Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 51B: The Earthquake Strikes Two weeks later, as Paul dropped Daniel and Jessica off at school after a mid-week overnight, Paul told them he had a girlfriend and that she was moving in. The moving van arrived from Chicago the next day, as did Linda Peters (the name from the UPS package), and her cat, Freedom. The cat’s name struck me as ironic, because anyone involved with Paul was …
My First Unsuspecting Year in My Marriage to an Exploiter
By Eleanor Cowan With a sparkling wedding ring on my finger, I’d claimed a much-desired new identity – no longer the binge-drinking daughter of an alcoholic mother who’d taken her own life, no longer the thrice-raped young woman drowning in shame, but instead newly married to a handsome, highly educated university student. I’d begun a whole new chapter of life. Still, I noticed things. Little things that I dismissed. That summer of 1973, after my regular work hours at the library, I waitressed part time for the extra cash to pay for my fall university courses in Paris. While I noted my husband’s five-year high stack of unpaid student loans, I decided that his finances were none of my …
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Maybe this tune should be the ‘Sociopath Song’?
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/6ZBuRtDWJhs"] The Brothers Osborne are a hit country band that took home a couple of Academy of Country Music awards this year for Vocal Duo of the Year and New Vocal Duo of the Year. Their most recent hit single is called, It Ain't My Fault. A Lovefraud reader suggests that it could be a theme song for sociopaths. What do you think? …
7 steps to breaking emotional ties with a sociopath
If you're like most people who read Lovefraud, you may know, or suspect, that the person who is creating havoc in your life is a sociopath. Whether the offending individual is a romantic partner, parent, another family member or a friend, he or she checks all, or most of, the boxes of the sociopath checklist. You know the individual is bad for your emotional and psychological health, your wallet, and perhaps your safety. Still, you may struggle to break free. Sometimes there are financial or legal issues that make it difficult to escape. But often the ties that bind are emotional. Emotional bonds can be extremely powerful. This is understandable, because sociopaths are skilled at …
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I didn’t want to admit my husband was a sociopath; now I realize how blind I was
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as "rosered." Dear Donna, I have been a follower of your website since  last year. That was when, after four years of mental anguish, trying to understand inexplicable behavior, praying for my children (and myself), financial crisis, and wondering what it was that I was doing so wrong, I finally left my husband. In the week after, in which I was a totally emotional wreck, my sister urged me to follow links in an email she had sent me 6 months before. I had been reticent to read it at the time, brushing off her message as "totally ridiculous." The email subject line was: "He is a Narcissist." In retrospect, I …
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Divorcing a Sociopath? Get ready for your children to be used as pawns to hurt, drain, and distract you
Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 51A: The Earthquake Strikes The devastation of the sham that was my life—of the betrayal, of my naivety, my weakness, my precarious financial predicament, of some of the qualities that I like most about myself being turned against me (my empathy, love of the country, mountains, and a simpler life) was overpowering. I did not want to kill myself, but I wanted to die to escape the …
My 3 sociopathic relationships — I am a therapist, and they fooled me
Three of my most serious relationships have been with sociopaths: my second marriage, an engagement, and most recently, with a man I was in a serious relationship with, lived with, and became pregnant by. My second marriage was with a man I met at work, who had been sober for 5 years in AA when I met him. He suffered from (diagnosed) borderline personality disorder, but I believe was also a full-fledged sociopath. He was a convicted abuser and had done jail time and anger management for that. He confessed to me that he was a prostitute for many years (with men), a porn performer, and a jewel thief. But because he was in AA and I believed honest, I thought he had changed. The abuse started …
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How to clear the emotional pain of your experience with a sociopath
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/0ErVkIcgOns"] I am so excited. Now, Lovefraud offers you a way to relieve all the painful emotions that result from tangling with a sociopath — betrayal, despair, anger, guilt, shame, grief, disappointment, depression, even PTSD. Yes, I said even PTSD. In fact, this technique is being used to help combat veterans suffering from PTSD. It can help you. For years, I have been recommending that Lovefraud readers check out EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques). Now, Lovefraud offers you a webinar on tapping that is specifically designed to teach you how to recover from a sociopath. In this video webinar, I interview Stacey Vornbrock, MS, LPC. Stacey is a …
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Donna Andersen talks about relationship abuse in the Press of Atlantic City
All year long, the Press of Atlantic City, my local newspaper, has been running a series of stories about domestic violence. A couple of months ago, I wrote to the reporters — not everyone who is abused suffers physical harm. In fact, Lovefraud's research shows that people who sought therapy because of an abusive relationships reported the following types of abuse: Emotional - 98.1% Psychological - 95.7% Financial - 70.1% Sexual - 49.3% Physical - 40.9% Other - 18.4% I was interviewed for the most recent article in the series, which appeared today. You can read it here: The kinds of domestic abuse that don't leave physical scars, on …
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Patrick Giblin does time for scamming 132 women, gets out of jail and does it again
Meet the original large-scale dating scammer, Patrick Giblin, 53, formerly of Ventnor, New Jersey, but most recently residing in a Philadelphia prison. Lovefraud first wrote about him in 2007, when he was sentenced for scamming women that he met on telephone dating services. Patrick Giblin trolls phone dating lines, taking money from 132 women, on Lovefraud.com. Giblin was paroled in 2013 and went right back to scamming women. Now he'll spend another five years in prison. Giblin pleaded guilty before U.S. District Judge Robert B. Kugler to one count of interstate travel and use of a facility in interstate and foreign commerce with the intent to launder money. Judge Kugler imposed the …
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