Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Editor's note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader acetiger01. Reverting back to the child self I kiss my boyfriend’s forehead lovingly as I pin him down before he has to go to work today. Lovingly being the way I look at him, touch him, the tone in my voice, as my grip is tight on his arms and my full weight on his chest to ensure that I speak to his subconscious as the dominant (even though he could easily out power me if given the chance). I smile sweetly and look up at him with big innocent brown eyes, a look I was taught from a young age could change someone’s perception of me entirely as I deliver harsh or distasteful information. I advise him to manipulate his c …

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Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Cassandra18." I've been a longtime reader of your website and wanted to thank you for what a valuable tool it is. I figured, I'd finally write in with a question of my own and I was hoping for some feedback from you. So, the thing is, I have a propensity to date very selfish, controlling people and two of my past relationships have been with verifiable sociopaths. Most recently, I have been in and out of a relationship with a man I used to work with. Something keeps telling me that something is off about him but I can't pinpoint it. Some of the warning signs that have happened while with …

Are these warning signs that I’m involved with a sociopath?Read More

Editor's note: Yesterday Lovefraud posted a story from a woman in Australia whom we'll call "Shawna18." Read it here: I left the sociopath once I had everything back he stole from me and humiliated me in the process. She also wrote a letter to the next victim. "After 3 years of no contact I decided against all advice from the professionals to warn the new victim," Shawna18 says. "It doesn’t matter if she believes me or not, what matters is that if I planted a seed of doubt, then I will have done my job, unlike all the other women who knew him and didn’t have the balls to warn me about him." Names are changed. Cecilia, Let me introduce myself. I am the 3rd psycho who he had to get …

A warning letter to the next victim from the third ‘psycho’ wifeRead More

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman in Australia whom we'll call "Shawna18." Tomorrow read Shawna's letter that she wrote to the next victim. Love bombed, soul mate within 1st day. Returned to his ex-wife, then returned to me when ex-wife didn't give him what he needed. Moved from Qld to Melb to be with him. Lived together four years, loneliest years of my life. Married me while he was seeing another woman who he continued to see for the next 3 years until caught. Divorced him immediately. Went back on his word to not contest what we had built together as long as I didn't contest what he owned before me (his business). Realised he was a nasty SOB …

I left the sociopath once I had everything back he stole from me and humiliated him in the processRead More

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "Vania." English is not her first language. I think my ex is a narc but I'm still not sure. So I've been in a relationship with this guy for just 3 months. But it means a lot to me because I'm someone who's super not easy to open up with people, so once I did and once I fall, I will fall so hard. And I also think I am an empath. I'm a shy girl and this guy is the very opposite of me. He's so confident and unique, to be honest we are so different in many ways, but I think that's the thing that made us attracted to each other. I've never been in a serious relationship before because I'm hardly fall in …

Is he a narc? Is he really hurt, or just his ego is hurt?Read More

Editor's note: The following story was written by the Lovefraud reader from Australia who goes by the name "Acharbet." He says, "The names I use below are false in order to protect the innocent, guilty and bystanders. I have preserved people's genders in their names, but have obscured ethnicities, which I consider to be irrelevant to my story." As mine is a convoluted story, a tortured story, and clearly not a terribly customary story, I am not going to write it in a terribly customary way. I will use no firm and fixed chronology. Instead, I am going to reveal events in the order in which their truths revealed themselves to me. She stood there, tall, severely overweight and with a …

My tortured journey to discover the sociopathic truth behind the coincidencesRead More

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Wilma18." The sociopath was engaged to my daughter. She is a very trusting and caring person. She was living in a town that was not close to family or friends and met this sociopath on a dating website. He lied to her from the beginning about past relationships. He came on strong and romantic. She doesn't fall for men quickly, but he was patient and after six months she was in love with him (his scam). There were signs that something wasn't exactly right but they happened so few and far between and when she happened to mention them to friends and family, she wasn't mentioning them to the same …

The sociopath came on strong and romantic — it was all a fraudRead More

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Marjory18." When I got involved with a bad person last year I wrote in to you with my story. I have been committed to reading stories, articles etc on your Lovefraud site. All I can say is thank goodness for your site and the info you provide. I had another online date recently Signs were there.  My mama raised me right (was told to me before) Super charming Tons of compliments Lots of sexual talk (on the first date?) We seemed to have a lot in common (really? that much) Heartfelt and deep conversations (on his part) That he studied psychology (was told that before - is that …

Lovefraud reader tries online dating, spots warning signs, dumps the guyRead More