Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. There are times when I feel completely lost in all this pain, with no way out. It is as if I have been completely abandoned in a world full of hurt. There seems to be no one, or no thing, that I can trust anymore. All of the things that I used to enjoy only bring me temporary relief, at best. My mind obsesses about what happened, what could have been, and what misery the future holds. It feels as though my very life has been taken from me. Hopelessness has become my home, and fear my constant companion. If you recognize this state of mind, “you are not alone” …
Holidays after the sociopath
Lovefraud recently received the following email: It's almost a year since I last saw my x-sociopath as a boyfriend, the real last time was in May in a court and some after. It is hard this time of year with the Holidays around, and I have a lot of health issues and so not hearing his voice, or getting calls, has been hard—even though I know now he is liar. This time last year I did not know how much I had been scammed up til then. Still, with all the reading I have done, and all the thinking and grieving, I just can't understand how this person could have fooled me, or that he knew that he was doing so much wrong to me, while sometimes still saying I love you back to me after I said i …
Merry Christmas to all!
Merry Christmas! Wherever you are on your journey, we hope that you are heading towards happiness, joy, and above all, peace! Love, Donna and Terry …
Recognizing Hell, and Finding The Way Out
Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. This is the third in a series of postings on spiritual healing that will attempt to Make Sense of these encounters with sociopaths and present the process that literally turns these painful experiences into Miracles of Healing. -Spiritual Truth- -There is absolutely nothing that ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being happy, joyous and free today. If this is true”¦and it is”¦then, peace must be a choice.- One of the most challenging things that I have ever done is seeking to make sense out of my experience with my father. It has also been the m …
Beautiful Birds
Thank you for your kind comments after the Tigers post — I'm so glad that people are able to identify with what I'm saying. It kind of makes all the past ”˜bad stuff' worthwhile”¦ you know what I mean? So again, thank you for letting me know what works — it means a lot to me. This last weekend was my birthday and I've been wondering what to write for this week's post. Do I talk about the celebration of birthdays? Or the festive season? Or perhaps the concept of rebirth and renewal? And then, all of a sudden, as I was consulting Google for a completely unrelated subject, a phrase that I had never heard of seemed to jump out of my computer screen: “It's the beautiful bird that gets caged” Si …
A Bridge to Hope
Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. This is the second in a series of 6 postings on spiritual healing that will attempt to Make Sense of these encounters with sociopaths and present the process that literally turns these painful experiences into Miracles of Healing. “There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance - that principle is contempt prior to investigation” -Herbert Spencer- The Bridge of Hope Forgive is one of the most misunderstood words in the English language. In fact, many p …
Don’t Think About The Tigers!
I am always fascinated by the way we use our thoughts and our language — both are extremely powerful tools, both have equally as much power to help us as to hinder us, depending on the way we use them. In the vast majority of cases, people have little idea of just how much control they actually do have over their experiences — and even less understanding about how to do something to positively influence how they're feeling. And you know the strangest thing? Most people are so acutely aware of what they don't want that they've forgotten what it is they do want — which is why so many remain stuck. Not so long ago I was working with a lady who'd had some pretty rough experiences. She'd alrea …
The importance of believing in ourselves
Back in August of 2010, I told my story of being defrauded by a sociopath as “star” of the premiere episode of Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry?, a TV show that aired on the Investigation Discovery network. Well, since that first exciting night, the show has probably aired 30 or 40 times. It aired in Australia. It aired in South America. On Friday, it aired on the Oprah Winfrey Network. Hey, I've finally been on Oprah! I never know in advance when the show is going to air—I only find out when I start receiving emails from people who see it and identify with my story. A couple of months ago I heard from a man who saw the show and was beginning to suspect that a woman in his life was using him fo …
An Invitation for A Miracle
Editor's note: The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud's statement on Spiritual Recovery. An Invitation for A Miracle. This is the first in a series of 6 postings on spiritual healing that will attempt to Make Sense of these encounters with sociopaths and present the process that literally turns these painful experiences into Miracles of Healing. Most of us on this site know all about the feelings of shame, guilt, pain and suffering that are associated with an experience with a sociopath. This is the common bond that brings us together and helps build trust in these new relationships being formed in the Lovefraud community. The very idea that t …
Get Out Your Rainbow Colours!
Many months ago, a dear friend of mine sent me a card with these words on it: “You, whose day it is, get out your rainbow colours and make it beautiful!” Traditional Nootka Song I still have it sitting on my desk because it always makes me smile and, when I need it, gives me a bit of a jolt as well! It's come in particularly handy over the past few days because, for whatever reason, they've been just some of ”˜those' kind of days. I'm sure you know what I mean. They're the days when, no matter what, it just seems there's a storm cloud following — not necessarily in full storm mode, maybe just moody and threatening. Either way, there's a kind of heaviness and flat feeling that just sits th …