Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a man whom we'll call "Scott." Scott was involved with a woman who he now believes is a narcissist or sociopath. We'll call her "Valerie." Valerie had a son and told Scott that he was the father, although he had his doubts. The two split up, but Scott supported the boy for 18 years and was active in his life. Then Scott found out that he was not the boy's father, and Valerie is now doing everything she can to keep the boy away from Scott. A father's tragedy I claim you as my son. I claim you as only a father can! However, you don't claim me, the man who raised you. The first time I saw your face your were born in the …
I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 2 of 2)
Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." Read Part 1. I had been asking questions to the family friend about why the guys were either quitting or getting fired within a few weeks. My guy kept blaming them; they started out great but in his eyes they turned out to be lazy. The next day is when I spoke to family friends that had worked for him only to be fired or had quit. He was bullying them and had told them what they did together stayed between them, don't tell me. They confirmed my suspicions, he had a fling with my old neighbor, was talking to other women on the phone, meeting other woman for lunch and kissing them goodbye etc. …
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I was his target for someplace to land, transportation, whatever he needed (Part 1 of 2)
Editor's note: The following story was sent by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Carmella." I met him on the job. He has an extensive background, a felon. He was a very hard worker, very charming, charismatic, exuded an excellent work ethic, polite, respectful, and impresses most with all of these qualities but mostly with work ethic. That is what impressed me, plus his intelligence. I expressed that I hoped he got his life together once he was released because he was too intelligent and hardworking to have allowed himself to get into this trouble. Once I made that statement, it was on. He was very aggressive in being polite, a gentleman, always there to help me and talk to me. He …
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American Sniper: Sheep, wolves and sheepdogs
American Sniper, starring Bradley Cooper and directed by Clint Eastwood, is one very intense movie. It tells the story of Chris Kyle, the Navy SEAL sniper with 160 officially confirmed kills, although in his memoir of the same title Kyle says he probably killed twice that number. Regardless of what Lovefraud readers may think about war, guns, the military, Iraq, etc., I want to talk about one scene from the beginning of the movie. In the scene, Chris Kyle is a boy of perhaps 11 or 12, sitting at the dinner table with his family. Earlier in the day, he got into a fight to protect his younger brother. Kyle's father uses the incident to gravely address his boys. He says: “There are three …
Telepathic experience with a sociopath: ‘It was an absolute terror’
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Clint." You have heard the story hundreds of times. I was a naive do-gooder with a new friend that i just could not figure out. Last night, he explained himself to me in way I would not have believed possible. A little background on me: I am an engineer/scientist in my education and way of thinking. I do not believe anything that cannot be proven in a controlled experiment or supported by scientific data. I do not believe in magic, ghosts, ESP, UFO's, voodoo, witchcraft, good & evil, etc. etc. That is until last night. I realize now that i should not dismiss things not fully understood. I met a 23 …
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Childhood adversity and psychiatric disorders affect our cells
New research suggests that cells can be affected, and the aging process accelerated, by childhood adversity or psychiatric disorders at any age. "Stress exposure and psychiatirc conditions are associated with inflammation and health conditions like diabetes and heart disease," said the study's author, Audrey Tyrka, M.D., Ph.D., as reported by MedicalExpress.com. Connection between childhood adversity and psychiatric disorders seen at cellular level, on Medical Express.com. Thanks to the Lovefraud reader who recently posted this link in a comment. …
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She told me to give her money or stay out of our child’s life
Editor's note: The following story was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Sebastian." Dated a female sociopath over 3-4 years and have a child with her. The child is now over 2 years old. She was held for 72-hour observation on average once every 3 months. Constant shoplifter, abused Rx medications, and would cheat on occasion. The stealing and drug-use was accompanied by remarks, for example, "I stole cause you don't give me enough money," or "prescription medications are fine because doctors prescribe them," and "I did it cause you didn't pay enough attention to me." I was working 40+ hours a week, going to school full time, and still taking her to 4 therapy sessions …
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Latest trend: Hiring private investigators to check out your new love interest
Last weekend the Wall Street Journal wrote about the booming new line of work for private investigators: Checking out potential romantic partners. Word is finally getting out that online dating profiles can be full of lies, and many people use dating sites to find potential scam victims. The WSJ article cites the case one divorced woman in her 50s who got a background search on her new boyfriend. It turned out that the guy had served a prison sentence for murder, which he neglected to tell the woman. Web sends lovers flocking to private eyes to find out truth, on WSJ.com. Note: If the above link doesn't work, try plugging the following into Google: Web sends lovers flocking to …
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Psychopathy can run in families – a possible warning for you
Lovefraud recently received the following request in an email: My husband's psychopathy was never diagnosed as far as I know, but some years after we married and her second suicide attempt that I knew of, he told me his mother had been diagnosed as a psychopathic manic depressive. Maybe you could give your readers 'a heads up and how to' on finding out as much as possible about the in-laws' medical conditions before marriage, better yet sound them out before becoming emotionally entangled? This is a great suggestion, so thank you to this Lovefraud reader. Here's my basic advice: Understand that psychopathy can run in families. So if you see or hear about bad or disturbing behavior by …
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Why am I not trusting the love of my life? Part 4 of 4
Editor's note: Part 2 of a series submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Laura-Marie." Read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3. Names have been changed. My birthday, one year and one day after he moved in. I asked if we could go out to celebrate, but he said we had no money. No money? That had never stopped us for the entire year he had been there. I told him we did not need money to go out, we went out all the time with no money. The day of my birthday, he asked if we were going out that night, but I said it didn't sound like he wanted to, as when I tried to make plans earlier, he had no interest. He told me he loved me and wouldn't miss it for the world. I begged him to make …
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