How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

Man fakes Special Forces credentials to teach classes at FBI

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William G. Hillar claimed Special Forces experience in multiple exotic countries. He claimed to be an expert in human trafficking, saying the movie Taken, starring Liam Neeson, was based on his life. Law enforcement agencies, including the FBI, hired him to present classes and training. Hillar was never in the Special Forces, and has pleaded guilty to wire fraud. Read Former Monterey institute instructor Hillar pleads guilty to fraud on MontereyHerald.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.   …

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Sociopaths change our beliefs about being human

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Lovefraud received the following e-mail recently from a reader, who we'll call “Iris.” She was married for 20 years to a man who she now realizes is a sociopath. I avoid talking to my ex-husband as much as possible, but he is 4 months behind on court ordered spousal support as I am in school getting my business degree and working. He has to pay $600 a month for 3 years. The court also ordered the support to pay me back for $11,000 I had to put into our house and property to make it "sellable" after he left me in the dust and moved to another state. He left me with 5 acres, a house falling apart, a barn with code violations, and our 3 family dogs. I went into survival mode and got it all …

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Murderer found guilty: He’s a sociopath, but not insane

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Christopher Gribble, 21, was sentenced to life without the possibility of parole for the brutal murder of a New Hampshire woman. He and an accomplice weilded a knife and machete in a home invasion, killing the woman and severely injuring her daughter. Gribble tried the insanity defense. The jury rejected it. Read NH man sentenced to life in woman's slaying on News.Yahoo.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader. …

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Being a “judgmental person” is more than okay–it is wise

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By Ox Drover Many people think of the term “judging others” in a negative way. I think a lot of this comes from the Biblical admonition found in which Jesus said,  “Do not judge, or you too will be judged” (Matthew 7:1). Matthew 7:2-5 says, "For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” What Jesus was condemning here was hypocritical, self-righteous judgments of others. I frequently hear others say, “Well, I'm not judging him ”¦” when they talk about how someone they know has done something that is less than morally upright. When I was a young person in this community of mostly Scots-Irish Protestants, people were …

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LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: I would rather be homeless than spend another day feeling soul-less

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who we'll call “Chelsea.” Wow, my eyes have been opened! My soul is trying to heal from the wounds I suffered being with what I now know without a doubt is a genuine SP man! My story begins on August 2005 when I walked into the restaurant and met who I thought was the most charming and compassionate man ever. I was with one of my best friends, and we began to chat when two fellows approached us and asked if we would like a drink. It seem harmless to us at the time, and we accepted their offer and began chatting with them. The first man seemed intoxicated and was acting very loud and immature. He was flirting with me …

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What was your turning point?

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Lovefraud received the following e-mail from a woman whose daughter is caught in the web of a sociopath. The woman and her husband are not enabling the relationship—the sociopath, of course, wants money. They are hoping and praying that their daughter will escape. Here is her question to other Lovefaud readers: What was the "turning point," "awakening moment," "realization point," that woke them up OUT of the fog, the gaslighting, etc., and what made them realize they needed to RUN, to get away from their sociopaths?  What finally "did it," what finally "broke the camel's back?"  Where they realized what was happening to them, had been done to them, when they finally realized things were …

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BOOK REVIEWS: Looking at love and fraud from both sides

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By Ox Drover I just finished reading the dueling autobiographies of the disgraced former governor of New Jersey, James E. McGreevey, and his ex-wife, Dino Matos McGreevey. His book is called The Confession and hers is called Silent Partner. Former Governor McGreevey, as you may remember, publicly announced in 2004 that he was resigning as governor of New Jersey because he was being blackmailed by a former homosexual lover. As he pronounced to the world that he was a “gay American,” as he styled himself, his then-wife, Dina Matos McGreevey, stood beside him with a stricken deer-in-the-head-lights look. Many times we get a book from one or the other of two aggrieved parties that …

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