How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists

With a sociopath, when “no contact” isn’t possible, try the “grey rock method”

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 45B: Whack-A-Mole Returns In retrospect, I wish I had had the energy and foresight to move back East immediately, but I was too tired and too ashamed that I had made such a disruptive change in my life, maybe for nothing. Also, both kids seemed to be enjoying life in the mountains, and I did not want to uproot them again in such a short time span. That would hardly be fair to them. …

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Australians lose $300 million to scams

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Australians lost $300 million to scams in 2016, up 47% from the previous year, according to the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission and the Australian Cybercrime Online Reporting Network. More than 200,000 complaints were filed. The greatest losses, $59 million, came from investment scams, followed by $42 million in losses from romance scams. One third of romance scams victims met the con artist through a social media platform. Australians report losses of $300 million to scams in 2016, on SMH.com.au. $300 million lost in online scams as they reach record levels in Australia, on AdelaideNow.com.au.   …

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How disordered parents set children up to be exploited by psychopaths

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Book Review: A History of a Pedophile's Wife — Memoir of a Canadian Teacher and Writer, by Eleanor Cowan Review by Donna Andersen People born to disordered parents are likely to be vulnerable to psychopaths later in life. I've explained this to many, many people that I've spoken to in my personal consultations. Eleanor Cowan's book, A History of a Pedophile's Wife, explains exactly how it happens. Childhood without love Eleanor was born in 1948 outside of Montreal, Canada, the second child in what would become a large Catholic family. Her childhood was molded by the dictates of the Catholic Church, wholeheartedly accepted by her father, and the disinterest of a personality disordered …

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Adrian Jones case – proof that psychopaths do not love their children

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Seven-year-old Adrian Jones was systematically beaten and tortured by his father and stepmother. When he finally died, his father fed him to pigs. This has got to be the worst story of psychopathic abuse of a child that I've ever seen. The parents, Michael and Heather Jones, have both been sentenced to 25 years in prison for their crimes. This case also points to the ineptitude of the child protective services in Kansas and Missouri. The child told caseworkers he was being beaten, but they let him go back to the family. It is an outrage from start to finish. 'My daddy keeps hitting me in the head': Adrian Jones, 7, told authorities that he was being beating by his evil father and …

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Sociopaths want everything to be about them–even the smallest, everyday choices

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 45A: Whack-A-Mole Returns In spite of my exhaustion from managing a cross-country move for our entire family in such a compressed time—with almost no help from Paul—within a week of our arrival in Utah, Paul wanted to go on a midsummer vacation with Anne-Marie and her family. I told him the timing was horrible for me, because I was spent. Also, the two weekends Paul wanted to be …

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The Truth Is Always in Plain Sight

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By Waleuska Lazo I thought I had found my Prince Charming. I thought I had found the one to share the rest of my life with. Four years later I have nothing to show, but a bleeding heart and a broken fairy tale. Looking back, I can see, the red flags were in plain sight. Yet, I chose to ignore them. I hope that my story can help you open your eyes, and see the warnings so you do not make the mistakes I made. I do not want my story to come across as bitter. I am not. I have made peace with the fact that I am responsible for my situation. My only goal is to share my truth. I realize my outreach can make me look naive and desperate. And you know what? I’m OK with that. My hope is that sharing …

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My wife was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder, delusional disorder, and schizophrenia, but I wouldn’t change a thing

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Lovefraud received the following letter from a man who posts under the name of "outvth3fog." I thought my past 12 years with my 10 year old son's mother was bad. Well, anyone's worst nightmare became reality in March of 2016. Rewind to summer 2015, to when I had that gut feeling that I was being wronged by her. I didn't understand things then the way I do now, but she would accuse me of having affairs without having anything to make her think that. It made me suspicious of her, especially when she would demand my phone after getting out of work, which I willing gave it to her. Here we were again the same process, that I thought was over. After so many lies and cheating I fell in love …

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Man accused of murdering his son, 3, called “jealous” and “paranoid”

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The body of little Brendan Creato, age 3, was discovered near the Cooper River in Haddon Township, New Jersey, on Oct. 13, 2015. His father, David J. Creato, has been charged in his murder. Prosecutors allege that Creato killed his son to stop his then 17-year-old girlfriend, Julia Stensky, from leaving him. Testifying in court, Stensky said she was unhappy about the presence of the boy in Creato's life. Stensky also said that Creato became suspicious when she went away to college. He questioned her about interactions with male students, and checked her social media accounts. Ex-girlfriend: Creato 'tried his best,' on CourierPostOnline.com. Trial of Creato, charged with killing …

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Sociopaths use our hopes and dreams to manipulate and control

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 44C: A Second Honeymoon Finally, I had Paul back. More importantly, I was getting “me” back. Plus, I was going to be able to escape the suburbs and live in the mountains. I had scheduled a few interviews for teaching positions at schools in Connecticut. I cancelled them. My brother was skeptical and downright worried. He thought it was all happening too fast and that Paul had a …

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She presented as a sweet person with good manners, but she was a covert narcissist

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman whom we'll call "Georgia." My story is three years in a same-gender relationship that began with off-the-charts chemistry. At 6 months the love bombing stopped and things slowly changed. In my personal experience there is a 'lesbian disadvantage' in the narc world because both these relationships often contain 4 of the most common traits; (a) lesbian bed-death at 3-6 months (same as the end of the love bombing), (b) self centered in nature, (c) moves the relationship to intimacy very quickly. (d) promiscuous behaviour & cheating. There were red flags that I saw and ignored which puzzled me because I had no …

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