Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call “Gianna.” After extensive searches for the article already written, I've come to think I should just ask the question. Will I ever be able to love someone the way I loved the sociopath? I am 3 years out of my relationship with the man who almost destroyed me. It's taken therapy, countless books, overcoming obsession, and rebuilding myself from the ground up. I've come a long way but there is still one piece of me that is missing: My ability to love as strongly as I did before, to feel that overwhelming warmth and elation I once had when I fell in love. I'm in a new relationship with a wonderful man. …
FBI asks for help in finding 240 teen sextortion victims of Lucas Michael Chansler
Lucas Michael Chansler threatened and blackmailed 350 teenaged girls into sending them explicit images of themselves, eventually collecting 80,000 images and videos of child pornography. Chansler, 31, of Julington Creek, Florida, pretended to be a 15-year-old skateboarding boy when the contacted the girls. He is now serving 105 years in a federal prison for his crimes. But many of his victims remain unidentified. So the FBI is asking the public's help in identifying additional victims. His screen names included "HELLOthere" and "goodlookingguy313." If you have information that may help identify victims of Lucas Chansler or believe you may have been victimized by him you can complete a …
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The Maria Story and My Dog’s Stress – Sociopaths Doing What They Do Best
Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. Maria #1 Let's start with the wonderful fact that this story is about Maria...number one. Yes there were two Maria stories in my marriage to a sociopath. This is the first one. I first found out about Maria on a secondary phone the sociopath had. There's another story that brings me to finding the secondary phone, but I will start with when I first found out about Maria. It was a Saturday night and of course spath "had to go and check the jobs." I had given birth to my little one about a month prior and was at home with her. I put her to sleep and then went for …
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BOOK REVIEW: The Inner World of the Psychopath
As you read the list of key symptoms of a psychopath, you feel like you've been punched in the gut. Check, check, check the individual who has been making you crazy has all, or almost of all, of the traits. In shock, you realize that you have a psychopath in your life. You've seen the individual's glib and superficial charm, lack of empathy, lack of remorse. You knew he or she was deceitful, but now you suspect that every statement this person ever made may have been a lie. “How can he do that?” you ask. “What was she thinking?” Steve Becker, LCSW, a longtime Lovefraud author, has just come out with a book that explains what goes on in the mind of a psychopath. It's called, The Inner World …
Man allegedly murdered his pregnant girlfriend to get rid of baby
A prosecutor in Knox County, Tennessee, said Norman Eugene Clark murdered his 8 1/2-months pregnant girlfriend because a baby would interfere with his lifestyle. Assistant District Attorney General Leslie Nassios said Clark wove a web of lies and juggled too many relationships, which would all be exposed, according to the Knoxville News Sentinel. "His entire life was built around deceit," she said. Prosecutor: Unborn baby target in double slaying, on Knoxnews.com. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader. …
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My Story of Lies: His Lies to Me and the Lies I Told Myself
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as “Gaslit073168.” I met him in spring of 2014 through an online dating site. He was so honest in his profile (sarcasm now, in awe then) about being imperfect. Depression was his biggest flaw, in his eyes. He was sad because his kids live in Japan where he can only see them when he can financially manage to make the trip. It's been this way for a couple years because his now ex wife left him and decided to go home to her family in Japan. This wasn't the only reason he was depressed. He had brain cancer in 1998 that caused him to be legally blind in one eye, a huge bald patch across the back of his head and no …
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Are sociopaths opportunists?
Editor's note: This is Part 2 of a two-part inquiry from the Lovefraud reader whom we call “Carlotta.” Read Part 1, “What if you see some signs of a sociopath, but not all of them?” On another note, a personal concern of mine is that I may have chosen that sociopath, not the other way around. I was walking through a department store and out of the corner of my eye I saw a man standing still facing me. I looked up and he was smiling at me. I smiled back. Then we walked in separate directions. But later we passed one another in a different area of the store. I was lost and he was again just standing there smiling at me. I smiled and asked if he was lost like me. We then talked for a long time …
What if you see some signs of a sociopath, but not all of them?
Editor's note: This is Part 1 of a two-part inquiry that Lovefraud recently received from a reader whom we'll call “Carlotta.” I recently met and "dated" a man who turned out to be a sociopath. When I first met him I used your list of 10 signs to help me determine what I needed to do to protect myself if he should turn out to be a sociopath or worse. I wasn't too worried about him, because initially I noticed he had only 3 of the 10 traits. The notation with your list says if they have most or all of the traits they may be a sociopath. He turned out to be a sociopath so now I wonder if the specific traits they have are more telling than the number of traits they have. In the case of the …
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Judge throws kids in juvenile detention for not talking to father
A divorce and child custody case in Oakland County, Michigan, has gotten so bitter that Judge Lisa Gorcyca has sent three children, ages 14, 10 and 9, to juvenile detention for refusing to see their father. The saga began five years ago, when Maya Eibschitz-Tsimhoni filed for divorce from Omer Tsimhoni. Both parents are originally from Israel, and the father had returned Israel. The Internet is buzzing over this one, and here are some stories. But reading them, I have absolutely NO IDEA whether the problem is the mother, the father, or both. We all know how well sociopaths can talk, lie, play the victim, and run a smear campaign. Probably the only way to really know who is at fault …
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Something I Have Always Thought but Have Never Said-Celiac and Sociopaths
Celiac Disease is an auto immune disease similar to diabetes. People are genetically predisposed to have it, however certain risk factors can contribute to the onset of symptoms if you are genetically predisposed to CD like trauma or stress, among other things. When I was growing up I was extremely healthy and strong. I can only remember maybe one time being sick of any kind. My physical body was very strong and I ate like a pig! I was in great shape because I danced competitively, racking up maybe 10-15 hours of training a week. About 6 months of being in a relationship with a sociopath, I slowly started to have these odd symptoms. The damage had already been done in the relationship …
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