If you become romantically involved with a sociopath, sooner or later your heart is broken. The pain is so devastating that you may swear you’ll never love again. Please don’t follow through on that. It is entirely possible to find true love after the sociopath. I know, because it happened to me. I first learned about sociopaths the hard way — by marrying one. I wrote a book about it, called Love Fraud – how marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. Much of the story is about my ex-husband’s outrageous lies and manipulations towards me and multiple other women. His audacity was unbelievable. You can’t make this stuff up. Still, I think the most important part of book is how …
Love Fraud Book Excerpt: The beginning of true love
Yes, it is possible to find true, lasting love after the sociopath. My ex-husband, James Montgomery, proclaimed that he loved me, but he said the words only to exploit me — read highlights of the story starting here. I didn’t know if I would ever recover and find real love, but I did. In fact, this is the most important part of the story that I tell in my book, Love Fraud — the joy of finally connecting with someone whose heart is true. I’m sharing a few more excerpts of my book — read the healing journey starting here. In a Valentine’s Day special, I’m offering you an autographed copy of the original printed book for the very low price of $4.99, plus shipping. Enjoy! And be inspired! Buy n …
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‘A History of a Pedophile’s Wife’ now available on Audible
Editor's note: "How could a mother not know?" This is the question often asked about families where incest has occurred, which the Lovefraud author, Eleanor Cowan, answered in her book, "A History of a Pedophile's Wife." Eleanor has just released her book on Audible, and she recently discussed her experiences in the American Conversation podcast. I asked Eleanor about her experience of narrating her story for the audio book. Here’s what she wrote: In 2022, a young man, a long-haul driver, told me he’d wanted to read my paperback memoir, but he only buys audiobooks now. Criss-crossing North America weekly, with no time to turn the pages of a paper book, he listens to two 11- hour narrations a …
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Love Fraud Book Excerpt – My first relationship after the sociopath
Love Fraud is a story of triumph. Yes, my sociopathic ex-husband betrayed me — you can read a series of excerpts that relay how he did it starting here. But the most important part of my story is the healing journey. I want you to know that it is possible to pass through the devastation to a new life that is happier than you ever imagined. Over the next few weeks, I’ll share some of my journey. In a Valentine’s Day special, I’m offering you an autographed copy of the original printed book for the very low price of $4.99, plus shipping. Enjoy! And be inspired! Buy now. By Donna Andersen Seven months after I left James Montgomery, I met a new man, John. He was younger than me, enthusiastic …
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Love Fraud book excerpt: Meeting my future husband (the sociopath)
Next month brings Valentine’s Day, when the whole world focuses on love. But for many of us who have had our hearts broken by sociopaths, Valentine’s Day may bring more pain than pleasure. I want you to know that there can be love after the sociopath, and I am living proof. My story, which I wrote in my first book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is ultimately a story of triumph — heartbreak, then recovery, then the wonderful happy ending. I previously published excerpts describing the betrayal by my ex-husband. The first installment is below — follow the links to read all of them. Next, I'll publish excerpts of my healing journey. In a Valentine’s Day …
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Dealing with dying Cluster B parents
Editor’s note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader, “Matt,” a long-time member of the Lovefraud community. By Matt It has been many years since I last posted on Lovefraud. When I first joined Lovefraud in November 2008, I was among the walking wounded having just pried my sociopath boyfriend out of my life. This site was my godsend. Among the many topics covered, although it wasn’t on my radar at the time, was dealing with Cluster B parents as they came to the end of their lives. Having buried both of my parents within the last 5 years, I’d like to share my experiences dealing with such parents. My parents My parents were two martinets who treated their children as …
Doing business and working with Senior Sociopaths
Some senior sociopaths are in jail and many are parasites, living off of a partner or family member. But millions of senior sociopaths are in the workplace, causing havoc with co-workers, customers and sometimes bringing down the company (think Bernie Madoff). If you’re working with senior sociopaths in any context, watch your back. My new book, Senior Sociopaths — How to Recognize and Escape Lifelong Abusers, is now available here on Lovefraud and on Amazon. It’s based on surveys that I conducted with Lovefraud readers. Most survey respondents described romantic partners or family members, but 62 described a work colleague or business associate. It was not a pleasant exper …
Senior Sociopaths: Antisocial behavior and abuse until they die
My new book, Senior Sociopaths — How to Recognize and Escape Lifelong Abusers, is now available in the Lovefraud store and on Amazon. Here’s the book's take-home message: Senior sociopaths engage in antisocial behavior and abuse until they die. I wrote the book because I married a con man, James Alwyn Montgomery of Australia. He swindled my money, cheated with at least six women, had a child with one of them during our marriage, and 10 days after I left him, married her. It was the second time he committed bigamy. Montgomery's behavior made no sense to me — until I learned that he was a sociopath. That’s why I founded Lovefraud — to warn other people about the sociopaths living among us. …
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Senior sociopaths in the family create havoc forever
We’re all born into families. Most of us interact with our families throughout our lifetimes. When there are senior sociopaths in the family, it means a lifetime of manipulation, triangulation and havoc. My upcoming book, Senior Sociopaths — How to Recognize and Escape Lifelong Abusers, is based on information I collected from surveys of nearly 2,400 Lovefraud readers. I asked them to describe their experiences with someone age 50 or older whom they believed was a sociopath. The respondents could write about anyone they wanted, and 153 described disordered siblings, grandparents, family members and in-laws. All the relationships were abusive. It was just a matter of how abusive. One woman …
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Male and female senior sociopaths — still nasty after 50
Both men and women can be sociopaths. As they get older, both male and female sociopaths continue to be destructive to the people around them. Here’s what one woman in the Lovefraud Senior Sociopath Survey wrote about her disordered ex-husband: "His narcissistic behavior pattern became intensified. He was cruel, a pathological liar, never apologized, projection, triangulation and gaslighting. He got much worse as I started emotionally disengaging." Here’s how another woman described her disordered mother: "Nothing ever changed. She exploits, lies, throws tantrums, rages, abandons, pouts, defames, threatens, and would still be physically violent if she had the physical strength." It’s cri …
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