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Psychiatrist explains how prison employee may have been “groomed” to help inmates escape

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In an interview on CNN today, Forensic Psychiatrist Dr. Michael Welner spoke of the female prison employee, Joyce Mitchell, who is alleged to have helped the two New York inmates escape. Lovefraud readers might find healing in what he had to say. He said that there may not be any particular vulnerability in a victim of what he terms “emotional hacking.” He states the greatest risk factors are “access and time.” “We need to appreciate the vulnerability with prison employees the way we do our children with pedophiles,”  Welner says. He points out that, “We all see what we need to see in other people.” Prison workers need to regard the humanity of inmates, he says, and this regard makes them v …

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A Female Sociopath’s Euthanasia Mission

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Editor's Note: This story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Maura." To me dying in old age should be a serene peaceful experience. A time when one is surrounded and supported by loving family members and friends. However, when a sociopath spouse is entered into the mix those normal expectations can be thrown straight out the window. The sociopath will hijack the situation and you will be constantly blindsided. The sociopath will be relentlessness in preventing family and friends from being at the bedside. Instead of focusing your time and energy on the patient, it will be continually diverted to dealing with the sociopath's latest havoc. Grieving, widowed dad meets and ma …

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Tom Guida, aka Tom Gatto – fake psychologist, fake Special Forces, fake brain cancer patient – is charged with bigamy

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By Donna Andersen Thomas A. Guida, 52, of Toms River, New Jersey, arrived in court on May 29, 2015 to face a charge of bigamy filed by one of his wives. Mrs. Guida signed a complaint against him on February 18, 2015, after receiving Facebook messages about another woman he is married to, a woman he was engaged to, and a woman he was cheating with. Each woman believed she was in an exclusive relationship with Tom Guida, planning a future with a true American hero. They were all wrong. Tom told all the women that he was a Ph.D. psychotherapist who specialized in traumatic stress and bereavement counseling, going into dangerous situations as a first responder. In reality, he is not licensed for …

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I was played and my whole marriage was a giant lie

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Editor's note: This Spath Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name Devin. I believe my soon to be ex is a sociopath. I am wife number four, and still the problem is me. I have learned so much about narcissists since the big discard at a Chik-Fil-A almost two years ago.Yeah, I was THAT important. Told I would be divorced while whoever he was with was hiding in the bathroom. So glad I don't live like that anymore! I am going to speak about Christian sociopaths. He was a bible theology major and an ordained minister that I met at church. How could I lose? I thought I hit the jackpot. He was kind, attentive, loving. etc. Thought he loved the Lord. When we started dating, …

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Let’s Talk Financials with a Sociopath: The Downfall (Part 2 of 4)

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Part of a 4 Week Series: Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath Week 3: Preparing for Divorce Week 4:  Divorce and Aftermath The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath In 2009 we decided to buy another house to give us more space to store our tools, equipment, etc because we had grown out of our office and storage space.  I was still running the business out of our home to try and save money.  Also in a strange way I knew that as soon as we moved the business to an external location outside of our home, I would lose all accountability with the sociopath and he would go rampant with himself.  He was and had been using gas lighting tac …

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Why I Wrote “God Has Failed Me”

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By K.M. Lessing I see many books and horror stories written by women who were the victims of psychopaths. They go on and on detailing all the pain and suffering they endured. And they leave out one vital detail: his name. So he goes on to the next victim and the next and the next. I ask you: why must we be so careful to protect men who are predators? Why must we take every precaution to make sure these dangerous men stay safe—safe to con the next woman, safe to destroy the next mind, safe to play his sadistic games”¦until the end of his life? When I wrote my books, I decided NO WAY. I decided I would not protect the man who destroyed me emotionally. So I published his REAL name and REAL pict …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: He was not like a human being

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Editor's Note: This letter to lovefraud was submitted by  a woman who was born in Germany of Turkish heritage, who now lives in London, England. We'll call her  "Ozgur Ruh." She calls her ex-husband "Evil". I met my ex -- "Evil" -- on the internet back in 2012. He was a captain and was working in Liverpool, UK. My first thoughts was this guy can be only a friend I was not attracted to him at all.  Then he started to call me very often and things just took off. I am 42 now, had one failed marriage when I was very young. I was not looking for love, I was only talking to guys. Big mistake. Anyway he proposed on 1st of April -- what a joke! I thought I was falling in love. He lived in Turkey an …

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The sociopath has changed me and I will never be the same: Part 3 of 3

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader in Belgium, whom we'll call "Enora." Read Part 1 and Part 2. One day he told me that I was crazy and that I had to see a psychiatrist. So I went. When I told him what my life was like and what had been happening the man said: “You don't have to be a psychiatrist to see what is happening. You have to leave this man. People in concentration camps were depressed. You are living in a concentration camp. If you don't leave him, you will become chronically depressed and then what will happen to your children?” At that time I started to think about leaving. Before, I didn't want my children to come from a broken home. Now I rea …

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Let’s Talk Financials with a Sociopath: Part 1 of 4

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This is going to be a 1 of 3 or 4 type post, maybe for the month of June.  Yea, June is financial month. Just as a sneak peak, I think I will go ahead and give the run down of events. Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath Week 3: Preparing for Divorce Week 4:  Divorce and Aftermath Running a Business with a Sociopath My parents taught me really good money handling skills.  Ya know, the basics that we don't learn in school:  Make money, like work, and then tithe 10%, save 10% and then don't spend more than what your bills are.  Seems PRETTY easy.  I got a job when I was 16 and have had one ever since, well until now, but we'll save th …

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The sociopath has changed me and I will never be the same: Part 2 of 3

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader in Belgium, whom we'll call "Enora." Read Part 1. Starting the business was very expensive. We went to the bank for a loan, but he wasn't able to get one, as he was blacklisted by every bank in the country. I had to cosign a loan so that he was able to pay for his debts to the bank. Now that problem was dealt with, we were able to start a business being equal shareholders and equally responsible for everything. I told him that this was something that we would work for until our retirement and that in a year, he couldn't change his mind or be fed up with it. He agreed, but he kept expressing his doubts about me. He felt that …

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