How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

What would John Wilkes Booth’s score have been on a psychopathy test?

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"Many people assume horrific crimes indicate the perpetrator has a disturbed, even deranged, personality," says Dr. Kent Kiehl, a psychologist at the University of Mexico and one of the foremost experts on psychopathy. As far as horrific crimes go, one of the most famous is the killing of President Abraham Lincoln by John Wilkes Booth. So, was Booth a psychopath? In his new book , The Psychopath Whisperer, Kiehl applied the Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised (PCL-R) to historical information about Booth. The result may surprise you. Was John Wilkes Booth a Psychopath?, from Real Clear Science. …

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Sociopaths, pain and the Primal Scream

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The Primal Scream I remember this book being all the rage when it was published in 1970, even though at the time I had just started high school. Everyone was talking about the book, by Arthur Janov, and the therapy he developed, called primal therapy. For me, that was the end of it. I never read the book. I never heard anything more about Arthur Janov. I haven't thought about Primal Scream or primal therapy in more than 40 years, until a few weeks ago, when a Lovefraud reader brought it up. The reader sent me a link to an article on Arthur Janov's blog. (Yes, he's still alive —he'll soon be 90 years old.) The article was is entitled Why we need safety, and it was published on June 30, …

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Wojciech Janowski charged with killing billionaire mother-in-law of Monaco

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Wojciech JanowskiAs billionaire Helene Pastor, 77, was leaving a hospital in Nice, on the French Riviera, in May, she was shot dead. Two men; a 31-year-old and a 24-year-old originally from the Comoros islands and living in Marseille's rough northern districts were taken into custody for doing the actual shooting, but it was Pastor's son-in-law, Wojciech Janowski, 64, who was charged  as the mastermind of the contract killing plan. When Janowski was taken into custody, he confessed to his involvement in the murder plan. However, as Janowski appeared before a bail judge, his lawyer said that he had "retracted his statements made while in custody" and "denies having ordered" the …

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Day care owner with extensive rap sheet charged with fraud and manslaughter

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Tianna Edwards, owner of Tianna's Terrific Tots that had two locations in Philadelphia, has built up an extensive rap sheet that includes wire fraud, insurance fraud, shoplifting, providing false identification to law enforcement, gross incompetence, negligence, misconduct and manslaughter. Edwards has been in custody since June 2013 and is awaiting trial for her role in the death of a 7-year-old who was under her supervision at her day care center. Day-care operator pleads guilty to fraud, from philly.com. …

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Surgeon lies about removing brain tumor

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In September of 2008, at the Aberdeen Royal Infirmary in Scotland, Dr. Emmanuel Kingsley Labram assured his patient and her husband that he removed all of the 1-inch tumor she had in her brain. He lied. He only removed four tiny fragments. Labram covered up his actions for two years by falsifying records. In 2010 the patient sought another opinion and the truth was discovered. Unfortunately by then the tumor was inoperable. A fitness to practice panel found Labram guilty of serious misconduct. Labram's name will be erased from the General Medical Council's register of doctors, subject to his legal right of appeal, although the panel decided to impose an immediate order of suspension so …

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3 Signs You Should Stop Hurting the Sociopath in Your Life

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So you're wondering if you're with someone who has a character disorder? Maybe a narcissist? Or a sociopath? If you are, you might often be accused of hurting that poor person. Here are three things you might be blamed for, otherwise known as red flags: 1. A person with a character disorder is not responsible for his or her life. You are. And if you don't step up to the plate with a full wallet, lots of energy, and a constant smile, then you're going to hear about it. About how mean you are. Uncaring. Unloving. Unwilling. Even if you've been stepping up to the plate with all of the above for years and are simply worn out by your partner's inability to invest alongside you. Even when you're …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Addicted to my relationship with a sociopath

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Editor's Note: The letter to Lovefraud was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Gwenda." My name is Gwenda and I am 27 years old. I'd like to share my story with you in hopes of getting some advice, help, or possibly sharing my story with someone going through this that could possible help them and they can relate to. Last year I started dating a guy who I believed to be the man of my dreams to discover I was dating a demon sociopath. When I met him he seemed like the most normal guy, told me he was in construction, going back to school to become a helicopter pilot, had lived in so many parts of the world, was so cultured, and extremely good looking and charming. He really made …

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False claims of valor may have kept former marine out of jail

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On February 3, 1975, men entered the Augusta, Georgia, home of Bronzi Leon Peppers.  During a struggle, Peppers was shot dead, but no one was charged. The case went cold. In 2009, new information came to light the men involved were Tony Ouzts, Mark Hill, William Coffey III and Charles Allen Chavous, a former Marine. In 2010 three of the four men were indicted. Ouzts, the alleged trigger man, died in a car accident in 2000. Hill and Coffeey got jail time. Charles Chavous walked away free. Why?  Speculation says his attorney, Scott Connell, portrayed Chavous as a Vietnam War hero who deserved leniency, telling the court he was a POW who escaped captivity and was awarded numerous combat …

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The massive costs of sociopaths to society

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My local newspaper is the Press of Atlantic City. It's a small-town newspaper covering the Atlantic City, New Jersey area. It's not the New York Daily News, the Daily Mail or another British tabloid. Yet as I read the paper one day last week, I was shocked to see one story after another that seemed to illustrate sociopathic behavior. I shouldn't have been surprised. In my opinion, when adults freely commit crime, aggression, fraud, exploitation, violence, bullying, retaliation or pathological lying, they likely have sociopathic traits. There is research to back this up, which I'll get to soon. But first, here's the news for July 9, 2014. (Although I saw all of the stories local, …

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George Ferguson, a man of many cons, feted in death

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Editor's Note: This story was submitted by Lovefraud reader "one/joy_step _at_a_time." I have an attraction to people who 'say it like it is', and for doing the same myself. Which is something that I had to learn to rein in and use strategically when dealing with the spath. Despite the carnage of my experience with her and other narcs and spaths, this has been the singularly important tool that I have developed: I keep my thoughts and ideas to myself when I smell real danger. And now, I am going to celebrate letting it all hang out. This obituary, penned was the deceased's daughter,  was published in the Victoria Times Colonist newspaper in British Colombia, Canada. FERGUSON, …

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