Laws and courts

by Lesson Learned During your interaction with law enforcement it is normal to feel, anxious and somewhat intimidated. Even when you're in the right, something about that badge, gun and the general demeanor of cops can make you feel stressed. What you should not feel is fear”¦at least from the officers. If you feel fear — if they are standing too close, or are intentionally appearing intimidating, ask them calmly if they would take a step back as you're feeling a little overwhelmed. This is where a witness is crucial. If the officer will not step back you have a witness to attest to that and he knows it. Throughout this I will refer to law enforcement as ”˜he' for expedience and because …

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Catch Joyce Short, author of Carnal Abuse by Deceit, and soon-to-be released, Don't Swallow That Catfish Hook, discussing why "lying to get laid" is a crime on CBC radio Sunday, September 11, 2016 at 11 am EDT. Jim Brown, an award winning producer and the highly acclaimed host of The 180 — Canada's national radio show to spark conversation on hot topics — jumped right in on the important question ”¦ “People often tell little white lies to impress a possible partner. At what point do those lies add up to fraud?“ Short stresses that this discussion applies to sexual assault by fraud victims, whether they live in Bombay, Boston or Bangkok. "All around the world, victims suffer the humiliation …

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A Florida woman called the police in April 2015 the father of her child choked her and threatened her with a knife. The man was arrested and put on trial. Suffering from anxiety, the domestic violence victim failed to show up to testify. Florida Judge Jerri Collins berated the woman, charged her with contempt of court, and threw her in jail for three days even though the victim pleaded that she had a 1-year-old child to care for. On Wednesday, Judge Collins was publicly reprimanded on live TV for her "intolerable" behavior by the Florida Supreme Court. This should happen more often. Judge who berated and jailed a domestic abuse victim gets her day in court — and it's not pretty, on …

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Judge Lou Olivera, of the Cumberland County, North Carolina, veterans court program, sentenced Sgt. Joseph Serna, a Special Forces soldier who did four combat tours in Afghanistan, to 24 hours in jail for violating probation. Judge Olivera knew that Sgt. Serna suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). So when the judge saw Serna trembling as he turned himself in to serve the sentence, Judge Olivera decided to serve the time with him. Read: A compassionate judge sentences a veteran to 24 hours in jail, then joins him behind bars, on WashingtonPost.com. Yes, what Judge Olivera did to support Sgt. Serna is terrific. But what really impressed me was his effort in establishing the …

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Editor's note: Joyce M. Short is the author of “Carnal Abuse by Deceit How a Predator's Lies Became Rape.” By Joyce M. Short Susy's Story A woman we'll call Susy met a man, Ruben, through the internet. His profile stated he was single and thirty-nine years old. He was an Army Colonel and newly back from his second tour of duty in Afghanistan. His experience had taught him how valuable family and loving relationships were, and he was determined to find the love of his life. After six months of dating, he asked for her hand in marriage. Ruben was great with her kids. She had a nine year old boy and twelve year old girl. Their birth father was on and off drugs and in and out of employment. …

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Divorcing my sociopathic husband was horrific. Hopefully, what I've learned can spare you some pain and aggravation, but by the very nature of interacting with any sociopath, there will still be pain and aggravation. Few Documents Can Stand Up to Intense, Constant, Malicious Scrutiny—But Do Your Best My book Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned (available via Amazon.com) chronicles my corrosive marriage and my toxic divorce.  The book, however, does not delve into the specifics of my divorce agreement that provided the foundation for excessive post-divorce legal expense and litigation. Other lawyers who reviewed my divorce agreement felt …

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A matrimonial judge in Brooklyn, New York, has ordered the husband in a divorce case to allow his computers and cell phones to be inspected for evidence that he intercepted his wife's confidential communications with her attorney. In the case of Crocker C. v. Anne R., Justice Jeffrey Sunshine ordered sheriffs to seize Crocker's electronics without notice. According to the New York Law Journal, a technician retained by the wife's attorneys had discovered three spyware programs in her phone: Pangu, which is used to circumvent the iPhone's anti-spyware protection (called "jailbreaking") mSpy, which enabled access to emails, text messages and call history, along with GPS …

New York man allegedly plants spyware on wife’s iPhone before filing for divorceRead More