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Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

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Sociopath reveals her disorder in her email address

December 6, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "William20." He writes about the shocking and flagrant way in which a sociopath reveals her disorder, although he didn't realize it for a long time. Statements in brackets [ ] are editor's notes. I joined Lovefraud about three years ago, although I was aware of you before that, when my relationship with a covert narcissist I was engaged to for over two years ended horribly (at least for me). I thought I had recovered and in time "re-discovered" a lost love and a person who I considered to be a good friend for more than 19 years. We married last December and after I completed a full rehab and upgrade …

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Spath Tales

My sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow

November 29, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call Elizabeth20, who writes that her sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow. Married to a sociopath for 9 years, split up four times and reconciled within seven months each time. Subjected to emotional, psychological, physical and financial abuse. Most recently I was manipulated into allowing another woman in his life who has a life threatening illness ( which is actually true ) because they got together during out split up, then she had a brain seizure while with him that made her completely dependent on him. We arranged to meet and talk, and agreed that he carry on living with her and being her …

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Spath Tales

The sociopath’s lies got worse and I thought it was my problem

November 11, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Middle Eastern man, whom we'll call "Amon20," who got involved with a disordered woman. He writes about the sociopath's lies and how they affected him. This is my story. I work in China as an English interpreter. I was on vacation to visit my family in 2018 and when I was going back to China I met her in Abu Dhabi. At that time I was still lost and needed help because my Chinese wasn't good so I added her and we started talking to each other regularly we had chemistry and she was really charming. But then after I decided to move to her city and be together and we both stayed together, a lot of things really appeared — her p …

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Category: Female sociopaths, Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Spath Tales

Her husband was a sociopath, and her whole marriage was a lie

November 6, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as Gigi2020, who says her whole marriage was a lie. Donna Andersen responds at the end of her story. Letter from Gigi20 I just recently learned that my ex husband lied to me about what I'm guessing is everything, our whole marriage was a lie. I am having a hard time comprehending that he would be able to live his charade for 8 years. I caught him in small lies our whole marriage but I would brush them off. When he drank, which was most of our relationship, but the last year and a half, the red flags were all over the place. However he had told me that he was in an explosion in Iraq, which caused a brain injury …

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Spath Tales

Military love fraud: Navy husband moves her to Guam, then abandons her

September 20, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story about military love fraud from a reader whom we'll call Sally20. I am a Navy spouse and my active duty husband was the first man I ever met online. He convinced me my 3 kids and I deserved better than their abusive father and the life we were living. He convinced me to marry him and fight to move myself and my 3 kids to Guam for his overseas tour. I did. I won and we all moved to the other side of the world where things began not seeming normal. He became very critical of everything we did from washing to dishes to sitting correctly on a couch. I was not only finding evidence of other women but was also contacted by other women, …

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Spath Tales

My cheating sociopathic fiancé

September 11, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter about a cheating sociopathic fiancé from a reader whom we'll call, "Mandy20." I met my ex-fiancé in 2017 at work. He was attractive and charming. I found out he was engaged and although a co-worker thought he was flirting (he asked me if I had ever been to the Melting Pot) I didn’t pursue anything at that time. I ran into him at work after Christmas and when I asked about his holiday he said his fiancé gave him his ring back. We then connected on Facebook and started “talking” via Messenger (first red flag!) I told him I had recently broken up with someone too and suggested we go to the Melting Pot to commiserate. He then said he th …

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Spath Tales

Sociopath ignores his child, the ‘dirty little secret’

August 30, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  3 Comments

Editor's note: A Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call "Abigail20," describes how she met a man, had a child with him, and now the sociopath ignores his child. I met the sociopath at a birthday party in 2004, after exchanging numbers and a few dates I realised I only liked him as a friend, he tried to get tactile very early on but I rejected his advances, truth is my feelings lay elsewhere and regrettably I let the sociopath know this yet still he persisted, he still wanted to be around me, he knew exactly what he was doing and what his motives were. During the initial stages we were hanging out together as friends, so I thought, I learned that he was living as a tenant with a former …

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Comparing relationships with sociopaths and borderlines

August 2, 2020 //  by Donna Andersen//  14 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2020 — Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following email from reader Victimcindy about relationships with sociopaths and borderlines. Donna Andersen  responds after the letter. My first relationship, after my 18-year marriage to a sociopath, was with a borderline personality disordered (BPD) man. Do you find this common, as the disordered traits are opposite in some areas?  We think we are getting something new and healthy. Comparing relationships with sociopaths and borderlines Spath vs BPD: sex My spath-ex withheld sex as power. The borderline was highly sexual. My spath-ex was charming, but lacked empathy and was emotionally unavailable. He also abused substances, w …

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Spath Tales

Not listening to intuition costs her 10 years

July 27, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader, whom we'll call Barb20, about the price of not listening to intuition. I was in a relationship with a sociopath for 10 years on and off. Two of those married to him. I am currently separated from him and living in another state. I originally met him online and we started dating. I remember the first few dates I had a little person inside telling me I was too good for him but quickly squashed that because it seemed so conceited. He came from a low income family, didn’t graduate high school and drove a truck for a living. I come from a middle class family, I’m a college graduate and had a good career. Knowing what I k …

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Spath Tales

Trying to protect a child from parental alienation

July 20, 2020 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call, "Suzanne20," about her quest to protect a child from parental alienation. The story of my 4-year long battle for my granddaughter and my son. My then 19 year old son Robert (not his true name) had ABI (Acquired Brain Injury) in 2000 as a result of sporting accident. He came out of it well, as he was highly intelligent before the injury. Robert was always a top student, quite creative and artistic who loved science, and he was a much liked young person known for his kindness and adventurous spirit. He has been drug and alcohol free; he never smoked. He never had any involvement with police. Three years …

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