Archive for August, 2017

If the truth is inconvenient, sociopaths lie (with great calm and conviction)

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 51C: The Earthquake Strikes

I tried to fight the wave of despair cresting above me. I could not. Gravity won—it always does. Anguish and hopelessness pounded down, expelling the air from my lungs and the tone from my body. Yet, driven by the instincts of a mother bear protecting her cub, I pushed through the emotional train wreck and crafted a response … Read more

German nurse accused of killing more than 90 people

Neils Hogel of Germany is accused of more than 90 murders.

Niels Hogel, 40, a nurse in Germany, had a bad habit: He gave dangerous drugs to intensive care patients so that he could resuscitate them. Except sometimes he failed, and the patients died.

Hogel was found guilty of two murders in 2015 and jailed for life. But since then, the police investigated other deaths in the hospitals where Hogel worked, and suspect that he may be responsible for at least 88 more murders.

A psychiatrist says that Hogel is “deeply ashamed.” I doubt it.

German nurse suspected of murdering at least 90 patients, on… Read more

Man guilty of murdering his celebrity girlfriend who ‘fell on his hunting knife’

Robert Brian Reagan (Redondo Beach Police Dept.)

Loredana Nesci, 47, a former cop who became a lawyer and then starred in the Sundance Channel TV show Loredana, Esq., was found dead in July 2015.

Her boyfriend, Robert Brian Reagan, 53, was charged in her murder. Reagan claimed she assaulted him and he was defending himself.

The court didn’t buy it. He was found guilty of her murder.

Boyfriend breaks down as he is found guilty of murdering reality show lawyer ‘when she fell on his hunting knife’ as they argued at home, on… Read more

Posted in: Media sociopaths

When women ‘of a certain age’ meet sociopaths

Photo by Free Digital Images.

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman whom we’ll call “Annamaria17.” Donna Andersen responds below.

I met the SP in 2006 and he was a supervisor for electric utility company where I live. Due to a power outage he was the Environmental Rep and came to my home.  He had just moved here from out of state and I immediately fell for him.  We had lunch the next day and that was when I found out he was married.  Unhappily of course.

Over the next few months, it was agonizing as he would disappear and I had already become addicted to him, the sex and everything else about him. Long … Read more

How to spot an abusive relationship before it gets bad

Are there warning signs that a romantic relationship will turn abusive? Emphatically YES!! Lovefraud has been saying this for years, and Dr. Dina McMillan, a social psychologist, agrees.

A Lovefraud reader sent me the above video of a TEDx Canberra presentation by Dr. McMillan. She says that about one in three teenage girls and women endure physical or sexual abuse from a romantic partner at least once in their lives. That adds up to 1.16 billion people. And it doesn’t count those who suffer emotional and psychological abuse, but no physical abuse.

Interestingly, Dr. McMillan … Read more

How many stars will you give our Lovefraud webinars?

I am so proud of all our Lovefraud webinars. All of the instructors have done a great job. We offer a wide range of information and advice to help you understand, cope with and recover from your experience with a sociopath. And our webinars for mental health professionals offer continuing education credits.

If you’ve ever taken any of our courses, they are still available to you. To watch them again, just log in!

A few months ago, we switched the delivery platform for the courses. In the process, we lost all of our customer ratings. So if you participated in any of our webinars previously, I’d love your feedback. You can rate the courses from one to five … Read more

Using “projection,” Sociopaths accuse you of being manipulative and unethical, while they play the saint or victim

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 51B: The Earthquake Strikes

Two weeks later, as Paul dropped Daniel and Jessica off at school after a mid-week overnight, Paul told them he had a girlfriend and that she was moving in. The moving van arrived from Chicago the next day, as did Linda Peters (the name from the UPS package), and her cat, Freedom. The cat’s name struck me as … Read more

My First Unsuspecting Year in My Marriage to an Exploiter

By Eleanor Cowan

With a sparkling wedding ring on my finger, I’d claimed a much-desired new identity – no longer the binge-drinking daughter of an alcoholic mother who’d taken her own life, no longer the thrice-raped young woman drowning in shame, but instead newly married to a handsome, highly educated university student. I’d begun a whole new chapter of life.

Still, I noticed things. Little things that I dismissed. That summer of 1973, after my regular work hours at the library, I waitressed part time for the extra cash to pay for my fall university courses in Paris. While I noted my husband’s five-year high stack of unpaid student loans, I decided that his finances were none of … Read more

Maybe this tune should be the ‘Sociopath Song’?

The Brothers Osborne are a hit country band that took home a couple of Academy of Country Music awards this year for Vocal Duo of the Year and New Vocal Duo of the Year.

Their most recent hit single is called, It Ain’t My Fault. A Lovefraud reader suggests that it could be a theme song for sociopaths. What do you think?

 … Read more

7 steps to breaking emotional ties with a sociopath

If you’re like most people who read Lovefraud, you may know, or suspect, that the person who is creating havoc in your life is a sociopath. Whether the offending individual is a romantic partner, parent, another family member or a friend, he or she checks all, or most of, the boxes of the sociopath checklist.

You know the individual is bad for your emotional and psychological health, your wallet, and perhaps your safety. Still, you may struggle to break free.

Sometimes there are financial or legal issues that make it difficult to escape. But often the ties that bind are emotional.

Emotional bonds can be extremely powerful. This is understandable, because sociopaths are skilled at sinking their hooks … Read more

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