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Is he a narc? Is he really hurt, or just his ego is hurt?

April 6, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  2 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Vania." English is not her first language. I think my ex is a narc but I'm still not sure. So I've been in a relationship with this guy for just 3 months. But it means a lot to me because I'm someone who's super not easy to open up with people, so once I did and once I fall, I will fall so hard. And I also think I am an empath. I'm a shy girl and this guy is the very opposite of me. He's so confident and unique, to be honest we are so different in many ways, but I think that's the thing that made us attracted to each other. I've never been in a serious relationship before because I'm hardly fall in …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

My tortured journey to discover the sociopathic truth behind the coincidences

April 4, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  2 Comments

Editor's note: The following story was written by the Lovefraud reader from Australia who goes by the name "Acharbet." He says, "The names I use below are false in order to protect the innocent, guilty and bystanders. I have preserved people's genders in their names, but have obscured ethnicities, which I consider to be irrelevant to my story." As mine is a convoluted story, a tortured story, and clearly not a terribly customary story, I am not going to write it in a terribly customary way. I will use no firm and fixed chronology. Instead, I am going to reveal events in the order in which their truths revealed themselves to me. She stood there, tall, severely overweight and with a …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

When white-collar criminals commit fraud, unknowing wives are devastated

April 3, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  1 Comment

My ex-husband, James Montgomery, was a white-collar criminal. He pretended to be a businessman, but in reality I, and the other women from whom he took more than $1 million, were his business. Federal prosecutors couldn't be bothered going after him. Other white-collar criminals, who are likely sociopaths like my husband, commit fraud with their employers. This gets the attention of law enforcement. When they are prosecuted, the casualties include their wives. In an article for the New York Times, Abby Ellin describes the devastation suffered by women who had no idea what their husbands were doing. They find that other people don't believe that they were unaware, but I do. I know what …

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Category: Media sociopaths

BOOK REVIEW: ‘Psychopath Free’ — helping you understand your disordered romance and recover yourself

April 2, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  7 Comments

Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People, by Jackson Mackenzie Review by Donna Andersen I admit I've been remiss. Jackson Mackenzie's book, Psychopath Free, came out in 2015, and I just finished reading it. I think I need about 48 hours in the day. Anyway, if you've been romantically involved with a psychopath or other disordered individual, Psychopath Free will ring true for you. Jackson does an excellent job of describing the cycle of an involvement with a psychopath, from the glorious beginning when you're feeling high on all the attention, to the confusion of the mind games in the middle, to the utter …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Recovery from a sociopath

Webinar preview: How to Navigate a Court Proceeding when the Opposing Party Is a Sociopath

March 31, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  2 Comments

Personality disordered individuals lie, blame and exaggerate in life — and do the same in court. By anticipating what your opponent will do, you will not be blindsided; you'll be prepared. Here's how to overcome their tactics and prove your case. About this course In your dealings with a personality-disordered individual, you've learned that this person lies, blames and exaggerates. In court, despite swearing an oath to tell the truth, he or she will continue to lie, blame and exaggerate. How do you protect yourself? How do you make your case? In this webinar, you'll learn how the traits and tactics of disordered individuals typically play out in court. This will enable you to a …

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Category: Lovefraud Continuing Education

Husband Liar Sociopath

Are you changing in ways you don’t like? Maybe your partner’s a sociopath

March 29, 2018 //  by O.N.Ward//  5 Comments

Sociopaths are fueled by our reactions to them—so sociopaths trigger our emotions. What are the signs this is happening?  Looking back on my unwitting marriage to a man I now believe is a sociopath, I realize that some of the warning signs that I was in a relationship with a sociopath were changes in my own behavior. My book, Husband, Liar, Sociopath chronicles that marriage and the painful lessons learned. My book, Narcissists, Sociopaths & Wolves  includes a summary of some of the warning signs of being in a relationship with a sociopath. It took me way too long to understand this, but since sociopaths are fueled by our emotional reactions to them, they trigger our emotions on pur …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Seduced by a sociopath

Fill in the blank: ‘Detaching from the abuser in my life feels like _____’

March 28, 2018 //  by Eleanor Cowan//  17 Comments

By Eleanor Cowan One early evening at the end of the second year in my support group for Parents of Sexually Abused Children, we were invited to participate in a new activity together. Our lead Social Worker, Aidan, also an artist and storyteller, suggested that we complete two unfinished sentences, each in our own words. The first was, “Detaching from the abuser(s) in my life feels like _____. The second was, “Once I let go, I found myself _____. I’d like to share the responses I heard that evening with Lovefraud readers. Aidan, also a former victim of physical predation both in her childhood and in her adult life, began: “Finally detaching from my abuser dissolved tiny sha …

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Category: Recovery from a sociopath

8 reasons why we can’t see what’s wrong with the sociopath

March 26, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  15 Comments

"I could smell the smoke, but I could never find the fire." That's how one Lovefraud reader explained her experience with a sociopath. She sensed that something was terribly wrong, but could never figure out what it was. Other Lovefraud readers described the same situation this way, "I knew something was off, but I couldn't put my finger on it." Why is this? Why can't we see what later turns out to be massive lying, exploitation and betrayal? Following are eight reasons why we may suspect that something about the sociopath isn't right, but we don't identify it. We don't know sociopaths exist. No one tells us that 12% of women and 16% of men — 47 million people in the U.S. — a …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

Do sociopaths actually know what they are?

March 23, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  17 Comments

I receive a lot of email from readers, and over the years many have asked some variation of the question: Do sociopaths know what they are? Do they realize that something is wrong with them? The answer varies with the individual sociopath, because they aren't all the same. Generally, though, I believe sociopaths know that they are different from the rest of the human race. However, most are not bothered by their difference. They view themselves as superior. It's easy to see where this attitude comes from. Because sociopathy is highly genetic, and is influenced by the early childhood environment, sociopaths usually never were anything but sociopaths. They never experienced a true …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

Husband Liar Sociopath

Find yourself explaining common courtesy and common use of language? Maybe he’s a sociopath!

March 22, 2018 //  by O.N.Ward//  3 Comments

Confusion over common courtesy, typical use of language, and purposeful misrepresentations If you find yourself in conversations that come down to common courtesy, common understanding of language, or purposeful misrepresentations (especially if the language used creates a misunderstanding but is not an outright lie), get out, and get out fast. Sociopaths are masters of: doublespeak word salad playing games with semantics planting distracting misinterpretations of events purposefully misleading. The result is that you get tied up in knots just trying to agree upon the basic facts or “normal” human behavior. This is a warning sign! Most people want to communicate effe …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Seduced by a sociopath

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