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She told me to give her money or stay out of our child’s life

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Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Sebastian." Dated a female sociopath over 3-4 years and have a child with her. The child is now over 2 years old. She was held for 72-hour observation on average once every 3 months. Constant shoplifter, abused Rx medications, and would cheat on occasion. The stealing and drug-use was accompanied by remarks, for example, "I stole cause you don't give me enough money," or "prescription medications are fine because doctors prescribe them," and "I did it cause you didn't pay enough attention to me." I was working 40+ hours a week, going to school full time, and still taking her to 4 therapy sessions …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 4 of 4

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Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3. Names have been changed.  My birthday, one year and one day after he moved in. I asked if we could go out to celebrate, but he said we had no money. No money? That had never stopped us for the entire year he had been there. I told him we did not need money to go out, we went out all the time with no money. The day of my birthday, he asked if we were going out that night, but I said it didn't sound like he wanted to, as when I tried to make plans earlier, he had no interest. He told me he loved me and wouldn't miss it for the world. I begged him to make his …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 3 of 4

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Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1 and Part 2. Names have been changed.  He said he his parents were coming to California with another couple who were long-time friends. His brother was going too. He would be gone for three days. He took the Jaguar, but said he was parking it at the family's home, as I didn't it want it driven up the mountain. I asked how his trip was when he got home, but he didn't say much. I took the car out and found blush in the car. Cover Girl. It wasn't mine. I was shaking. He lied. How could he??? I got out of the car, went in the house and asked if he had another woman in my car. …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 2 of 4

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Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1. Names have been changed.  Hewas calling and texting a lot all day long. He said he was dealing with brokers to close these deals and some of them were overseas, so he had to be available, especially when the Asian markets opened. He did a lot of the work in front of me with his laptop open as we sat on the couch and watched TV. He used Skype to speak to people. The email. It changed my life. “Hi Sexy. I miss you gorgeous. I love you!” Her name was the same as his name. Charlie Lipton. I asked who she was and he said she was some girl he dated three or four times. I asked w …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 1 of 4

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 Editor's note: A Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie" submitted the following story. Names have been changed. Smooth, smart, sexy. Everything a woman could want. Or so I thought. Why? Why did this happen? What did I do to deserve it? I wish I could wake up from this nightmare. It won't go away. The flashbacks, the words, the feelings. Over and over and over and over in my head. Make it go away. I can't. I try. I pray. And I cry. Each night when I lay my head down, I wish I could fall asleep and not wake up. There had to be someone out there for me. I wasn't meeting any quality men in person, so reluctantly, I placed a dating profile online on Plenty of Fish. And he …

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Father tries to protect his daughter from mother’s violence and mistreatment

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a dad whom we'll call "Angelo." The mother of our daughter started off by trapping me, by saying she was on birth control when she actually was not. We had major problems due to her chatting with other men online so I left her. She threatened to kill me and herself when I told her I was done. I get a call from her about a month later, with her saying she was pregnant so I decided to give her another chance because of our soon-to-be-born daughter. The mother continued to threaten suicide and have major extreme bipolar episodes. She threatened suicide so much that she wrote it down on paper and signed it. I later found a letter …

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All I want is to live my life without my ex in it

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Editor's Note: This SPATH tale is an update to a story previously submitted by Lovefraud reader "Tina-Marie", 'I am getting more imprisoned daily'. My well connected, well moneyed sociopath ex-husband, who abandoned the children and me years ago, took every dime and signed custody over to me, resurfaced 18 months ago. He followed me to another state despite a cease and desist letter to not do so. He has had protective orders which he violated and got arrested for. He had two criminal charges for domestic violence with the current pending charges I just mentioned. He has sent me threatening emails and texts telling me that if I don't drop the charges, he will bring our son to court with …

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I was chewed up and spit out in a ‘classic’ manner and at record speed

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 Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "two is enough." I have been involved with not one, but two, sociopaths, just over a decade apart. I encountered the first when I was 19 years old -- young, naive, and utterly ignorant to the existence of personality disorders. The damage I incurred was mind-bogglingly devastating -- I died emotionally, and, quite literally almost physically, from his abuse. In time though, I learned to be kind to myself over becoming a victim, because I truly didn't see it coming. Once in the throes of a disordered relationship with him, I lacked the experience to tell me that this wasn't normal or …

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He makes me believe the lies and sucks me into the drama

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who posts by the name "stronginthecity." I am currently in a relationship with a sociopath. I've been with him since June 2013. I was with him before. That relationship ended in 2006, leaving me jobless and depressed because he left the relationship abruptly and literally disappeared. I am a medical professional, so I am the typical target I guess. He resurfaced last year proclaiming his love for me and how much he missed me -- giving three or four reasons, explanations why he left. I kept tabs on him through the years from time to time and found out he was in prison in 2009 for drug charges. He is a constant liar …

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I am not, and never have been mad – just stressed and traumatized because of him

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Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laverne." I feel that my life has been basically ruined (and is still being ruined) by the father of my children who is a truly vicious sociopath. He stalks the background of my life like the Grim Reaper feeding off the misery he causes. For anyone who has not had this type of experience it is very hard to explain, as sociopaths, such as my ex partner, appear so 'normal' to others, whilst making you, the victim, seem like the 'mad' one. As we have children together I feel like I am trapped and the only way out is if he were to die. My whole existence is one of nervous terror - waiting for the next …

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