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My sociopathic husband as the gross older guy

I Need Help, No Really

About a year after I had my daughter, I finally had to find someone to help me with all my data entry and paper shuffle to keep up with the work load for the business the spath and I ran, but mostly I ran.  I still had my office out of my home to try and save on overhead, but also so I could work when my baby was sleeping.  After making an extension on the office, I had a separate entrance created to the office off of the house so I could have employees enter the office without entering the house.

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Posted in: Peace in Chaos, Sociopaths as predators, Uncategorized, Workplace sociopaths

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Abused by mother, father and stepfather

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Margo.”

My abusers were my mother and father. It began when I was about fifteen. My mother and father never really got on, would hardly speak to each other. Father went to work, came home and stared at the television all of the time. The only interest he had was making his own beer and wine, he was often drunk. He had no friends and lost his temper often. He never spoke to my sister or myself as if we were humans. He would either ignore us or tell us off.

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Posted in: Sociopaths and family, Uncategorized

Why you weren’t thinking clearly when you fell for the sociopath

narcissist loveRomantic love really does wreak havoc on your brain chemistry. In fact, love has pretty much the same effect on your brain as cocaine.

Berit Brogaard has written a book called On Romantic Love: Simple Truths about a Complex Emotion. Brogaard writes:

When you fall in love with someone, norepinephrine fills you with raucous energy, serotonin boosts your self-confidence, and dopamine generates a feeling of pleasure. New love is a kind of love addiction but not yet a kind of pathological love addiction. In falling in love, however, the brain is on crack—a dangerous state of mind.

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Posted in: Hooked by a sociopath

Q&A with Tiffany Kettermann, a new member of the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide

Tiffany KettermannLovefraud is pleased to introduce Tiffany Kettermann as a new member of the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide. We asked her a few questions:

What experience have you had dealing with sociopaths or other disordered personalities—personally, professionally, or both?

I am a counselor in Portland, Oregon with both personal and professional experience in healing from personality disordered and exploitative relationships. Having had my own experience with toxic relationships and healing, I am able to provide empathy, support and insight for survivors in ways that many therapists cannot. I have worked with domestic violence survivors and on community crisis teams to help survivors of trauma and abuse, and I train other professionals in understanding and supporting survivor experiences.

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Posted in: Lovefraud Professional Resources

Problem with today’s newsletter

If you’ve received today’s newsletter and clicked on a link, you’ll see a big red security warning that the site contains malware.

The problem is with the newsletter vendor, Aweber.com. Apparently there was a problem with another one of Aweber’s customers, and Google put the malware notice on everything sent out by Aweber.

Lovefraud was not hacked.

I am sorry for the inconvenience.

 

 

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Posted in: Events and announcements

Why sociopaths succeed: Style matters more than substance

Charismatic, glib, grandiose, magnetic, energetic sociopaths are typically described in these terms. No matter what they actually do and say, these men and women have style.

And, according to a classic experiment in education research, style is all that is needed to be respected and believed.

Back in 1970, Dr. Donald H. Naftulin, director of Continuing Education in Psychiatry at the University of Southern California School of Medicine, and colleagues, conducted an experiment to test the hypothesis that student ratings of educators depend largely on personality variables and not on educational content.


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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Scientific research

My father the sociopath: ‘I should just kill you’

Emotional young blondeEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Judith-Ann.”

Many of us grow up in homes of loud abuses. As children, constant new realities wail on our fledgling emotions, all too often beating them into submission. Some of us give up. Our sensitive natures can’t bear the hate of our own creators and we crash into ourselves in a thousand ways, catching fire until we burn out like stars, until there is nothing of ourselves but a black hole of self-hatred.

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Posted in: For children of sociopaths, Sociopaths and family

Drugs, Santeria and Girlfriend Change – Sociopath Stories

Drug Past

One of the many shockers of being with a sociopath is their ability to coerce you into their criminal activity.  When I was dating the spath, at first, he seemed so innocent and shy.  As time went on he began to leak to me his stories.  So he would lock me in with his intrigue, then feed me a portion of his past.  The first shocker story came from his participation in the drug business in the country he grew up in.

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Posted in: Peace in Chaos, Spath Tales / Letters to Lovefraud, Uncategorized

LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: What Did He Do To My Daughter?!

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from “Starmom.”

Many people have had opinions, but no one’s been able to address the origin: Something caused my daughter to change, virtually overnight what could the guy have done to her?

Ten years ago, I made a mistake. Relatively new to an area where I didn’t know anyone very well, I accepted “a ride home” from someone I didn’t know. Refusing to take me home, and keeping me out, I was forcibly kept awake for what came to be at least two and a half days and nights straight after which my mind blacked out from exhaustion and I don’t know what happened.

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Posted in: Sociopaths as predators, Spath Tales / Letters to Lovefraud, Targeted Teens and 20s

My new heroes: Ashley Madison cheating site hackers

Ashley Madison websiteAshleyMadison.com, a dating website for married cheaters, has been hacked.

The website’s slogan is, “Life is short. Have an affair.” Now, the personal details of 37 million members, including nude photos and sexual fantasies, have been compromised.

This is a moral dilemma for me. Of course, hacking a website is criminal. But as far as I’m concerned, all of those cheaters are getting what they deserve.

The hackers, a person or group calling itself the “Impact Team,” has demanded that the website owner, a company called Avid Life Media, take down Ashley Madison (AM), and another hookup site that it owns called Established Men (EM) and Cougar Life.

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Posted in: Donna Andersen, Sociopaths as predators

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