[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/8y3K9ucP99s" title="Divorcing%20a%20Narcissist:%20Tina%20Swithin%20offers%20Advice%20from%20the%20Battlefield"] If you married someone whom you now believe is a narcissist, and you are divorcing, know this: You are headed for a really rough ride, especially if you have children with this person. Tina Swithin, founder of OneMomsBattle.com and author of the Divorcing a Narcissist series, has been there. She endured her ex-husband's smear campaign, court officials who didn't understand personality disorders, and two custody evaluations. It took years, but she finally succeeded protecting her children and is living in peace. Now, she coaches men and women who …
Professor who murdered his wife asks for money to start over, but maybe he shouldn’t have
Ten years ago, on Dec. 22, 2006, Rafael Robb, of King of Prussia, Pennsylvania, bludgeoned his wife, Ellen Gregory Robb, to death as she wrapped Christmas presents. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 10 years in prison. Robb, a former University of Pennsylvania economics professor and an expert in game theory, was supposed to be released in January. A civil suit awarded $124.26 million to the couple's daughter, who was 12 when her mother was killed. Robb listed assets of approximately $3 million in the civil lawsuit. This week, Robb petitioned the court for $100,000 of his  assets to set up a new life after prison. But in a hearing, he mentioned an account in France, which he had not di …
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After 10 years of abuse, New Jersey woman is found dead; police search for her husband
State Police are searching for Jeremiah Monell, 32, of Commercial Township in southern New Jersey, who allegedly killed his wife. Tara O'Shea-Watson, 35, endured 10 years of beatings and abuse, friends and relatives say in an article in the Press of Atlantic City. Monell would "freak out" on his wife if she talked to family members, the victim's friend said. Over the past few months, according to the friend, O'Shea-Watson finally decided to enforce a restraining order and filed for divorce. She was found unconscious and unresponsive in her home Monday morning. State Police continue to search woods for Commercial Township murder suspect, on PressOfAtlanticCity.com. …
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Steven Dean Gordon, already a sex offender, guilty of murdering 4 women while wearing a GPS tracker
Prosecutors in Orange County, California, started calling him "Jaws" because he was such a vicious predator. Last week, Steven Dean Gordon, 47, was convicted of abducting and killing four random women in Santa Ana, between 2013 and 2014. Gordon was already a convicted sex offender. His partner in crime, Franc Cano, was also a sex offender. Cano will be tried separately. Both men were under supervision after being convicted in separate cases of lewd and lascivious acts with a child under 14. Both men were wearing GPS tracking devices. In fact, it was the data from the tracking devices that connected them to the disappearances of the four women, who were all prostitutes. After …
How psychopaths use our biology against us
Invariably, once we realize we've been conned by a psychopath, this person has lied to us from the very beginning, and we fell for all of it, we ask why? Why did we believe? Why did we trust? The short answer is that we did what we, as social animals, are biologically designed to do. Human beings have evolved over millennia to live in community, and trust is the glue that holds us together. I read The Moral Molecule the source of love and prosperity, by Paul J. Zak. Zak spent 10 years researching a brain chemical called oxytocin and its role in human behavior. He says oxytocin inspires trust; trust is connected to morality; and morality is connected to the survival of the human …
Derek Alldred scams eight women of hundreds of thousands of dollars and skips sentencing hearing
Derek Alldred, a con artist who claimed to be everything from a doctor to a Navy SEAL to an investment banker for the Royal Bank of Scotland, has scammed at least eight women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. His most recent victim, Â a woman from Arizona, met Alldred on a dating site. Alldred stole her jewelry and pawned it, then pleaded no contest to the crime. Alldred pleaded no contest to theft charges and was supposed to be sentenced on December 13 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He never showed up for the hearing, and his victims fear that Alldred will just find more targets. Watch the video: Swindler exposed by KARE 11 is on the run, on KARE11.com. Here's a detailed, …
I will never forget how he looked at me – I felt I was standing in front of the devil
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman whom we'll call Gemma, who lives in England. Names have been changed. In August 2015 I was contacted on one of the pen pal websites by a guy named Brad, from a village in Michigan. Brad is a 35 year old veteran who works part time as a mechanic. He is also a village council trustee, with ambitions to become a village president one day. We started talking on a daily basis, He was very charming and entertaining and seemed very reliable, always responding to my messages almost instantly. Brad told me that he was married for the second time and his wife was pregnant. He said that although his current wife was better than the …
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Classic sociopathic father: Lies, manipulation, gaslighting, and finally the truth is revealed
[youtube_sc url="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKtYJyhTe40" title="How%20do%20I%20avoid%20dating%20a%20sociopath%20like%20my%20father?"] A young woman who posts on Lovefraud as "Butterfly" first contacted me in August. She had recognized that her boyfriend was disordered. She also realized that her father was disordered, which set her up to tolerate the lying, cheating boyfriend. We exchanged emails several times over the last few months. She asked excellent questions, and I made two "Letters to Lovefraud" videos to answer them, which are included in this post. With her permission, I've reproduced our email exchange. Her experience illustrates the confusing and painful experience of a …
To better protect victims, UK strengthens stalking laws
Four years ago, a new stalking law enabled prosecutors in England and Wales to charge offenders with stalking, even when their behavior falls short of creating a fear of violence in the victim. The idea was to stop stalking behavior, especially in domestic violence cases, before it escalated. Authorities have announced new orders that extends the law so that it protects people who are being stalked by strangers. Police can apply to the courts for orders to make stalkers stay away from their victims, before the stalker has been convicted, or even arrested. Stalking: New orders planned to give quick protection, on BBC.com. New stalking legislation helps to bring thousands more prosecutions …
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Q&A with attorney Megan Lyons, an expert in court battles with sociopaths
Megan Lyons, Esq., who is based in Sarasota, Florida, is the newest member of the Lovefraud Professional Resources Guide. What experience have you had dealing with sociopaths or other disordered personalities—personally, professionally, or both? I have dealt with pathological sociopaths for most of my life in my personal experience, romantically and in the professional arena. As a result of these life changing experiences and relationships, I committed years to studying sociopathy and the recovery from such insidious and sadistic abuse. How do you go about helping clients who have tangled with a sociopath? Because of my personal experience with sociopaths, I am able to provide genuine em …
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