman initially did not respond, he pursued and pursued, until, thinking that he really loved her, Alma finally accepted him. Then, when she left the internship, the man dumped her. Alma was traumatized and could not concentrate on her studies. But people around her …
How long does it take to recover from a sociopath?
Most of you who come to Lovefraud are here because you suspect, or have concluded, that your partner is a sociopath. You are shocked, traumatized, betrayed, disappointed, angry. You may know, on an intellectual level, that you need to end the relationship, but you may find it hard to take the steps to do it. Or, you have already ended the relationship and are working to maintain No Contact with the individual, even as he or she pleads, cries or threatens, trying to draw you back into the web. Whatever your circumstances, you feel terrible. Your emotions range from grief to sadness to disappointment to fear to anger to hatred. Internally, you're a churning hot mess, and you want an answer …
The Tapping Solution: Help for overcoming the devastation of a sociopath
How do you get over the devastation of a sociopath? Some Lovefraud readers have successfully used Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping. It's easy. It looks funny. It can be free, if you teach it to yourself. And it works. EFT tapping combines ancient Chinese acupressure with modern psychology. The technique can alleviate many conditions, from anxiety to physical pain to PTSD. To see how it works, watch this documentary. It's available free online for a limited time. The Tapping Solution documentary …
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How to protect yourself from sociopathic charm
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following article from a user whom we'll call "Fiona." I'm currently being discarded. He has someone else lined up already, I found that out by reading his cellphone. I have moved towns already and he may have been sleeping with other people on and off throughout our relationship. I have found “no contact” very difficult. However, I think after my last visit back to see him, I've reached a stage where the absolute pointlessness of it is impossible to ignore. I know he has never cared for me. I don't want to tell the details of my story, but rather to point out a couple of things that I've found to be lifelines out of this situation. I knew it was ba …
Why am I a magnet for sociopaths?
I received the following email from a woman, whom we'll call "Adriana," who had been in touch several years ago about the psychopath in her life. Her experience was so outrageous that I wrote it up as one of the True Lovefraud Stories. As you'll see from her email, after that destructive involvement, she met three more psychopaths. Her question is, "Why?" Read her story: Adriana's story After dealing with that psychopath I didn't date anybody for 3 years, the trauma was so hard on my trust I just couldn't bring myself to date anybody. Finally after 3 years of healing I dated a person from my workplace; I'm a teacher. It lasted only 4 months with multiple cheating on me with other …