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Archive for March, 2018

Webinar preview: How to Navigate a Court Proceeding when the Opposing Party Is a Sociopath

Personality disordered individuals lie, blame and exaggerate in life — and do the same in court. By anticipating what your opponent will do, you will not be blindsided; you’ll be prepared. Here’s how to overcome their tactics and prove your case.

About this course

In your dealings with a personality-disordered individual, you’ve learned that this person lies, blames and exaggerates. In court, despite swearing an oath to tell the truth, he or she will continue to lie, blame and exaggerate.

How do you protect yourself? How do you make your case?

In this webinar, you’ll learn how the traits and tactics of disordered individuals typically play out in court. This will enable you to anticipate what your opponent … Read more

Austin bomber called himself a ‘psychopath’

Mark Anthony Conditt (Facebook)

For three weeks, someone terrorized the city of Austin, Texas by delivering package bombs. Two people were killed by the blasts, and four more were injured.

The first three victims were minorities, so law enforcement considered the incidents to be potential hate crimes. They also considered terrorism.

Apparently, there was no reason for the bombings. The perpetrator, Mark Anthony Conditt,  who blew himself up as police closed in on him, had recorded a 25-minute confession video. In it, according to U.S Representative Michael McCaul, Conditt referred to himself as a “psychopath.” Conditt admitted that he didn’t feel any remorse.

So in the end, the bombings may just be the work of a psychopath with … Read more

Are you changing in ways you don’t like? Maybe your partner’s a sociopath

Husband Liar Sociopath

Sociopaths are fueled by our reactions to them—so sociopaths trigger our emotions. What are the signs this is happening? 

Looking back on my unwitting marriage to a man I now believe is a sociopath, I realize that some of the warning signs that I was in a relationship with a sociopath were changes in my own behavior. My book, Husband, Liar, Sociopath chronicles that marriage and the painful lessons learned. My book, Narcissists, Sociopaths & Wolves  includes a summary of some of the warning signs of being in a relationship with a sociopath.

It took me way too long to understand this, but since sociopaths are fueled by our emotional reactions to them, they trigger our emotions on Read more

Fill in the blank: ‘Detaching from the abuser in my life feels like _____’

By Eleanor Cowan

One early evening at the end of the second year in my support group for Parents of Sexually Abused Children, we were invited to participate in a new activity together. Our lead Social Worker, Aidan, also an artist and storyteller, suggested that we complete two unfinished sentences, each in our own words.

The first was, “Detaching from the abuser(s) in my life feels like _____.

The second was, “Once I let go, I found myself _____.

I’d like to share the responses I heard that evening with Lovefraud readers.

Aidan, also a former victim of physical predation both in her childhood and in her adult life, began:

“Finally detaching from my abuser dissolved tiny sharp … Read more

Donna Andersen appears on Australian TV — watch online now

Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com, will appear on Insight, a show on the Australian SBS television network, on Tuesday, March 27, at 8:30 p.m. Sydney time. (In the U.S., that’s 5:30 a.m. Eastern time on Tuesday, March 27.)

The episode is called, His Other Life — What happens when you discover your partner has a secret life? The host, Jenny Brockie, asks five different women about their experiences.

  • Rochelle Rees discovered that her partner was secretly spying on her for the New Zealand police.
  • Rachel Carling-Jenkins discovered that her husband was involved with child pornography.
  • Nijole Lucinskaite discovered that her husband was pursuing Internet sex with underage girls.
  • Donna Andersen discovered that her husband was a con
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8 reasons why we can’t see what’s wrong with the sociopath

“I could smell the smoke, but I could never find the fire.” That’s how one Lovefraud reader explained her experience with a sociopath. She sensed that something was terribly wrong, but could never figure out what it was.

Other Lovefraud readers described the same situation this way, “I knew something was off, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.”

Why is this? Why can’t we see what later turns out to be massive lying, exploitation and betrayal?

Following are eight reasons why we may suspect that something about the sociopath isn’t right, but we don’t identify it.

  1. We don’t know sociopaths exist.

No one tells us that 12% of women and 16% of men — 47 million … Read more

Lovefraud webinar preview: The Miracle in the Madness

We try to ignore the agony of betrayal, hoping it will go away. Paradoxically, it’s not in spite of our difficulties that we find freedom, but because of them. Take this course and learn how to gently, courageously, overcome the pain.

About this course

As much as most of us would like to think holding hands, praying and singing in church is where we will find the relief and peace that we are looking for, it is just not so. Our “instincts” tell us not to look at our hurt, pain and fears from an experience with a sociopath, but to resist them, ignore them, and hope they will go away. In essence, we are hoping for a … Read more

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free virtual support group April 8th at 5 pm EST

  Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, April 8, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to meet you there!… Read more

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Do sociopaths actually know what they are?

I receive a lot of email from readers, and over the years many have asked some variation of the question: Do sociopaths know what they are? Do they realize that something is wrong with them?

The answer varies with the individual sociopath, because they aren’t all the same. Generally, though, I believe sociopaths know that they are different from the rest of the human race. However, most are not bothered by their difference. They view themselves as superior.

It’s easy to see where this attitude comes from. Because sociopathy is highly genetic, and is influenced by the early childhood environment, sociopaths usually never were anything but sociopaths. They never experienced a true empathetic connection with another human being. … Read more

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Find yourself explaining common courtesy and common use of language? Maybe he’s a sociopath!

Husband Liar Sociopath

Confusion over common courtesy, typical use of language, and purposeful misrepresentations

If you find yourself in conversations that come down to common courtesy, common understanding of language, or purposeful misrepresentations (especially if the language used creates a misunderstanding but is not an outright lie), get out, and get out fast. Sociopaths are masters of:

  • doublespeak
  • word salad
  • playing games with semantics
  • planting distracting misinterpretations of events
  • purposefully misleading.

The result is that you get tied up in knots just trying to agree upon the basic facts or “normal” human behavior. This is a warning sign! Most people want to communicate effectively and resolve conflict. But sociopaths often do not share these goals.

Here’s an example that is another Read more

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