[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/rJNFeHHGGN4"] Over the weekend Terry, my husband, and I watched The Zookeeper's Wife, a movie is set in Warsaw, Poland, during World War II. It tells the true story of how after animals at the Warsaw Zoo were bombed and shot, the couple that ran the zoo used the property to hide Jews from the Nazis until they could be transported to safety. It's a good movie, but as you can imagine, it is tense and emotional. My reaction to the film, plus the normal stress of daily life, made it difficult for me to sleep. Perhaps the connection I felt to the movie was a distant memory — if you've read my book, Love Fraud, you may remember that I describe how I learned a …
Red flags that a gold digger may have targeted your elderly parent or friend
Many sociopaths (although not all of them) target romantic partners to swindle them out of money. Lovefraud's research shows that most sociopaths continue their manipulative behavior as long as they live. That means senior sociopaths may target other seniors. They may proclaim their love, in order to access the victim's money, home or pension. Jean Mignolet, a private investigator in Florida, where lots of seniors live, recently posted an article about spotting the warning signs of a gold digger. Some are: Ambiguity — the con artist glosses over important information about temselves Significant age difference — especially they met online Moving too fast —rushing important life d …
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Lovefraud reader tries online dating, spots warning signs, dumps the guy
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Marjory18." When I got involved with a bad person last year I wrote in to you with my story. I have been committed to reading stories, articles etc on your Lovefraud site. All I can say is thank goodness for your site and the info you provide. I had another online date recently Signs were there. My mama raised me right (was told to me before) Super charming Tons of compliments Lots of sexual talk (on the first date?) We seemed to have a lot in common (really? that much) Heartfelt and deep conversations (on his part) That he studied psychology (was told that before - is that …
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Are you “too sensitive,” or is your partner a sociopath?
You're too sensitive! As I think back about my life and my unwitting marriage to a sociopath, a phrase haunts and repeats like an old-time broken record, “You’re too sensitive.” For decades, I believed that hearing this phrase should trigger self-reflection and attempts at self-improvement. If I’m “too sensitive,” the underlying assumption is that I should work to become “less sensitive.” I believed this because this is what I’d been taught as a child, and it was reinforced through my adult life by two people I loved and respected at the time—my father and my now ex-husband. Yet, now I believe that hearing this phrase repeatedly by key people in one’s life should trigger another type of …
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How one guy’s recent girlfriends meets all of the 10 Red Flags of Love Fraud
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Trevor18." I came across your work after I spent about two months in the craziest relationship I've ever experienced. The relationship and how it abruptly ended left me feeling confused and then I was compelled to seek answers. I just didn't know what to do. Then I stumbled upon Cluster B personality disorders and eventually I found your list of 10 signs of dating a sociopath. 1: Charisma/Charm I first met this girl at her daughter's birthday party in May of 2017. After a brief introduction, she approached me frequently during the party and it felt extremely easy to talk to her. She seemed to be …
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Florida shooter Nikolas Cruz — psychopath, psychotic or traumatized?
Another school shooting. Last week, Nikolas Cruz, 19, shot up his former school, Marjory Stoneman Douglas High in Parkland, Florida. He killed 17 people and wounded 14 more. In the initial reporting about the incident, none of the students who knew Cruz were surprised. They feared him and mostly stayed away from him. The New York Times reported: "A lot of people were saying that it would be him," the student told WFOR-TV. "They would say he would be the one to shoot up the school. Everyone predicted it." Why would the entire school population predict that Cruz would grab a gun and kill people? The kids knew about his rants and fascination with violence. The Washington Post reported …
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Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 30: Celebrate
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/DA7mgTBLiv8"] Let’s go party on days that end in Y, drink Russian, drive German, wear Italian and kiss French! Friends, if you are expecting some guidance on this subject, I might not be the right person. The final practice of our 30-Day self-love and healing journey is about rewarding yourself. It’s about rewarding the process, and not the outcome. Following up from the previous session on failing, this brief visualization exercise once again redefines failure, an act that is not about falling, but about getting up. Rewarding yourself is something you can do consistently to help yourself get up and rise up. This exercise also draws parallels bet …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 29: FAIL
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/cTC1oH0HTig"] Another four letter F word you might think, and you are quite right! We learned about FINE and it’s quite fine to fail, since failure is the First Attempt In Learning. If you define it as anything else, it may be a misconception. We have been programmed to perceive failure as a negative experience, however, this practice redefines this word and encouraging us to fail - fail today, fail tomorrow and fail over and over, because every time you fail, you get one step closer to your dream! Open up your dream journal and decide to fail for each dream. If you don’t fail, someone else will hire you to work on their own dreams, fail for them, so …
My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 4
Editor's note: Following is a series of letters sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call "Grace18." Other names are also changed. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4. As a woman, having been involved on the sidelines with women of many age groups for decades, who were victims of abuse, I found that the one group, constantly being forgotten was the "older" generation. So many of these women, were the mothers....the grandmothers....the aunts, who carried the work load and the child-rearing in dignity, while holding onto their secrets. Because I had such a variety of friends covering ages above me and coming up behind me, the stories existed with that silence. There were no terms …
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Are highly empathetic people particularly attracted to the calm, confidence exhibited by sociopaths?
The Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between: Part B As I mentioned last week, I recently read the book The Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between by Dr. Abigail Marsh, Associate Professor of Psychology and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience at Georgetown University. Her book sparked some “light-bulb moments.” I shared the first two last week, and I am sharing the third and fourth light-bulb moments this week. For those who read last week’s post, you might want to skip directly to light-bulb moment number three, below. (Note: Dr. Marsh and many researchers refer to these disordered individuals as 'ps …