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Changing the presumption: Is a child really better off interacting with both parents?

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Just Like His Father? Is nearly four years old now and my own son is nearly eight. At the time the book was released, scientists were still engaged in the genetics versus environment debate regarding the development of antisocial behavior. That debate is now over and every authority accepts that antisocial behavior and antisocial personality traits develop due to a gene-environment interaction. I am working on revising the book because now some specific genes have been identified. Thankfully, I have not had to cope with the toxic environment a sociopath/psychopath creates for their offspring. Just Like His Father? doesn't really grapple with that issue other than to encourage people to …

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Life support

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By Ox Drover A thought struck me the other day as I was musing ”¦ many people today have at least thought about how they want things to proceed when they come toward the end of their lives. Do they want to be “kept on life support” with feeding tubes and ventilators and lying unconscious in an intensive care nursing unit? Is that kind of “life” really anything but prolonging drying? Or, is it possible that if you stayed there with mechanical life support, that you might actually wake up and heal, and go on and enjoy more time in a healthy life? Many of us have made decisions which we have placed into “Living Wills” and have appointed someone to be our decision maker if we can't make our …

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Love Fraud: A guide to taking back our lives

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By Kathleen Hawk, author of the After the Sociopath: How Do We Heal? series on Lovefraud. Donna Andersen is living proof that even the most successful, confident and assertive people can get emotionally entangled with a dangerous predator. Her story is a textbook case of how a professional con man can seduce his victim by offering her the dreams she has not yet achieved by herself. And then ups the ante of what she has to pay until the relationship becomes not just expensive, but destructive and toxic. But this book is not about being a victim, but about being a victor. It covers three main topics. First the awful relationship, which followed a pattern that is familiar to anyone who has …

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LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Staying safe on Facebook

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Editor's Note: Lovefraud received the following article from the reader in Australia who posts as “Dani S.” I recently had the unfortunate experience of coming across another personality disorder, this time on Facebook. I love Facebook, as growing up in a small country town and moving to the city, Facebook has been a great place for me to reconnect with old school friends and to chat with them online. I have always been very careful never to add friend request unless I know the person personally, so I thought that I was safe! Wrong! I joined a group called "Dead Beat Dads." The group had over 300 members, ranging from mothers, stepfathers and children of fathers that have exp …

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Is redemption possible?

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Last night Larry King Live of CNN hosted a discussion about whether criminals can be rehabilitated. I think it will be re-aired this weekend so try to watch. One of the guests drew a distinction between "learned" criminal behavior and psychopathy. She stated she believed that criminals who have learned to be that way can unlearn but psychopaths cannot be rehabilitated. I know many of you also hold this belief so I would like to tell you why I strongly disagree. First I will tell you my position: ALL criminality stems from an interaction between a person and a situation. A person is a product of his/her genetics and experiences. So in a sense what makes up personality (the "person") is …

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Love Fraud: An inspiration to anyone who has been targeted by a sociopath

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By ErinBrock Get the book, get the book, get the book!!!!!!! LOVE FRAUD: How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, by Donna Andersen, is a must read for anyone left in pieces after a toxic relationship involving a sociopath. Survivors of sociopathic relationships are left wondering, “How did I get here?” and “Where do I go from here?” Donna's book will give you insight into finding these answers and provide the inspiration to know ”¦”¦ it's not over until the “fat” lady sings. We can survive; we will recover! Trust the plan. Donna Andersen is an inspiration to anyone who has been targeted by a sociopath. Follow Donna's story and you will be compelled to pick yourself up and …

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LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Delete yourself from the lie

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A few weeks ago, Lovefraud published a letter from “Kay” —This was all about him and all about what he needed. Kay has written again, with Part 2 of her story. It's Kay, I am back with more memories I uncovered which were hidden in my subconscious about this sociopath. I hope this helps Lovefraud readers once again. I have taken the time to re-read some of his emails, all of them actually, trying to piece together an otherwise really, really Long Lie which consumed one-and-a-half years of my life. Here is one of his emails where he LIES about everything he feels... WARNING — There are TRIGGERS here. I am sure you some of you have heard some or all of this before.... Like I told you the …

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When Sociopaths Follow The Rules

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Aren't sociopaths supposed to be rule-breakers? Isn't this a main indicator of their sociopathy? If so, then what's up with sociopaths when they're following, not breaking, the rules? Hmm. This appears to be confusing, but then again, is it really? Perhaps it's oversimplistic to see sociopaths as incapable of following rules? In the grand scheme of things, I think it's fair to say that sociopaths will break rules; they will violate boundaries; they will hurt and violate others with a startling—indeed sociopathic—lack of accountability and conscience. The sociopath, I think we can say reasonably, will inevitably transgress others, and he will transgress them heartlessly. However, w …

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Donna Andersen’s video for Love Fraud book

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“Most of us want to believe that there's good in everyone. Unfortunately, it isn't true. There are people in the world who are rotten to the core, and they're called sociopaths.” That's how I begin my video interview about my new book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. I answer questions about what happened to me, and why I wrote the book. The six-minute video is posted on my blog for the book, and I invite you to watch it. Pre-order special ends July 31 Right now, we're offering a pre-order special for the book. If you place your order now, we'll send you an autographed and numbered first edition, shipped free to U.S. destinations, and 40 percent of …

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Professor talks about psychopathy

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In a television show produced by the University of Wisconsin, Professor Joseph Newman talks about psychopaths. He says that a basic problem with psychopaths is attention deficit—they may see cues or threats that they should stop a certain behavior, but they don't pay attention to them. Watch Office Hours: Psychopathy, on youtube.com. Read a scientific paper about Newman's research, Attention moderates the fearlessness of psychopathic offenders. Links provided by a Lovefraud reader. …

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