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Sociopaths and family

How psychopathic parents create complex trauma in their children

By Dr. Kathy Ahern

An earthquake strikes in the middle of the night. A four-year-old child is trapped in a demolished house. She is left without food or water, help or support for three terrifying days.

In a different city another child the same age is neglected by her self-absorbed parents. They ignore her cries of hunger and fear for three days.

Years later, the earthquake victim suffers no ill effects from her experience. The child who was physically and emotionally abandoned grows into an adult suffering from complex PTSD. The physical and emotional traumas were identical. So why the difference? Betrayal.

Father who shot two daughters smiles at ex-wife as he is executed

John David Battaglia

In May 2001, John David Battaglia shot his two young daughters during a scheduled visit while their mother listened helplessly on a speakerphone.

Battaglia was sentenced to death for his crimes. After losing years of appeals, Battaglia was executed last week.

His ex-wife, Mary Jean Pearle, attended the execution. “Well, hi, Mary Jean,” Battaglia said, looking and smiling at her. “I’ll see y’all later. Bye.”

Dallas man smiles before being executed for killing two daughters while mother listened, on CBSNews.com.

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Psychologist kills his ex-wife in murder-suicide during custody battle

Mary Timmons Scott (Facebook)

Alabama police believe that Greg Scott, 63, a psychologist from Selma, killed his ex-wife, Mary Timmons Scott, 38, and then committed suicide. The couple were engaged in a custody dispute over their two young daughters.

Greg Scott was found dead of a self-inflicted gunshot wound in front of a funeral home. The body of his wife was found locked in the trunk of a car.

‘Daddy shot mommy’: Father-of-two psychologist, 63, ‘killed his ex-wife, 35, and locked her body in trunk of a car before committing suicide’ amid a custody battle, on DailyMail.Co.uk.

 

My First Unsuspecting Year in My Marriage to an Exploiter

By Eleanor Cowan

With a sparkling wedding ring on my finger, I’d claimed a much-desired new identity – no longer the binge-drinking daughter of an alcoholic mother who’d taken her own life, no longer the thrice-raped young woman drowning in shame, but instead newly married to a handsome, highly educated university student. I’d begun a whole new chapter of life.

Still, I noticed things. Little things that I dismissed. That summer of 1973, after my regular work hours at the library, I waitressed part time for the extra cash to pay for my fall university courses in Paris. While I noted my husband’s five-year high stack of unpaid student loans, I decided that his finances were none of my business.

Forcing kids to bond with parents they don’t want to see

Sometimes, in high-conflict divorces, children do not want to have anything to do with one of their parents.

Many Lovefraud readers have seen their sociopathic ex-partners turn children away from them. They call it “parental alienation.”

But sometimes sociopathic parents fabricate claims of parental alienation in order to pry children away from the other parent. They claim the other parent is intentionally poisoning the kids against them, when, in fact, it is their own abusive behavior.

It can be very difficult to know what is going on and who is the abusive parent.

Wow! Child custody, parental alienation and narcissistic personality disorder in the news

Alex Jones, radio broadcaster and founder of Infowars.com, and his former wife, Kelly Jones, were in court recently in a child custody battle.

Their three children had been living with Alex Jones. But the court awarded Kelly Jones joint custody with the right to make her home the children’s primary residence.

What surprised me about this story was that the reporting included the parties’ claims of parental alienation, brainwashing, emotional dysregulation and narcissistic personality disorder. These are all the issues that typically come up in custody battles with sociopaths — but that rarely get any attention.

Caution: Sociopaths can be very convincing

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 44B: A Second Honeymoon

I looked at him. “Are you serious?”

To parents who have children with a sociopathic partner: There is hope

Photo by Photostock at Free Digital Images.net

Photo by Photostock at Free Digital Images.net

Editor’s note: This story was contributed by the Lovefraud reader who posts under the name “Getting There.”

I am guessing my story has many similarities to other victims of a sociopath. I fell in love with a façade. Charming, witty, so attentive, madly in love, a whirlwind intense romance followed by a long slow cruel erosion of my personality. By the time I plucked up the courage to finish the relationship some 13 years later, we had 2 children, a daughter and a son. I was convinced that everything was my fault, I was mad and a terrible human being. For months and months, I chanted a mantra, ‘ This is not all my fault. There were 2 people in our relationship. Life will get better!’ This helped.

Why her happy marriage did not exist

overcoming numbness

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Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader:

I was not in a disastrous relationship with my S. Our relationship was less than three years, our marriage less than two when he openly cheated and decided to leave me, then played games of false reconciliation, which in hindsight were so he could have two sex partners.

The short end of my question is ”¦ How do you reconcile the basically happy marriage, the illusion of a man you married with the horrible monster he has become in trying to create turmoil in your life and use your greatest love (your child) to hurt you?

Documentary producer Vivian McGrath reveals her abusive first marriage

Vivien Mcgrath

Vivian McGrath

When Vivian McGrath was an 18-year-old actress, she met a man at a party who swept her off her feet. He was handsome, intense and oozed sexual chemistry. They talked for hours. Vivian was already hooked.

She tells her story in her first-person article published in the Daily Mail. It sounds like all of the stories published on Lovefraud.

When Vivian was seven months pregnant with their child, her husband strangled her, and almost killed her. Yet when the baby was born, Vivian allowed him back into her life. Every child needs a father, right? He promised to change.

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