Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Constance21" about the man she dated — a gorgeous guy who led a double life. I met my partner at age 31, just when I'd almost given upon finding true love. He checked all the boxes and then some. I gloated with pride whenever people asked if he had any brothers or friends like him. Tall, 6-pack, former college athlete, millionaire parents, corporate finance executive, dressed like he stepped out from a page of GQ, quiet, no known vices, never been married and had no kids, and lastly had a soft spot for rescue dogs. Too good to be true you say? Had I known then what I know now, I'd be $50,000 richer and wouldn't h …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story by a reader whom we'll call, "Cindy21." She was with a man who manipulated and swindled her for 10 years, and she is embarrassed about falling for his lies. My story runs the course of 10 years. It involves two cancers, a motor vehicle accident, MS and much heartache. He stole my home and had me finance a business that I was 95% owner to 5% and when my daughter was critically ill and I had no money he threw me out. He said if I didn't sign a contract for $60,000 to buy me out of a home I had over $100,000 and a business that at the time was grossing 300,000, that as he put "If you don't do it you get nothing b*tch." Over the …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Larissa21."  She met the socioath at 18; she saw but didn't understand the warning signs of a sociopath. I met the love of my life or so I thought the summer of 1994, my mother was suffering from breast cancer and she wanted to bring me on a trip for my senior year graduation present. She asked if I wanted to go to Ireland but I knew she wanted to see my brother in California at the time so we went - my mother was a year in battling cancer (an unknown source that only 3 percent of the population gets). She was given a year to live. On the summer night of July 5th I phoned my best friend to …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Mariana20" about her experience as an abused immigrant. English is not her first language. I met George online he 20 years older than me. He travelled to the Brazil and met me. He is a businessman and smart guy, I was in love with him. He made a lot promises. I work with him and he took care of me. We met in Brazil he bought a promise ring, and invited me to live in United States with him. I accepted. We get married After 4 months I married him because I was without green card. The day about the wedding he said for me to sign a prenup and a lot humiliation and same I signed. He didn’t marry me. He w …

Abused immigrant: He lures her to the U.S. and then beats herRead More

Editor's note: Following is an email exchange that I had with a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Susana21." She describes encountering the narcissistic ex, and how it affected her. Susana 21 writes: After a long and difficult relationship, I finally ended things and, even though my logic had been screaming at me to do it years sooner, it took my heart a few more years and MUCH pain before it finally caught up. I was doing No Contact and was finally starting to feel better. Finally. !! And then ... A few weeks ago, totally by coincidence, I was leaving a store and a car pulled up beside me. My narcissist. If the situation was reversed, I would have totally ignored him and kept …

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Here's more proof that sociopaths never stop scamming. Back in June 2012, Lovefraud published a story about Andrew Funches, AKA Ty Fortner, scamming more than 10 women. Now, eight years later, we learn that he has a new name — Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher — but the same game. Except, where he once operated mostly in Chicago, he's now looking for targets in London and Barcelona! Yes, he legally changed his name to Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher. Having so many names is convenient, because he mixes and matches them, depending on the current scam. For example, in addition to scamming women, he was operating a bartending/catering business and proceeded to scam couples who …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "William20." He writes about the shocking and flagrant way in which a sociopath reveals her disorder, although he didn't realize it for a long time. Statements in brackets [ ] are editor's notes. I joined Lovefraud about three years ago, although I was aware of you before that, when my relationship with a covert narcissist I was engaged to for over two years ended horribly (at least for me). I thought I had recovered and in time "re-discovered" a lost love and a person who I considered to be a good friend for more than 19 years. We married last December and after I completed a full rehab and upgrade …

Sociopath reveals her disorder in her email addressRead More

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call Elizabeth20, who writes that her sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow. Married to a sociopath for 9 years, split up four times and reconciled within seven months each time. Subjected to emotional, psychological, physical and financial abuse. Most recently I was manipulated into allowing another woman in his life who has a life threatening illness ( which is actually true ) because they got together during out split up, then she had a brain seizure while with him that made her completely dependent on him. We arranged to meet and talk, and agreed that he carry on living with her and being her …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as Gigi2020, who says her whole marriage was a lie. Donna Andersen responds at the end of her story. Letter from Gigi20 I just recently learned that my ex husband lied to me about what I'm guessing is everything, our whole marriage was a lie. I am having a hard time comprehending that he would be able to live his charade for 8 years. I caught him in small lies our whole marriage but I would brush them off. When he drank, which was most of our relationship, but the last year and a half, the red flags were all over the place. However he had told me that he was in an explosion in Iraq, which caused a brain injury …

Her husband was a sociopath, and her whole marriage was a lieRead More