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The Marriage Masks: Three types of sociopathic relationships

Woman behind maskHere at Lovefraud, we’ve heard thousands of horror stories of marriages to sociopaths. Thinking about these unfortunate involvements, it seems to me that there are three types of romantic relationships with sociopaths. I call them the Marriage Masks, and they are:

1. Calculated exploitation

The sociopath targets an individual for the explicit purpose of exploiting him or her, using the unsuspecting partner for money, sex, a place to live or something else that the sociopath wants.

My ex-husband, James Montgomery, targeted me because I had what he wanted: money, good credit, my own home and business connections in the city where he decided he was going to make a fortune. He sweet talked me, married me and drained me, and then he moved on without a thought.

Texas nurse, in prison for killing one child, suspected of killing 60 more

Genene Jones (Texas Department of Criminal Justice)

Genene Jones, 66, was convicted of killing a 15-month-old girl back in 1982, and sickening a 4-week-old boy, when she was a pediatric nurse in Texas. Jones was sentenced to 99 years and 60 years for her crimes, which she is serving concurrently. She was due to be released next year, because of a mandatory release law.

But Jones has just been charged with another crime — the 1981 death of an 11-month-old boy. Authorities suspect she may have killed as many as 60 children between 1977 and 1982 — they all died either during or shortly after her shifts in hospitals and clinics around San Antonio.

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10 tips to start dating again after leaving a sociopath

We are allowed to recover from the trauma of a relationship with a sociopath. We are allowed to move on. In fact, if we don’t move on, if we don’t take our lives back, we are still in the trauma. It is healthy to put an end to it.

A reporter was writing an article and sent out a query: “How do you know when to trust “your man”? I believe the answer is you can trust your man (or woman) when you can trust yourself.

Of course, that is exactly what many of us who had multiple run-ins with sociopaths and other bad actors struggle with. How do we know that we’re no longer sending out the “I’m a victim” vibes?

He lied up until the last minute of our relationship

 

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Claudette.”

Met online. He was a perfect gentleman. We had several dates until he started talking about mind, body and spirit (which meant sex to him) and I mentioned I do not have sex just to be having sex. That night he says let’s be boyfriend and girlfriend. So we did become BF and GF.

I assumed (stupid me) that he would take his dating profile down since now in a committed relationship. I took mine down and never looked again, until one day my GF called me and told me that she was just matched (online dating site) with him. AND that he was currently online searching.

Senior Sociopath survey closing soon

There’s a rumor floating around in mental health circles that sociopaths “burn out” with age, that they engage in less antisocial behavior as they get older.

Is this true?

Lovefraud wants to find out. So we’ve developed a survey to gather data from you.

Were you involved with a sociopath while he or she was over age 50? The individual could have been any of the following:

  • Your spouse or ex-spouse
  • Your romantic partner
  • Your parent
  • Angry Frowning Man with Arms FoldedYour stepparent
  • Your child
  • Your stepchild
  • Your sibling
  • Another family member
  • A work colleague
  • A business associate

The realization that someone you thought you knew and loved is a sociopath is brutal

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 45C: Whack-A-Mole Returns

Ken Boyer, 60, cheats with multiple women while claiming to have cancer

Ken Boyer, who claimed to have cancer. (Facebook)

You need a score card to keep track of all the women Ken Boyer, 60, has targeted, seduced and defrauded — all while claiming to be dying of cancer.

Boyer recently reconnected with his “long lost love,” Michelle Kimbrell, and married her — despite the fact that he had also proposed to Karen Hagerty, Cheryl Alvarez and Barbara Jones.

Barbara Jones is suing him to get back the $22,000 of her money that he allegedly blew on dental work, a customized Harley Davidson and shady investments.

Posted in: Media sociopaths

Life is rough for ‘Long Island Lolita,’ who shot Mary Jo Buttafuoco in the face

Amy Fisher

Amy Fisher

In 1992, Mary Jo Buttafuoco, of Long Island, New York, opened her front door — and life as she knew it changed forever.

Amy Fisher, then 16 years old and having an affair with Joey Buttafuoco, Mary Jo’s husband, shot her in the face.

Mary Jo survived and identified her assailant. Amy Fisher, dubbed the “Long Island Lolita,” served seven years in prison. She showed no remorse. Now, she can’t get a date and her kids have no friends.

‘Long Island Lolita’ Amy Fisher, who shot the wife of her 35-year-old lover when she was 16, returns to New York after her kids were ruthlessly tormented in Florida, on DailyMail.co.uk.

Can therapy help a psychopath? 3 key factors

Socipathic eyesThe behavior of some people in your life leaves you shocked and mystified. They tell stories that don’t add up, in fact, they flat out lie. They are charming one minute and hateful the next. They hurt you, seemingly on purpose, and then act like nothing happened.

You come to the conclusion that something is wrong with them. They need help. They should go to therapy.

The behavior I described above is typical of psychopathy and other personality disorders. So can therapy help a psychopath?

The Atlantic publishes: ‘When Your Child Is a Psychopath’

When Samantha was six years old, she tried to choke her two-year-old sister as they sat in the back seat of their mother’s car. After mom separated them, Samantha said she wanted to kill everyone in the family.

The anecdote starts an article in the June issue of The Atlantic, When Your Child Is a Psychopath. The author, Barbara Bradley Hagerty, writes that Samantha was diagnosed with conduct disorder with callous and unemotional traits. She has the traits of a budding psychopath.

Hagerty spoke to many of the leading experts on psychopathy and how it develops for this article. It’s a good explanation of the state of the science.

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