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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 2 of 2)

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Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." Read Part 1. I had been asking questions to the family friend about why the guys were either quitting or getting fired within a few weeks. My guy kept blaming them; they started out great but in his eyes they turned out to be lazy. The next day is when I spoke to family friends that had worked for him only to be fired or had quit. He was bullying them and had told them what they did together stayed between them, don't tell me. They confirmed my suspicions, he had a fling with my old neighbor, was talking to other women on the phone, meeting other woman for lunch and kissing them goodbye etc. …

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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 1 of 2)

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Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." I met him on the job. He has an extensive background, a felon. He was a very hard worker, very charming, charismatic, exuded an excellent work ethic, polite, respectful, and impresses most with all of these qualities but mostly with work ethic. That is what impressed me, plus his intelligence. I expressed that I hoped he got his life together once he was released because he was too intelligent and hardworking to have allowed himself to get into this trouble. Once I made that statement, it was on. He was very aggressive in being polite, a gentleman, always there to help me and talk to me. He …

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American Sniper: Sheep, wolves and sheepdogs

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American Sniper, starring Bradley Cooper and directed by Clint Eastwood, is one very intense movie. It tells the story of Chris Kyle, the Navy SEAL sniper with 160 officially confirmed kills, although in his memoir of the same title Kyle says he probably killed twice that number. Regardless of what Lovefraud readers may think about war, guns, the military, Iraq, etc., I want to talk about one scene from the beginning of the movie. In the scene, Chris Kyle is a boy of perhaps 11 or 12, sitting at the dinner table with his family. Earlier in the day, he got into a fight to protect his younger brother. Kyle's father uses the incident to gravely address his boys. He says: “There are three t …

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Telepathic experience with a sociopath: ‘It was an absolute terror’

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Clint." You have heard the story hundreds of times. I was a naive do-gooder with a new friend that i just could not figure out. Last night, he explained himself to me in way I would not have believed possible. A little background on me: I am an engineer/scientist in my education and way of thinking. I do not believe anything that cannot be proven in a controlled experiment or supported by scientific data. I do not believe in magic, ghosts, ESP, UFO's, voodoo, witchcraft, good & evil, etc. etc. That is until last night. I realize now that i should not dismiss things not fully understood. I met a 23 …

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Childhood adversity and psychiatric disorders affect our cells

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New research suggests that cells can be affected, and the aging process accelerated, by childhood adversity or psychiatric disorders at any age. "Stress exposure and psychiatirc conditions are associated with inflammation and health conditions like diabetes and heart disease," said the study's author, Audrey Tyrka, M.D., Ph.D., as reported by MedicalExpress.com. Connection between childhood adversity and psychiatric disorders seen at cellular level, on Medical Express.com. Thanks to the Lovefraud reader who recently posted this link in a comment. …

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She told me to give her money or stay out of our child’s life

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Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Sebastian." Dated a female sociopath over 3-4 years and have a child with her. The child is now over 2 years old. She was held for 72-hour observation on average once every 3 months. Constant shoplifter, abused Rx medications, and would cheat on occasion. The stealing and drug-use was accompanied by remarks, for example, "I stole cause you don't give me enough money," or "prescription medications are fine because doctors prescribe them," and "I did it cause you didn't pay enough attention to me." I was working 40+ hours a week, going to school full time, and still taking her to 4 therapy sessions …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 4 of 4

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Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3. Names have been changed.  My birthday, one year and one day after he moved in. I asked if we could go out to celebrate, but he said we had no money. No money? That had never stopped us for the entire year he had been there. I told him we did not need money to go out, we went out all the time with no money. The day of my birthday, he asked if we were going out that night, but I said it didn't sound like he wanted to, as when I tried to make plans earlier, he had no interest. He told me he loved me and wouldn't miss it for the world. I begged him to make his …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 3 of 4

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Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1 and Part 2. Names have been changed.  He said he his parents were coming to California with another couple who were long-time friends. His brother was going too. He would be gone for three days. He took the Jaguar, but said he was parking it at the family's home, as I didn't it want it driven up the mountain. I asked how his trip was when he got home, but he didn't say much. I took the car out and found blush in the car. Cover Girl. It wasn't mine. I was shaking. He lied. How could he??? I got out of the car, went in the house and asked if he had another woman in my car. …

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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 2 of 4

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Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1. Names have been changed.  Hewas calling and texting a lot all day long. He said he was dealing with brokers to close these deals and some of them were overseas, so he had to be available, especially when the Asian markets opened. He did a lot of the work in front of me with his laptop open as we sat on the couch and watched TV. He used Skype to speak to people. The email. It changed my life. “Hi Sexy. I miss you gorgeous. I love you!” Her name was the same as his name. Charlie Lipton. I asked who she was and he said she was some girl he dated three or four times. I asked w …

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No Remorse

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I received a text: I am driving to Middleburg to sign paperwork. If u can sign today we will be done w all this stuff. Want to celebrate? My ex husband sent me this text on June 4, 2013. We'd been in court for most of seven years at that point, first for our divorce and then again when he filed for full custody of two of our three children and requested that I have no visitation. He only wanted the boys. I was working at my computer when the text came in. I looked at the time on the corner of my screen—12:17pm. What, did he want to get a drink? Go out to lunch and blow off the rest of the afternoon together? What exactly did he have in mind? I went back to working and then picked …

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