UPDATED FOR 2021. Why do we escape one sociopathic partner, only to be hooked by a sociopath again? It happens. A lot. Here's an example: A reader first joined Lovefraud in 2008, as she was scrambling to get away from a man who she thought was her true love, but turned out to be a sociopath. She read Lovefraud articles and posted comments for a couple of years, and then moved on. Six years later, she sent me an email with the subject line, "I'm back." She'd become involved with another sociopath. "How could I be so stupid?" she wrote. "And this time is much much much much worse than the last." Another sociopath Why does this happen? Why do we get rid of one problem person, only …
Yes, you can decide to be positive, despite the sociopaths
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, writes that even after the chaos and turbulence of sociopaths, you can decide to be positive. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I wish I had a couple of bucks for every time people said that they wished they were as positive as I am. I heard it a few times again yesterday. It's kinda funny when I think about it because I can assure you, I didn't come out of the chute this way. Growing up in a home with sociopaths, there wasn't much by way of sunshine and roses. And the resulting damage meant ongoing chaos and turbulence well into adulthood and spending years …
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To Stop the Energy Drain, Put Yourself First
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us that it's exhausting to try to be all things to all people. To stop the energy drain, put yourself first. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Life can be exhausting. Even when things are going great, there's always so much to do. Life that involves a sociopath is absolutely draining. How do you stop the energy drain? There are no words for how it feels to interact with sociopaths. Until we figure out how to stop or minimise it, these psychic vampires suck the energy right out of us. There could be a list of reasons for how you ended up with this …
Yes, you can accept and live in positive energy
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us that even after a sociopath has caused havoc in our lives, we can accept and live in positive energy. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Tea and milk. Milk and cookies. Milk and honey. Honey and peanut butter. Peanut butter and strawberry jam. Chicken and strawberry jam. Strawberries and cream. Strawberries and chocolate. Dark chocolate and red wine. Wine and cheese. Wine and picnic baskets. Yogi and picnic baskets. Afternoon and naps. Naps and kitties. Laps and kitties. Laps and kiddies. Kiddies and cuddles. Cuddles and loved ones. Loved ones and hugs. …
How to change your beliefs and change your life
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how invalidating beliefs affect you. But you don't have to keep them — you can change your beliefs and change your life. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest If you've been dealing with a sociopath, you've probably ended up with a lot of toxic beliefs that haven't been serving you well. The bad news is that they will continue to wreak havoc on your life and happiness unless you become aware of them, but that's the good news. Once you know what you're dealing with, you can learn how to blow them to smithereens. You can change your beliefs. So let me ask you t …
Why Worrying Makes Matters Worse
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains why worrying makes matters worse — when you're obsessing about the bad, you can't see the good. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Do you remember the expression "worrywart"? I wonder if anyone still uses it. I haven't heard it in years. Hmmm, that makes me sound older than dirt. Whether or not anyone uses that phrase, one thing is for sure: All over the world, people still worry a lot, whether they are called "worrywarts" or not. I used to be one of those people. I suppose I came by it honestly enough. I'm sure it had its roots in childhood, growing u …
No One Can “Make You Feel” Hurt, Angry, or Anything Else
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains an empowering concept — despite what you may think, no one can make you feel hurt, angry or any other emotion. Knowing this, you can take back your power. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest "He makes me so angry!" "You make me jealous when you see your friends!" "I'll make her feel so guilty for this..." "Oh, I'm so sorry I hurt your feelings!" Sound familiar in general, if not specifically? No doubt you've been down that road a time or two, on one side of those statements or the other. These are the kinds of statements many people make on a r …
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Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains that the way to recover from the sociopath and move forward in life is to focus on what you want, not on what you don't want. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest If you're living with a sociopath or the fallout from one, you could well have found yourself dwelling on all the pain, frustration, betrayal, fear, and other emotions that have become "the norm." I mean, when you've been immersed in such a toxic, negative situation, it seems impossible - if not ridiculous - to envision moving past those feelings. Your world has gradually slid into a place that you …
Make It a Beautiful Day…In Spite of the Sociopath
Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, offers suggestions for finding moments of joy in our day, in spite of the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest The sun is rising, casting a soft, rosy glow across the cool grey sky, gently warming all it surveys as it quietly welcomes us to yet another new day. Sleepily, we climb out of our comfortable cocoons, yawning and stretching as we shuffle off to the kitchen for that hot cup of tea or that steaming mug of coffee, sliding ourselves into our lives for one more morning, not remotely noticing the glorious New Day that lies before us, brimming over …
Lessons after the sociopath: Real love is easy
UPDATED FOR 2021: On this Valentines Day, if you've been previously devastated by a sociopath, you may wonder if you can ever love again. The answer is yes. And here's a bit of wisdom that will help you decide if a new romantic partner is authentic and true: Real love is easy. I am living proof. In February 2000, I was divorced from James Montgomery, who took a quarter of a million dollars from me, cheated throughout our brief two-and-a-half-year relationship, had a child with another woman while married to me, and then married that woman 10 days after I left him, committing bigamy. I was crushed. After I left Montgomery, I had one nice relationship with a man, although it didn't turn …