Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call, “Molly.“ She, unfortunately, met a sociopath who cheats internationally. I met this guy online. In a week he had booked his flight from Scotland to see me in Ireland. He told me I was exactly what he was looking for. At 47 he had already been married and divorced twice and had an 18 year old son. He had a highflying job going to work via helicopter so it was all very romantic. He claimed to have depression and anxiety. The day my mum died instead of coming to her funeral he flew his other woman to Barcelona to a 4-star hotel for 5 days over Valentine's. When he got back 5 days later, he finished with …

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UPDATED FOR 2021. Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by the  Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "Shanmoo." This article was originally published in 2014, but the message is timeless.  Shanmoo wanted to know if the guy she dated is a jerk or a sociopath. Donna Andersen's comments follow the letter. I can't believe I've had to come back here after five years. I had a spath boyfriend in 2008-2009, and spent many a night on this site. However, I did move forward, and I believed I had dealt with all the issues, karma and justice happened and in fact I met a decent guy. Unfortunately we went our separate ways because of my illness, at that time. My relationship with c …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from the reader Runfree51. With her ex, she says, the sex was odd. After they split he was charged with assault and rape. I met the father of my boy on a dating site. I was 43 and he was 49. Everything happened very fast, we met after chatting for a week, and he moved in a few weeks later. I don't see myself as stupid or anything but I allowed it to happen, him moving in. I saw red flags but I was having such a lovely time, I thought I could handle it. The arrangement for him to move in was clear, that it was more for the financial reason as we hardly knew each other so if it didn't work out romantically, or anyway, he would just …

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Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Constance21" about the man she dated — a gorgeous guy who led a double life. I met my partner at age 31, just when I'd almost given upon finding true love. He checked all the boxes and then some. I gloated with pride whenever people asked if he had any brothers or friends like him. Tall, 6-pack, former college athlete, millionaire parents, corporate finance executive, dressed like he stepped out from a page of GQ, quiet, no known vices, never been married and had no kids, and lastly had a soft spot for rescue dogs. Too good to be true you say? Had I known then what I know now, I'd be $50,000 richer and wouldn't h …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story by a reader whom we'll call, "Cindy21." She was with a man who manipulated and swindled her for 10 years, and she is embarrassed about falling for his lies. My story runs the course of 10 years. It involves two cancers, a motor vehicle accident, MS and much heartache. He stole my home and had me finance a business that I was 95% owner to 5% and when my daughter was critically ill and I had no money he threw me out. He said if I didn't sign a contract for $60,000 to buy me out of a home I had over $100,000 and a business that at the time was grossing 300,000, that as he put "If you don't do it you get nothing b*tch." Over the …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Larissa21."  She met the socioath at 18; she saw but didn't understand the warning signs of a sociopath. I met the love of my life or so I thought the summer of 1994, my mother was suffering from breast cancer and she wanted to bring me on a trip for my senior year graduation present. She asked if I wanted to go to Ireland but I knew she wanted to see my brother in California at the time so we went - my mother was a year in battling cancer (an unknown source that only 3 percent of the population gets). She was given a year to live. On the summer night of July 5th I phoned my best friend to …

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Mariana20" about her experience as an abused immigrant. English is not her first language. I met George online he 20 years older than me. He travelled to the Brazil and met me. He is a businessman and smart guy, I was in love with him. He made a lot promises. I work with him and he took care of me. We met in Brazil he bought a promise ring, and invited me to live in United States with him. I accepted. We get married After 4 months I married him because I was without green card. The day about the wedding he said for me to sign a prenup and a lot humiliation and same I signed. He didn’t marry me. He w …

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Editor's note: Following is an email exchange that I had with a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Susana21." She describes encountering the narcissistic ex, and how it affected her. Susana 21 writes: After a long and difficult relationship, I finally ended things and, even though my logic had been screaming at me to do it years sooner, it took my heart a few more years and MUCH pain before it finally caught up. I was doing No Contact and was finally starting to feel better. Finally. !! And then ... A few weeks ago, totally by coincidence, I was leaving a store and a car pulled up beside me. My narcissist. If the situation was reversed, I would have totally ignored him and kept …

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Here's more proof that sociopaths never stop scamming. Back in June 2012, Lovefraud published a story about Andrew Funches, AKA Ty Fortner, scamming more than 10 women. Now, eight years later, we learn that he has a new name — Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher — but the same game. Except, where he once operated mostly in Chicago, he's now looking for targets in London and Barcelona! Yes, he legally changed his name to Don Charles Andrew Tyler Grey Fletcher. Having so many names is convenient, because he mixes and matches them, depending on the current scam. For example, in addition to scamming women, he was operating a bartending/catering business and proceeded to scam couples who …

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