Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Trina." Names have been changed in this tale. I dated "Samuel" for three and one half years. I knew he had a criminal past and supported him changing and turning his life around. We were penpals and he wrote me beautiful letters and poems declaring his love. He was amazing at first and so perfect for me, we clicked on every level and I had never met someone more right for me so I moved to the United States. At first he was still very loving although a little dull if I'm honest. After a while we began arguing. One argument was on New Year's eve. A woman from his work called him before midnight. I …
Help pass the New Jersey law to deter ‘sexual assault by fraud!’
By Joyce M. Short Author, Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator's Lies Became Rape Sex fraud has defiled the lives of many Lovefraud participants! We are very fortunate that Donna has built this wonderful healing community that enables victims to exchange supportive ideas and promote healing. Here, we can escape the invalidation we often confront in society, and gain the tools we need in order to heal. We now have the possibility to deter this heinous crime. Sociopaths don't stop behaving badly because we need or want them to. They stop because they'll be exposed or because they'll suffer consequences. Creating a law to make Sexual Assault by Fraud a crime in New Jersey is a good …
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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 2 of 2)
Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." Read Part 1. I had been asking questions to the family friend about why the guys were either quitting or getting fired within a few weeks. My guy kept blaming them; they started out great but in his eyes they turned out to be lazy. The next day is when I spoke to family friends that had worked for him only to be fired or had quit. He was bullying them and had told them what they did together stayed between them, don't tell me. They confirmed my suspicions, he had a fling with my old neighbor, was talking to other women on the phone, meeting other woman for lunch and kissing them goodbye etc. …
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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 1 of 2)
Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." I met him on the job. He has an extensive background, a felon. He was a very hard worker, very charming, charismatic, exuded an excellent work ethic, polite, respectful, and impresses most with all of these qualities but mostly with work ethic. That is what impressed me, plus his intelligence. I expressed that I hoped he got his life together once he was released because he was too intelligent and hardworking to have allowed himself to get into this trouble. Once I made that statement, it was on. He was very aggressive in being polite, a gentleman, always there to help me and talk to me. He …
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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 4 of 4
Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3. Names have been changed. My birthday, one year and one day after he moved in. I asked if we could go out to celebrate, but he said we had no money. No money? That had never stopped us for the entire year he had been there. I told him we did not need money to go out, we went out all the time with no money. The day of my birthday, he asked if we were going out that night, but I said it didn't sound like he wanted to, as when I tried to make plans earlier, he had no interest. He told me he loved me and wouldn't miss it for the world. I begged him to make …
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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 3 of 4
Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1 and Part 2. Names have been changed. He said he his parents were coming to California with another couple who were long-time friends. His brother was going too. He would be gone for three days. He took the Jaguar, but said he was parking it at the family's home, as I didn't it want it driven up the mountain. I asked how his trip was when he got home, but he didn't say much. I took the car out and found blush in the car. Cover Girl. It wasn't mine. I was shaking. He lied. How could he??? I got out of the car, went in the house and asked if he had another woman in my car. …
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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 2 of 4
Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1. Names have been changed. Hewas calling and texting a lot all day long. He said he was dealing with brokers to close these deals and some of them were overseas, so he had to be available, especially when the Asian markets opened. He did a lot of the work in front of me with his laptop open as we sat on the couch and watched TV. He used Skype to speak to people. The email. It changed my life. “Hi Sexy. I miss you gorgeous. I love you!” Her name was the same as his name. Charlie Lipton. I asked who she was and he said she was some girl he dated three or four times. I asked …
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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 1 of 4
Editor's note: A Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie" submitted the following story. Names have been changed. Smooth, smart, sexy. Everything a woman could want. Or so I thought. Why? Why did this happen? What did I do to deserve it? I wish I could wake up from this nightmare. It won't go away. The flashbacks, the words, the feelings. Over and over and over and over in my head. Make it go away. I can't. I try. I pray. And I cry. Each night when I lay my head down, I wish I could fall asleep and not wake up. There had to be someone out there for me. I wasn't meeting any quality men in person, so reluctantly, I placed a dating profile online on Plenty of Fish. And he …
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Watching the Sociopath Self-Destruct
by Quinn Pierce The Perpetual Victim I don't know how he does it. It's a skill he continues to practice and perfect, I suppose. What's astonishing is his ability to twist any situation- no matter how absurd- into something where he can paint himself as the victim. Anyone who was even remotely involved in our lives last year would know that my ex-husband reached a new level of vindictive, hurtful behavior. He manipulated every resource he could access including doctors, courts, school systems, and child services in two states. It was such a forceful and constant barrage of attacks that I didn't even have time to collect my thoughts before responding. And that was his goal all …
Sociopaths and Christmas
In your dreams and desires, Christmas is a wonderful time of the year. You spend time with family and friends. You give and receive thoughtful gifts. If you are religious, you renew your faith. Christmas is supposed to be special. Of course, it doesn't always work out that way, but at least that's your goal. So how do sociopaths view Christmas? In my opinion, sociopaths view Christmas simply as another tool in their manipulation toolbox. They know that Christmas is important to their targets that would be you so they figure out how to use Christmas to advance their agendas. So, if sociopaths are in the love bombing stage, they may shower you with gifts and create unbelievably …