Spiritual and energetic recovery

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds you that in recovery from a sociopath, faith and hope are crucial. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest If you've been dealing with the fallout of a relationship with a sociopath, or if you're experiencing other challenges, things might feel awful for you right now. I hope not, but of course Life does have a way of being miserable sometimes. And in some cases, it can go on a very long time. It's not as miserable when you feel like you have some control over the situation...when you can actively do something to make it better, to change it in some way and get …

In Recovery from a Sociopath, Faith and Hope Can Make All the DifferenceRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how decluttering helps you recover from toxic relationships. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest, PDHom Everything is energy. Nope, that's not "woowoo" — it's science. And it means that every single item in your environment is holding energy. Whether or not it's positive or negative depends on the meaning that you've assigned to it. For example, if you're holding onto anything that is connected with a painful memory or someone who has adversely impacted your life, that energy is pulling down the "chi" (energy) in your home. Same with anything that's s …

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Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. By Joanie Bentz, B.S., M.Ed., CCBT, BC As a Christian, I am required to forgive someone if they repent from their misdeeds. Genuine repentance means that a person completely refuses to engage in former abusive behaviors, especially when it comes to how that person behaves with you. Humility is required of all human beings in determining that we many have hurt someone by something we have said or done. Are we required to keep forgiving abusers? In the Bible, God is clear about the requirements for forgiveness. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the …

Forgiveness and sociopathic abusers — what the Bible saysRead More

A few years ago, I read Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, which was the #1 New York Times bestseller when it was published in 2007. Gilbert tells her story of supposedly having everything career, marriage, home yet feeling depressed and unhappy. She left it all, got a divorce, and then spent a year abroad to find herself. She ate her way through Italy, studied spiritual practice in India, and sought to balance pleasure and divinity in Indonesia. While going through her divorce, Gilbert had a relationship with a man whom she calls "David." This didn't seem to be a sociopathic relationship, just normally dysfunctional. Although they broke up, Gilbert, from time to time, pined for David. …

The sociopath as your soul mateRead More

By Dr. Laura Rubiales After reading an e-mail with the accusatory gibberish/provoking/non-responsibility-taking BS that only a sociopath or other bona-fide Cluster B personality disordered person can seem to write, I found myself with palpitations, panicked, blood pressure rising, on the verge of a spiking migraine and barely able to breathe. I immediately called a girlfriend to therapeutically debrief. In her gorgeous Louisiana Southern drawl she said, “Darlin,’ you just don’t mess with crazy.” In all I have learned about the nervous system from over 20 years of studying and working with sick people, let me tell you why it is best to just “not mess with crazy” from a physiological pers …

Dr. Laura Rubiales: Sociopaths, PTSD and the Mind Body ConnectionRead More

Editor’s note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery. By Waleuska Lazo Betrayal. This eight-letter word conjures up scary thoughts. Betrayal is one of the deepest pains we go through because it hits us at the core of our ability to love and trust After my marriage ended I was grateful for the two loves of my life, my beautiful daughters. When I went into my next relationship, again I did with an implicit trust. In my mind, I was forming an invisible contract, or what I called a soul agreement. It was my assumption that I, as well as the other person, came to the relationship with pure intentions to share a lif …

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Editor's note: This article refers to spiritual concepts. For more information, read Lovefraud's statement on spiritual recovery. By Waleuska Lazo  So here I was grieving, crying and feeling sorry for myself. I had stayed in a situation that was not healthy for my life. Yet I stayed because avoiding that pain was a stronger emotion than facing it. The truth is I was too scared to feel pain. I was too scared to feel the absence of not having ‘that someone’ next to me. What I did not realize was that I was already facing the pain that came as a daily dose of poison. At first, you are unaware of it. It comes camouflaged with little lies and lack of affection. The doses increased with indi …

After the Sociopath, Find the Gift in Your PainRead More

When we realize that we've been involved with a sociopath, and that person has callously betrayed us, we inevitably ask, “Why? Why did this happen to me?” To help find the answer, one of the books that Lovefraud recommends is The Betrayal Bond—Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships, by Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. The book explains the deep psychological wounds caused by trauma, and offers a way for us to identify and overcome abusive relationships that we may have experienced. When I read the book, I was struck by what Carnes wrote on page 68: My experience with survivors of trauma is that every journey of recovery depends on the survivor coming to a point where all that person has gon …

Making meaning of your betrayal by a sociopathRead More